Marriage Counseling

The Affair Series: Attunement

After an affair, and during affair recovery, we follow three steps in counseling: atonement, attunement, and re-attachment. During attunement, couples have decided that they can move forward with forgiveness, ready to stop blaming the partner that was involved in infidelity.  Step 3:  Attunement Many trust building behaviors occur in this ...

Celebrating the Holidays as an Interfaith Couple

Holidays Can Work with an Interfaith Couple The holidays are a wonderful time of celebration, giving, and spending time with family. However, for some they're also a time of great stress; especially when you don’t see eye-to-eye with your and you practice a different set of beliefs all together. Being ...

The Affair Series: Atonement

Affairs don’t always have to mean the end of a relationship. In fact, there is research that indicates that sometimes couples come back stronger after recovering through the affair. According to lead researchers John and Julie Gottman, there are three phases to affair recovery. The three phases are: Atonement, Attunement, ...

‘Tis Always the Season to be Grateful

Now that the holidays are in full swing, everyone is definitely feeling a little more festive, merrier, and happier. Let’s be honest, it’s a LOT easier to show gratitude and appreciation during this time of year, right? (It’s OK – a lot of people feel the same way!) What I ...

“How’s Your Day Going?” – How to Connect with your Partner

Typical Email Exchange: “How’s your day going love?”  “It’s going, you?”  “Same, I miss you.”  “Miss you too, what are dinner plans?”  The above is pretty much a copy/paste from regular interactions with my spouse. Nothing negative, and it helps me feel connected, but I know that I sometimes miss ...

How to Deepen Your Relationship, Part I

If you stop for a moment and take a good look at the relationship you have with your partner, are you connecting on a deep and intimate level?  Or do you find that over time, you’ve grown apart?   This happens often in long term relationships.  Marriage, careers, kids, activities, laundry, ...

The Affair Series: The Windows and Walls of Affair Relationships

Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli, in their book Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity, reference how affairs occur to relationships that seem apparently solid by illustrating relationship “walls and windows”. If we can think of a marriage as a House of windows and walls ...

From Roommates to Reconnection

“I feel so disconnected from my partner.” “We have different lives, like passing ships.” “It’s like we’re not even married anymore; we’re just roommates.” I hear these difficult words all too frequently in my work with couples. It is heart-breaking to realize the distance that has grown in your relationship ...

Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy

To start off this month’s blog, I want to ask you an important question. In your everyday life, how much time you do you actually spend with your partner? Not just being around him/her, but actually spending quality time with them and connecting? Compare this to the amount of time ...

Family Tradition

Growing up, my favorite holiday tradition was heading to the Hallmark store and picking out a new ornament for the Christmas tree. I still remember the first ornament I got to pick out. It’s a cute little fox standing on its hind legs, holding a golden 1996. I can’t tell ...
Scroll to Top