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You often hear that communication in any relationship is key.  There are many resources out there on how to communicate along with some topics to help get you started.  There are even apps for your tablets and smartphones that are solely geared to conversation starters. 

Communication is key, but why?

Have you ever been in a therapy session and your therapist casually drops a phrase you’ve never heard before? “Hold space”? “Sit with a feeling”? You’re sitting there smiling and nodding politely, but you’re probably thinking, “What does that even mean? Who says that?” Being a therapist, these phrases make sense, are easy to say, and have become second nature over my years of practice, so sometimes it’s easy to forget that not everyone speaks “therapist.”

Help! Why Does My Therapist Say That?

Adult Counseling

Therapy session

I often hear statements from one partner that they love the other person, but that they are not “in love” with them. Really, I hear this from nearly every couple. They have lost that loving feeling, so to speak. What is actually happening is that the “newness” of the relationship has worn off. Human nature is rather fickle, and many have the “what have you done for me lately?” attitude when it comes to relationships.

Creating Fondness in Relationships

Relationships

heart drawn in the sand on the beach, being washed away by ocean wave

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:4-5). Marriage is not easy. Sometimes new ideas can enhance our life. Here are a few tips on how to create a peaceful marriage. Feel free to add to this list because every marriage is unique!

8 Steps to Enhance Your Marriage

Couples Counseling

Love is kind

“Conflict in relationships is normal, so how do I know if marriage counseling might help us?”  You may feel like marriage counseling seems too drastic for the need you’re currently managing.  Maybe you’ve only known people to pursue marriage counseling when they’re “really in trouble” and that’s not you!  You guys are doing okay, but […]

When to Consider Marriage Counseling

Marriage Counseling

Difficulty owning your own reality is a crucial symptom to address in the pursuit to overcome codependent-linked thoughts, beliefs, and actions. “Codependents often report that they don’t know who they are.” – Pia Mellody Author and speaker, Pia Mellody, maps out several eye-opening insights in her book Facing Codependence: What it is, Where it comes […]

Codependence: The struggle to own YOUR reality

Adult Counseling

Understanding the 5 stages of change How do you respond to change?  Do you embrace it with all that you have or do you avoid it at all costs?  Can I be honest with you?  Change is inevitable.  And no matter how good you might think you are at avoiding it or ignoring it, we […]

Overcoming the Fear of Change

Anxiety

I love Jesus. And I also struggle. I am no stranger to fear and worry and anxiety. For years I was told things like “just trust God more” and “worry is a sin” and “you should pray more”.  And yet despite a love for the Lord that resonates to the core of who I am, […]

Jesus and Anxiety: faith and struggle are not mutually exclusive

Christian Counseling

According to a recent Gallup poll, 50% of Americans say that their financial situation is getting worse.  The unemployment rate is sitting at 14.7%, the highest rate this country has seen since the days of the Great Depression.  According to nerdwallet.com, a stock market downturn may escalate into a stock market crash following the pandemic […]

Making Mental Health a Priority in the Midst of Financial Uncertainty

Adult Counseling

For most, regional stay-at-home orders have created an opportunity for unprecedented amounts of time at home with our partners. This scenario will unequivocally yield to more time to interact with one another. Interactions vary in some degree. Perhaps there is more emphasis on completing household tasks together or engagement in mutual hobbies. One thing that […]

Conversations in Isolation

Couples Counseling