We often find ourselves on auto-pilot or in survival mode after we go through drastic life changes. The world is just passing us by as we go through the motions of life while on auto-pilot mode. We aren’t living our best lives and are just meeting the bear minimum requirements of life. This often leaves us with the least of what the world has to offer us. At the same time, we accept the weight of the world for our shoulders to bear. The inability to balance our input and output for others leaves us vulnerable and confused. It takes away our opportunity to live while we enable others to live their best life.

These are common occurrences if you have been identifying yourself based on your job, social organization, your family’s opinion, or your age.  This often leads us to the road of rediscovery where reevaluate everything you believed was true. What do you do next? How do you go from lost to found? How do you figure it out?

Forgive yourself

The first thing that you have to do is forgive yourself for giving more of your energy to everything but yourself. Don’t beat yourself up for being invested in your work, being a parent, or good family member.

Be honest

Be honest about what you have been doing for other people and how it made you feel. Take time to discover what you need do for yourself.

Revaluate why

Think about why you do the things you do. What do you really enjoy? What is just a part of your routine? If you don’t know why you do something, stop doing it. Concentrate on the things that actually have meaning.

Experience Freely

Take every opportunity to explore your feelings in the present moment. How are you feeling right now? What feels good about this minute, second and what can you do to amplify it.

Think about yourself

Be utterly selfish in your approach to happiness. Schedule things for you and discover new things about yourself. Create the best life for you right now and plan to make it better for you in the here and now.

If you are having trouble figuring out life, feel free to call Amy Wine Counseling Center at 832-421-8714.