Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy

To start off this month’s blog, I want to ask you an important question. In your everyday life, how much time you do you actually spend with your partner? Not just being around him/her, but actually spending quality time with them and connecting? Compare this to the amount of time you used to spend with [Read more...]

Are You A Conversational Narcissist?

Naturally, most human beings love to talk about themselves.  It is a pleasurable experience to tell others our interests, hobbies, and what we had for lunch. What if we find ourselves turning every conversation into another story about us? What Is A Conversational Narcissist? Sociologist, Charles Derber, coined the term Conversational Narcissist to describe a [Read more...]

Harry Potter and Moving Past Biology

“It matters not what someone is born but what they grow to be”- Albus Dumbledore Choice I have talked a lot about choice in this series. I think it is an important part of self-development. Choice is something that we forget about when we are stuck in a depressive rut. I like to think of [Read more...]

Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 2

So, let’s say a spouse is already in an emotional deficit and has chosen to not have the conversation mentioned in part 1 with their partner. Now, they experience the feeling they’ve identified as missing from their partner with someone else during their day. It’s like a drug. It’s an addictive experience. Author, Karen Young, [Read more...]

Our Daily Trauma Intake

A recent study at Duke University posed an interesting question: what is your daily trauma intake?  Think about it. You wake up, check the news and what is the first thing that you hear or see? Destruction, shootings, death, poverty, war. That is just before breakfast.  You obviously need to know what is going on [Read more...]

Helping Helps

A new year is here and we all have resolutions. These resolutions include a lot of personal goals. For example, being more sociable, getting a better job, or more physically active. We think about the possibilities of life that could benefit us in the present and the future. However, volunteering never crosses our mind. The [Read more...]

Harry Potter and the Invisible Scars

“According to Madam Pomfrey, thoughts could leave deeper scarring than almost anything else”- J. K. Rowling Battling Thoughts I think anyone who has struggled with their mental health can relate to the idea that sometimes your thoughts can cause as much or more damage than a jab to the ribs. The old adage “sticks and [Read more...]

Is Sex Last on Your To-Do List?

It’s a common misconception that sex is supposed to be the easy part of marriage. Wouldn’t it be amazing if sex was always carefree and full of pleasure? If there weren't any kind of expectations or negative feelings involved? Unfortunately, I think a small part of each of us believes this is how sex is [Read more...]

Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 1

Temptation I loved sports cards when I was in the 4th grade; collected, traded, and talked about them in class. I also combed through many Beckett price guides trying to figure out how much they’re worth (anyone else remember combing through a Beckett?). One day I was browsing various card packages at K-Mart when I [Read more...]

Mindfulness and Resolutions

Like many of you, most of my conversations in the last week or so have been focused on resolutions for 2019. What am I going to change or make better? What am I going to leave behind in 2018? How am I going to be the best I can be? What am I looking forward [Read more...]