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Marriage Counseling

The Affair Series: Atonement

Affairs don’t always have to mean the end of a relationship. In fact, there is research that indicates that sometimes couples come back stronger after recovering through the affair. According to lead researchers John and Julie Gottman, there are three phases to affair recovery. The three phases are: Atonement, Attunement, ...

‘Tis Always the Season to be Grateful

Now that the holidays are in full swing, everyone is definitely feeling a little more festive, merrier, and happier. Let’s be honest, it’s a LOT easier to show gratitude and appreciation during this time of year, right? (It’s OK – a lot of people feel the same way!) What I ...

“How’s Your Day Going?” – How to Connect with your Partner

Typical Email Exchange: “How’s your day going love?”  “It’s going, you?”  “Same, I miss you.”  “Miss you too, what are dinner plans?”  The above is pretty much a copy/paste from regular interactions with my spouse. Nothing negative, and it helps me feel connected, but I know that I sometimes miss ...

How to Deepen Your Relationship, Part I

If you stop for a moment and take a good look at the relationship you have with your partner, are you connecting on a deep and intimate level?  Or do you find that over time, you’ve grown apart?   This happens often in long term relationships.  Marriage, careers, kids, activities, laundry, ...

The Affair Series: The Windows and Walls of Affair Relationships

Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli, in their book Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity, reference how affairs occur to relationships that seem apparently solid by illustrating relationship “walls and windows”. If we can think of a marriage as a House of windows and walls ...

From Roommates to Reconnection

“I feel so disconnected from my partner.” “We have different lives, like passing ships.” “It’s like we’re not even married anymore; we’re just roommates.” I hear these difficult words all too frequently in my work with couples. It is heart-breaking to realize the distance that has grown in your relationship ...

Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy

To start off this month’s blog, I want to ask you an important question. In your everyday life, how much time you do you actually spend with your partner? Not just being around him/her, but actually spending quality time with them and connecting? Compare this to the amount of time ...

Family Tradition

Growing up, my favorite holiday tradition was heading to the Hallmark store and picking out a new ornament for the Christmas tree. I still remember the first ornament I got to pick out. It’s a cute little fox standing on its hind legs, holding a golden 1996. I can’t tell ...
Dating Your Spouse on the Cheap

Dating Your Spouse on a Budget

Fanning the flame of desire in your marriage doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg it can be fun and stay in budget!  Date nights (or days) are about connection and intimacy, not spending the money you should be paying your light bill with.  Dinner and a ...

Steps to Fighting Fair

Typically, when couples disagree, a calm conversation is all that is needed to find common ground and resolve the situation. After all, contrary to popular belief, it is completely HEALTHY and NORMAL to have disagreements in relationships. In fact, disagreements are necessary in order for you to grow as a ...
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