Harry Potter and Moving Past Biology

“It matters not what someone is born but what they grow to be”- Albus Dumbledore Choice I have talked a lot about choice in this series. I think it is an important part of self-development. Choice is something that we forget about when we are stuck in a depressive rut. I like to think of [Read more...]

Our Daily Trauma Intake

A recent study at Duke University posed an interesting question: what is your daily trauma intake?  Think about it. You wake up, check the news and what is the first thing that you hear or see? Destruction, shootings, death, poverty, war. That is just before breakfast.  You obviously need to know what is going on [Read more...]

Helping Helps

A new year is here and we all have resolutions. These resolutions include a lot of personal goals. For example, being more sociable, getting a better job, or more physically active. We think about the possibilities of life that could benefit us in the present and the future. However, volunteering never crosses our mind. The [Read more...]

Harry Potter and the Invisible Scars

“According to Madam Pomfrey, thoughts could leave deeper scarring than almost anything else”- J. K. Rowling Battling Thoughts I think anyone who has struggled with their mental health can relate to the idea that sometimes your thoughts can cause as much or more damage than a jab to the ribs. The old adage “sticks and [Read more...]

Is Sex Last on Your To-Do List?

It’s a common misconception that sex is supposed to be the easy part of marriage. Wouldn’t it be amazing if sex was always carefree and full of pleasure? If there weren't any kind of expectations or negative feelings involved? Unfortunately, I think a small part of each of us believes this is how sex is [Read more...]

New Year, New Me

3 ways to set lasting goals Have you already started working on those New Year's resolutions? Or are you like me and already counting the number of times you’ve totally disregarded the ones you set? (Dr. Pepper is HARD to quit!) The beginning of a new year is typically a popular time to start fresh, [Read more...]

Mindfulness and Resolutions

Like many of you, most of my conversations in the last week or so have been focused on resolutions for 2019. What am I going to change or make better? What am I going to leave behind in 2018? How am I going to be the best I can be? What am I looking forward [Read more...]

Loving Freely

This is a concept that’s hard for people to understand and equally hard to write about. The truth is that most people love in a way that’s comfortable to them. We protect ourselves by letting people get just close enough but not close enough to hurt us. We hide behind layers of ourselves to hide [Read more...]

Standing Up For Joy

Christmas season is both a joy and a stressor. Let’s be honest, as much as we want to pretend things are great, trying to purchase all the gifts AND pick up groceries AND clean the house AND cook before family comes over adds up to a pretty hectic time of year. It’s so easy to [Read more...]

The Complexities of Nostalgia: Part 1

Throwback Thursday Did you have a social media account years ago? If yes, you are likely being reminded of some of the past events and posts. Apps, like TimeHop, had their debut before fizzling out. However, they were replaced by Facebook's “On This Day" feature. Being only a click away from some of your old [Read more...]