Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language

Words of Affirmation Imagine that you’re visiting another country and you find yourself lost. You go up to the next person you see and, in clear, perfect English, ask for directions. The person also responds clearly and perfectly – but in their own language. You both go back-and-forth for a few minutes, trying to get [Read more...]

Your Spouse Is Inadequate

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second sees them self as a full vessel eagerly waiting to pour into their marriage. This blog addresses the former. This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that [Read more...]

Givers, Takers, and Matchers

The best lessons for marriage can sometimes come from resources unrelated to the topic. For example, Adam Grant wrote an intriguing book called Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. This book is intended for a business audience, but I also believe there are crossover elements for intimate relationships. His theories detail 3 categories of [Read more...]

Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy

To start off this month’s blog, I want to ask you an important question. In your everyday life, how much time you do you actually spend with your partner? Not just being around him/her, but actually spending quality time with them and connecting? Compare this to the amount of time you used to spend with [Read more...]

By |2019-01-22T15:39:42+00:00January 22nd, 2019|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Life Balance, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy

Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 2

So, let’s say a spouse is already in an emotional deficit and has chosen to not have the conversation mentioned in part 1 with their partner. Now, they experience the feeling they’ve identified as missing from their partner with someone else during their day. It’s like a drug. It’s an addictive experience. Author, Karen Young, [Read more...]

By |2019-01-09T13:30:53+00:00January 9th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anger, Anxiety, Communication, Couples Counseling, Infidelity, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 2

Is Sex Last on Your To-Do List?

It’s a common misconception that sex is supposed to be the easy part of marriage. Wouldn’t it be amazing if sex was always carefree and full of pleasure? If there weren't any kind of expectations or negative feelings involved? Unfortunately, I think a small part of each of us believes this is how sex is [Read more...]

Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 1

Temptation I loved sports cards when I was in the 4th grade; collected, traded, and talked about them in class. I also combed through many Beckett price guides trying to figure out how much they’re worth (anyone else remember combing through a Beckett?). One day I was browsing various card packages at K-Mart when I [Read more...]

By |2019-01-07T17:42:27+00:00January 7th, 2019|Communication, Couples Counseling, Infidelity, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 1

Loving Freely

This is a concept that’s hard for people to understand and equally hard to write about. The truth is that most people love in a way that’s comfortable to them. We protect ourselves by letting people get just close enough but not close enough to hurt us. We hide behind layers of ourselves to hide [Read more...]

By |2018-12-28T14:01:11+00:00December 28th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Loving Freely

How Much Sex Is Normal In A Marriage?

When sex is an issue in a relationship (it more than likely will be in all relationships) I often hear this question… How often should we be having sex? Great question! I’m glad you asked. It’s completely normal to wonder if you are having more or less sex than other couples, but it’s a difficult [Read more...]

By |2018-12-10T13:51:48+00:00December 10th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Sex Therapy, Women's Issues|Comments Off on How Much Sex Is Normal In A Marriage?

Family Tradition

Growing up, my favorite holiday tradition was heading to the Hallmark store and picking out a new ornament for the Christmas tree. I still remember the first ornament I got to pick out. It’s a cute little fox standing on its hind legs, holding a golden 1996. I can’t tell you why I picked it, [Read more...]

By |2018-12-18T16:37:08+00:00December 6th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Family, Holidays, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health|Comments Off on Family Tradition