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One big factor that drives couples to seek counseling is the disappointment they feel in how their relationship has developed over the years. They enter the relationship with certain expectations and goals in mind. As they find themselves drifting farther away from what they believed the relationship would be like, a sense of frustration arises. […]

Myth-Busters: Relationships Edition

Today, we will continue the series on the evaluation and treatment of  marital conflict examining another part of the marital dyad. Triangles, a term coined by Murray Bowen, refers to the idea that a two-person emotional system is unstable. When under stress, partners tend to draw in a third party to stabilize the relationship. Meaning, […]

Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Triangles

Couples Counseling

You’re an introvert, they’re an extrovert. You need quiet when you first wake up, they need loud audio stimulation. Your idea of a date night is a quiet evening, their idea is a night on the town. I often see opposites attracted to each other. Someone quick to anger is paired with someone who stays […]

Opposites attract, but do they last?

Couples Counseling

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation – covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time – covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts – covered in my blog here! 4) Physical Touch 5) Acts of Service If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you […]

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Physical Touch

Couples Counseling

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation – covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time – covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Physical Touch If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love […]

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Receiving Gifts

Couples Counseling

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation – covered in my last blog here! 2) Quality Time 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Physical Touch If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by taking […]

Now You’re Speaking my Love- Language: Quality Time

Couples Counseling

Brene Brown expertly addresses her lifetime of work researching shame, vulnerability, courage, connection, and empathy in her audio book, The Power of Vulnerability.  Her words effortlessly transition between personal reflection and case studies. She revealed that our connection to others relies on one’s ability to become his or her authentic self. As a counseling intern, I […]

The Power of Connection – Part 1

Adult Counseling

Imagine that you’re visiting another country and you find yourself lost. You go up to the next person you see and, in clear, perfect English, ask for directions. The person also responds clearly and perfectly – but in their own language. You both go back-and-forth for a few minutes, trying to get the other person […]

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Words of Affirmation

Couples Counseling

Several years ago, I bought a book on solution-focused therapy. I found a lot of great techniques that could be utilized by most counselors AND clients. However, there was something in the book that has always held my attention. The authors write an example of an athlete who was battling through the longest slump of […]

Breaking Out of that Slump

Couples Counseling

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second sees them self as a full vessel eagerly waiting to pour into their marriage. This blog addresses the former. This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that […]

Your Spouse Is Inadequate

Couples Counseling

Spouse holding hands