Harry Potter and Numb Feelings

“Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.” Coping When I read this quote, I think about coping mechanisms. A coping mechanism is something that you do in order to help deal with stress. Some harmful coping mechanisms include: self-harming, risk-taking behavior, binge eating,  isolating yourself, or numbing [Read more...]

Video Games

I had the pleasure of having dinner with a good friend and his wife. Now, full disclosure, he is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  He is also married with two children. His oldest son was a complete gentleman. He engaged in the conversation and was just completely great to be around. During our conversation, [Read more...]

Self-Care: Spring Cleaning For Your Mind

When you hear the phrase “spring cleaning,” you probably envision the dirt and dust that has accumulated in your living space. You may even imagine a big pile of stuff that you can toss out or donate. The yearly spring cleaning practice follows the belief that if we clean up our external world, then our [Read more...]

Harry Potter and the Meaning of Suffering

“Harry, suffering like this proves you are still a man! This pain is part of being human… the fact that you can feel pain like this is your greatest strength” Emotions While this may seem counter intuitive, sometimes the way we know we are prospering as humans is through our ability to feel and experience [Read more...]

Beyond Baby Blues: Part 2

Awareness of mental health interventions are incredibly important for new mothers who show symptoms of Postpartum Depression (PPD) or Perinatal Depression. There are several factors that affect the rate at which help is sought. These factors are generally referred to as barriers to care. According to the Texas Children’s Hospital/Baylor College of Medicine’s Department of [Read more...]

Your Spouse Is Inadequate

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second sees them self as a full vessel eagerly waiting to pour into their marriage. This blog addresses the former. This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that [Read more...]

Your Love Life in the Year of the Pig: Part 2

For most of us, the holiday festivities are long gone and we’re already weeks deep into the new year. This year, the Lunar New Year started on February 5th, 2019, and it also marked the beginning of the Year of the Pig. Yes, you heard right – Year of the Pig! Similar to sun/mood signs [Read more...]

Caring for the Mess-Maker

My toddler recently got the stomach bug. Even worse, he projectile vomited all over the rug in front of a friend that was at my house for the first time. Later that day, I was giving him a bath without having first finished cleaning up all of the accidents around the house. That’s when it hit [Read more...]

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Guilt and Shame: Is it All the Same?

Understanding the difference between guilt and shame The two most confusing emotions I encounter in my sessions are guilt and shame.  I think that it is crucial to know the major differences between them because they're commonly used interchangeably. You have a better chance of overcoming these negative emotions once you understand the difference between [Read more...]

By |2019-02-13T10:23:53+00:00February 13th, 2019|Anxiety, Coping Skills, Depression, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Guilt and Shame: Is it All the Same?

Givers, Takers, and Matchers

The best lessons for marriage can sometimes come from resources unrelated to the topic. For example, Adam Grant wrote an intriguing book called Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. This book is intended for a business audience, but I also believe there are crossover elements for intimate relationships. His theories detail 3 categories of [Read more...]