When the Outside Doesn’t Match the Inside: Part Two

Your alarm clock goes off in the morning after a night of restless tossing and turning. You slowly get out of bed and feel “off”. Showering is exhausting, and getting dressed takes so much energy that you’re ready to crawl right back into bed. You think to yourself – “why bother? Nobody is going [Read more...]

5 Things to Consider When Assessing Your Self-Care

When we think of self-care, the most obvious thing to consider is if you are eating right, exercising, and getting enough sleep.  Although this is very important to overall self-care, there are several other areas of your life to consider as well. Just like when you are flying on an airplane and it is suggested [Read more...]

What do Pulling Weeds and Therapy have in Common?

I like to bring metaphors into therapy. It is often helpful to relate a client's internal emotions to tangible things that are known concretely. My family was pulling weeds in our backyard and I got to thinking. The work of getting rid of the weeds is a lot like tending to ourselves in therapy.  3 [Read more...]

How to Incorporate Optimism: Step 1

“[…]  Pessimists can learn the skills of optimism and permanently improve the quality of their lives.” – Martin Seligman. Ph.D. My previous blog, Why Optimism Matters, established that optimism is pretty darn important. It can have a lasting impact on your health and overall well-being. Our mindset is powerful! Now that we recognize the [Read more...]

Remember Your Success

Does it feel like you’ve been doing your best and making all the right choices, but life is not going in your favor?  It is natural to go through these moments; they happen to everyone! It is important to remember your success in these moments. It’s easy to become discouraged when the times we were [Read more...]

By |2019-06-18T10:36:45-06:00June 18th, 2019|Anxiety, Coping Skills, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Self-care, Stress|Comments Off on Remember Your Success

Strength in Vulnerability

Many of us are plagued with feeling like we are not enough, no matter what we accomplish. It’s easy to become envious of others while feeling you’re falling short; wondering why we don’t deserve success or happiness. Love for ourselves and others can alleviate that deeply rooted worry. What is Love? Love paradoxically seems [Read more...]

By |2019-06-17T07:49:15-06:00June 10th, 2019|Anxiety, Coping Skills, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Peer Relationships, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Strength in Vulnerability

The Sandwich Generation

When my mom became ill after my father died, I did not have a lot of options.  My husband and I decided to move her into our home. We could assist her with costs and care so she could help us with our young children while I went back to graduate school.  Although, as the [Read more...]

By |2019-06-10T07:35:36-06:00June 6th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Boundaries, Coping Skills, Depression, Family, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Parenting, Self-care, Stress|Comments Off on The Sandwich Generation

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Acts of Service

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation - covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time - covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts - covered in my blog here! 4) Physical Touch- covered in my blog here! 5) Acts of Service If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t [Read more...]

By |2019-05-28T08:16:40-06:00May 28th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Acts of Service

Getting Lost and Finding Yourself: Stepping Outside of Your Teenage Shell

I recently had a young girl cry as she told me that no matter how hard she tries, she will never be like the girls in her school. All she sees when she looks in the mirror is how she stands out. Adults typically find this easy to write off as temporary teen angst, [Read more...]

By |2019-05-28T08:46:07-06:00May 22nd, 2019|Anxiety, Coping Skills, Mental Health, Motivation, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress, Teen Counseling|Comments Off on Getting Lost and Finding Yourself: Stepping Outside of Your Teenage Shell

3 Tips on How to Use a Mantra to Shift Your Thinking

“I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggonit, people like me!”  If you are an SNL fan, you will recognize these words of affirmation from satirist and comedian, Al Franken on his skit, Daily Affirmation by Stuart Smalley.  They must have used the word “mantra” on the show at some point. Several people referenced the [Read more...]

By |2019-05-21T13:21:07-06:00May 21st, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anger, Anxiety, Coping Skills, Depression, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on 3 Tips on How to Use a Mantra to Shift Your Thinking