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So you just discovered your spouse is having an affair. The doctor just disclosed a diagnosis of a serious medical condition you thought was just a cold. Your life has been turned upside down within seconds and you don’t know what to say, think, or do. A crisis situation is considered any major life event […]

How to: Effectively handle crisis situations using Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Skills

 As children we are taught how to be kind to others, respect others, love others. However, very rarely are we taught how to be kind to ourselves, respect ourselves, love ourselves. When life gets tough, it is easy to be harsh with ourselves. However, it takes an act of courage to love yourself. Struggling with […]

How to Love Yourself (when struggling with mental illness)

Mental Health

Years ago I heard an analogy that has stuck with me.  We are all buckets, containers in which water can be put into.  As we move through life, our buckets get little holes and the water begins to seep out.  This is normal as we experience the stressors of school, jobs, relationships, and other problems […]

8 Strategies to Show Yourself Some Love: Learning the Art of Self-Care as a Teenager

Self-care

We often think as our anxiety as a monster lurking under our bed that only gets bigger as we get older. He feeds on our insecurities, never-ending life stressors, every embarrassing moment we have, and every failed relationship we experience. We become too familiar with that tightness in our chest and inability to breathe. We […]

Your Anxiety Monster is Calling

Anxiety

“I don’t feel very much like Pooh today,” said Pooh. “There, there,” said Piglet. “I’ll bring you tea and honey until you do.”   Loving someone comes with high and low days. Loving someone with a chronic condition or someone going through an extended difficult time can come with its own set of highs and […]

How to Support Someone Going Through An Emotionally Difficult Time: Tea and Honey – Part Two

Women's Issues

Your alarm clock goes off in the morning after a night of restless tossing and turning. You slowly get out of bed and feel “off”. Showering is exhausting, and getting dressed takes so much energy that you’re ready to crawl right back into bed. You think to yourself – “why bother? Nobody is going to […]

When the Outside Doesn’t Match the Inside: Part Two

Women's Issues

When the outside doesn't match the inside

When we think of self-care, the most obvious thing to consider is if you are eating right, exercising, and getting enough sleep.  Although this is very important to overall self-care, there are several other areas of your life to consider as well. Just like when you are flying on an airplane and it is suggested […]

5 Things to Consider When Assessing Your Self-Care

Adult Counseling

Tea and Honey “I don’t feel very much like Pooh today,” said Pooh. “There, there,” said Piglet. “I’ll bring you tea and honey until you do. Which one do you relate the most to? For me, it fluctuates. Sometimes I’m piglet, being the person offering the support. Sometimes I’m Pooh, when I’m just feeling down […]

How to Support Someone Going through An Emotionally Difficult Time – Part One

Adult Counseling

One big factor that drives couples to seek counseling is the disappointment they feel in how their relationship has developed over the years. They enter the relationship with certain expectations and goals in mind. As they find themselves drifting farther away from what they believed the relationship would be like, a sense of frustration arises. […]

Myth-Busters: Relationships Edition

Couples Counseling

“[…]  Pessimists can learn the skills of optimism and permanently improve the quality of their lives.” – Martin Seligman. Ph.D. My previous blog, Why Optimism Matters, established that optimism is pretty darn important. It can have a lasting impact on your health and overall well-being. Our mindset is powerful! Now that we recognize the importance […]

How to Incorporate Optimism: Step 1

Adult Counseling