Ask a Boring Question, Get a Boring Response.

20 questions to ask our children instead of, “How was your day?” What response do you get when you ask your children how their day was?  Do you get eye rolls? Is a long, drawn out, and dramatic sigh let out? Maybe they just walk away and pretend they didn’t even hear you?  Or maybe [Read more...]

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language

Words of Affirmation Imagine that you’re visiting another country and you find yourself lost. You go up to the next person you see and, in clear, perfect English, ask for directions. The person also responds clearly and perfectly – but in their own language. You both go back-and-forth for a few minutes, trying to get [Read more...]

Psychological shock

Psychological shock, or mental shock, is a condition in response to a traumatic event. The shock comes from witnessing a traumatic event that induces a strong emotional response within an individual.   Emotional Symptoms -Shock, denial, or disbelief. -Confusion and difficulty concentrating. -Anger, irritability, and mood swings. -Anxiety and fear. -Withdrawing from others. -Feeling sad or [Read more...]

Parenting Success begins with You

It almost seems inevitable that, as a parent, you feel as though you are failing your children. I am sure you often wonder where you fall on the proverbial scale of successful parenting. It is easy to fall into the trap of comparison and to attribute your child's shortcomings onto yourself. I have personally spent [Read more...]

Video Games

I had the pleasure of having dinner with a good friend and his wife. Now, full disclosure, he is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  He is also married with two children. His oldest son was a complete gentleman. He engaged in the conversation and was just completely great to be around. During our conversation, [Read more...]

Connect, Then Redirect.

Parenting is not easy. No one can deny that truth. One of the main concerns parents and couples have involves disciplining their child. No Drama- Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson is a book that tackles the topic of discipling your child. What is discipline? When you think about discipline, what first comes [Read more...]

Self-Care: Spring Cleaning For Your Mind

When you hear the phrase “spring cleaning,” you probably envision the dirt and dust that has accumulated in your living space. You may even imagine a big pile of stuff that you can toss out or donate. The yearly spring cleaning practice follows the belief that if we clean up our external world, then our [Read more...]

Harry Potter and the Meaning of Suffering

“Harry, suffering like this proves you are still a man! This pain is part of being human… the fact that you can feel pain like this is your greatest strength” Emotions While this may seem counter intuitive, sometimes the way we know we are prospering as humans is through our ability to feel and experience [Read more...]

Parenting Out of Fear

"Where Fear Is, Happiness Is Not" –Author Unknown I remember the day I brought my first child home from the hospital after giving birth.  I looked down at that little baby and vowed to myself that I would keep her safe for as long as I lived.  While watching her sleep at night, I would [Read more...]

Your Spouse Is Inadequate

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second sees them self as a full vessel eagerly waiting to pour into their marriage. This blog addresses the former. This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that [Read more...]