Webster’s simple definition of Priority is:
something that is more important than other things and that needs to be done or dealt with first
priorities : the things that someone cares about and thinks are important
- the condition of being more important than something or someone else and therefore coming or being dealt with first
What is your definition of Priority?
Take a mental walk through your last year, specifically the past few months, what were your highlights, low points, things that stand out. Jot them all down. Go back to each one and ask yourself these questions:
- What do you need to change?
- What do you want to maintain?
- What could you improve upon?
As I was in the middle of writing this post, a friend sent me a copy of a Facebook post by Author, Jen Hatmaker. I feel I couldn’t have said it any better so here is what she had to say:
“As you move into 2016 hoping for a saner schedule that prioritizes your actual life and keeps you focused on the things that matter the most, let me share the decision-making filter my agent Curtis always gives me: “If it’s not a HELL YES, then it’s a no.”
So that medium yes, that I-feel-like-should yes, that guilty yes, that coerced yes, that I-actually-hate-this-thing yes, that I-guess-so yes, that who-else-will-do-it yes, that careless yes, that default yes, that resentful yes, that I-probably-shouldn’t-but-struggle-with-boundaries yes?
No thank you. I am unable to commit to that this year. Thank you so much for asking, but any new yes I give right now means a no to my family and sanity. I am so flattered you asked and count on my prayers, but I am at my maximum bandwidth right now. I appreciate your work so much, but I’ve already committed my time and energy this year. I’ve loved being a part of this, but I am no longer able to continue. We are aggressively focused on x, y, and z this year, so as a family we’ve agreed on no new commitments. This is what I can give but won’t be able to do more right now.
Now, the things that make your heart race, your blood pump, the fire in your belly burn, your gifts to leap to life, and keep your family and home healthy and strong…the hell yeses? ALL IN, BABY.” – Jen Hatmaker
Whew, doesn’t that just feel good to read and think about all the possibilities for changing your priorities. I wish it were that easy, for some it is, but for most it is very difficult to say NO! I personally know how hard it is. Many years back I took one year off from everything I was doing for others (church, kids schools, friends, etc.) I lost a lot of “friends” that year simply because I started saying no. I also began asking my children directly if it was important to them for me to be there. “There” meaning the event, school reader, working in the library, church leader, etc. I was surprised to find that most of the things I thought I was doing for my children, they really didn’t even care about. I love the quote below as it just sums it up perfectly! Best wishes on defining your priorities.