Myth-Busters: Relationships Edition

One big factor that drives couples to seek counseling is the disappointment they feel in how their relationship has developed over the years. They enter the relationship with certain expectations and goals in mind. As they find themselves drifting farther away from what they believed the relationship would be like, a sense of frustration arises. [Read more...]

By |2019-07-09T16:31:29-06:00July 3rd, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Myth-Busters: Relationships Edition

Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Triangles

Today, we will continue the series on the evaluation and treatment of  marital conflict examining another part of the marital dyad. Triangles, a term coined by Murray Bowen, refers to the idea that a two-person emotional system is unstable. When under stress, partners tend to draw in a third party to stabilize the relationship. Meaning, [Read more...]

By |2019-06-03T14:27:59-06:00May 28th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Family, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Stress, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Triangles

Opposites attract, but do they last?

You’re an introvert, they’re an extrovert. You need quiet when you first wake up, they need loud audio stimulation. Your idea of a date night is a quiet evening, their idea is a night on the town. I often see opposites attracted to each other. Someone quick to anger is paired with someone who stays [Read more...]

By |2019-05-28T13:20:32-06:00May 21st, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anger, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Opposites attract, but do they last?

Why Your Relationship is Stealthily Unhealthy

  Most people's ideal relationship includes having respect, unconditional acceptance, equality, honesty, and love. The list goes on. Oftentimes, relationships look more like this: “You never think about how your behavior affects other people. You’re selfish!” Sound familiar? Criticism is an attack that dismantles your partner. When we think of unhealthy relationships, we often think [Read more...]

By |2019-05-08T16:33:25-06:00May 6th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Mental Health, Motivation, Stress|Comments Off on Why Your Relationship is Stealthily Unhealthy

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Receiving Gifts

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation - covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time - covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Physical Touch If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love [Read more...]

Now You’re Speaking my Love- Language: Quality Time

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation – covered in my last blog here! 2) Quality Time 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Physical Touch If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by taking [Read more...]

By |2019-04-08T14:33:25-06:00April 8th, 2019|Communication, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Life Balance, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Self-Esteem|Comments Off on Now You’re Speaking my Love- Language: Quality Time

The Power of Connection – Part 1

Brene Brown expertly addresses her lifetime of work researching shame, vulnerability, courage, connection, and empathy in her audio book, The Power of Vulnerability.  Her words effortlessly transition between personal reflection and case studies. She revealed that our connection to others relies on one’s ability to become his or her authentic self. As a counseling intern, I [Read more...]

By |2019-04-04T09:07:31-06:00March 21st, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Intimacy, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on The Power of Connection – Part 1

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Words of Affirmation

Imagine that you’re visiting another country and you find yourself lost. You go up to the next person you see and, in clear, perfect English, ask for directions. The person also responds clearly and perfectly – but in their own language. You both go back-and-forth for a few minutes, trying to get the other person [Read more...]

By |2019-04-22T16:34:44-06:00March 19th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Words of Affirmation

Breaking Out of that Slump

Several years ago, I bought a book on solution-focused therapy. I found a lot of great techniques that could be utilized by most counselors AND clients. However, there was something in the book that has always held my attention. The authors write an example of an athlete who was battling through the longest slump of [Read more...]

By |2019-03-28T07:52:50-06:00February 22nd, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Coping Skills, Intimacy, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Breaking Out of that Slump

Your Spouse Is Inadequate

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second sees them self as a full vessel eagerly waiting to pour into their marriage. This blog addresses the former. This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that [Read more...]