Opposites attract, but do they last?

You’re an introvert, they’re an extrovert. You need quiet when you first wake up, they need loud audio stimulation. Your idea of a date night is a quiet evening, their idea is a night on the town. I often see opposites attracted to each other. Someone quick to anger is paired with someone who stays [Read more...]

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Physical Touch

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation - covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time - covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts - covered in my blog here! 4) Physical Touch 5) Acts of Service If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you [Read more...]

Why Your Relationship is Stealthily Unhealthy

  Most people's ideal relationship includes having respect, unconditional acceptance, equality, honesty, and love. The list goes on. Oftentimes, relationships look more like this: “You never think about how your behavior affects other people. You’re selfish!” Sound familiar? Criticism is an attack that dismantles your partner. When we think of unhealthy relationships, we often think [Read more...]

Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Marital Dyad Factors

  There are all types of factors to collect about the the marital dyad. In my next blog of this series, I will go over the areas that the authors of The Evaluation and Treatment of Marital Conflict explain as key to assess when developing a treatment plan.  Emotional Climate To begin, the authors describe [Read more...]

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Receiving Gifts

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation - covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time - covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Physical Touch If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love [Read more...]

Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Family System Factors

The Evaluation and Treatment of Marital Conflict by Guerin, Fay, Burden, and Kautto discusses the what areas should be assessed when considering the course of treatment in marital counseling. Below are four factors that a therapist might gather information from when they are evaluating the state of your marriage.  Premorbid state of the family/marriage The multigenerational [Read more...]

By |2019-04-11T10:25:56-06:00April 11th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anger, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Family, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Parenting, Stress|Comments Off on Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Family System Factors

Now You’re Speaking my Love- Language: Quality Time

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation – covered in my last blog here! 2) Quality Time 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Physical Touch If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t worry! First, I encourage you and your partner to discover your own love languages by taking [Read more...]

By |2019-04-08T14:33:25-06:00April 8th, 2019|Communication, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Life Balance, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Self-Esteem|Comments Off on Now You’re Speaking my Love- Language: Quality Time

Evaluation in Marital Therapy

When couples come in for therapy, they are often reporting all sorts of conflicts they are currently experiencing. As tempting as it is to jump straight into problem solving, sometimes an evaluation of the marital dyad is a better starting point. Taking a closer look at a relationship and the working parts is sometimes needed [Read more...]

By |2019-03-26T11:34:53-06:00March 26th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Family, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Stress|Comments Off on Evaluation in Marital Therapy

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Words of Affirmation

Imagine that you’re visiting another country and you find yourself lost. You go up to the next person you see and, in clear, perfect English, ask for directions. The person also responds clearly and perfectly – but in their own language. You both go back-and-forth for a few minutes, trying to get the other person [Read more...]

By |2019-04-22T16:34:44-06:00March 19th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Words of Affirmation

Your Spouse Is Inadequate

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second sees them self as a full vessel eagerly waiting to pour into their marriage. This blog addresses the former. This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that [Read more...]