Surviving Back to School… While Married!

Back to School... Pursuing higher education is stressful, but sometimes, it’s a plunge you just have to take – whether it’s to finish something you started years ago and finally get that degree, or as a means to break through a salary ceiling and provide stability and a more comfortable lifestyle for your family. It [Read more...]

An Open Letter to My Psychotherapy Clients

You walk into my office thinking I’m the expert. You glance at my diplomas, license, and certificates. While yes, I am the therapist; you are the expert of your own life.  My job is to facilitate awareness as we dismantle mistaken beliefs you’ve developed, to empower you to gain control over your life, and to [Read more...]

By |2019-08-13T15:03:20-06:00August 13th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Couples Counseling, Life Balance, Marriage Counseling, Self-care, Teen Counseling, Women's Issues|Comments Off on An Open Letter to My Psychotherapy Clients

Relationship-ocalypse: How To Be a “Honeymoon Period” Survivor

Is the Honeymoon Period a Real Thing? The biggest early obstacle to any relationship is one that few ever see coming: the dreaded end of the Honeymoon Period. The initial magic starts to fade, the rush you got when your partner entered the room disappears, and everything just seems less exciting. When you're caught up [Read more...]

By |2019-07-23T14:47:09-06:00July 23rd, 2019|Adult Counseling, Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationships, Sex Therapy|Comments Off on Relationship-ocalypse: How To Be a “Honeymoon Period” Survivor

Myth-Busters: Relationships Edition

One big factor that drives couples to seek counseling is the disappointment they feel in how their relationship has developed over the years. They enter the relationship with certain expectations and goals in mind. As they find themselves drifting farther away from what they believed the relationship would be like, a sense of frustration arises. [Read more...]

By |2019-07-09T16:31:29-06:00July 3rd, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Myth-Busters: Relationships Edition

From Roommates to Reconnection

“I feel so disconnected from my partner.” “We have different lives, like passing ships.” “It’s like we’re not even married anymore; we’re just roommates.” I hear these difficult words all too frequently in my work with couples. It is heart-breaking to realize the distance that has grown in your relationship after going through so [Read more...]

By |2019-07-01T15:38:48-06:00June 24th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Life Balance, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on From Roommates to Reconnection

Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Individual Factors

If you are new to this blog, we are following along what Philip J. Guerin, Jr. Leo F. Fay, Susan L. Burden, and Judith Gilbert Kautto wrote about in The Evaluation and Treatment of Marital Conflict. Family system factors, marital dyad factors, and triangle factors that impact marital conflict have been addressed in my [Read more...]

By |2019-06-17T07:56:55-06:00June 10th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Individual Factors

Being Together While Apart: Making Long-Distance Marriage Work

Marriage is a challenging journey all on its own. When you add long-distance into the mix, you may find yourself up against some real "make it or break it" scenarios. Is your spouse in the military? Does your spouse travel frequently for work? How about pursuing a ‘once-in-a-lifetime’ dream this summer? Whatever the reason, there [Read more...]

By |2019-06-05T13:16:18-06:00June 5th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Boundaries, Communication, Couples Counseling, Family, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Being Together While Apart: Making Long-Distance Marriage Work

Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Triangles

Today, we will continue the series on the evaluation and treatment of  marital conflict examining another part of the marital dyad. Triangles, a term coined by Murray Bowen, refers to the idea that a two-person emotional system is unstable. When under stress, partners tend to draw in a third party to stabilize the relationship. Meaning, [Read more...]

By |2019-06-03T14:27:59-06:00May 28th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Family, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Stress, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Triangles

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Acts of Service

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation - covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time - covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts - covered in my blog here! 4) Physical Touch- covered in my blog here! 5) Acts of Service If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t [Read more...]

By |2019-05-28T08:16:40-06:00May 28th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Acts of Service

Opposites attract, but do they last?

You’re an introvert, they’re an extrovert. You need quiet when you first wake up, they need loud audio stimulation. Your idea of a date night is a quiet evening, their idea is a night on the town. I often see opposites attracted to each other. Someone quick to anger is paired with someone who stays [Read more...]

By |2019-05-28T13:20:32-06:00May 21st, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anger, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Opposites attract, but do they last?