Codependency is a learned conduct that is often passed down through generations. It affects an individual’s ability to have healthy relationships. Relationships that have substance abuse, chronic mental illness, or dysfunctional behaviors are co-dependent.
Enmeshment is very similar to co-dependency. Personal boundaries in a relationship are blurred. An over-concern for others leads to a loss of independence. Enmeshment will lead to co-dependency and an unhealthy attachment.
There are certain characters of those who have co-dependent personality traits. Knowledge of these signs is important in order to be self-aware and pick a healthy partner. Some features of co-dependent personality include:
A sense of responsibility for others’ actions.
A tendency to confuse pity for love.
Does more than their share.
Does anything to hold-on to the relationship.
A lack of trust.
A fear of abandonment.
A sense of guilt when asserting self.
A hard time naming and understanding feelings.
Has poor communication skills.
Has difficulty with decision-making.
The Good News
A co-dependent personality is generally founded in an individual’s childhood. Therefore, early childhood issues and destructive relationship patterns are examined in either individual or group therapy. The focus of treatment is getting in-touch with underlying feelings related to both healthy and unhealthy actions. The goal is to experience positive thoughts in order to help reconstruct relationships and family dynamics.
The first step in changing any unhealthy relationship and behavior pattern is to understand them. This change is necessary in order to get back to a healthy bond, attachment, and relationship. Reaching out for information and assistance can help someone live a healthier, more fulfilling life.
Please do not hesitate to reach out to us at 832.421.8714. for more information on co-dependency, enmeshment, or any other mental health issue. We are all in this together!