How to Support Someone Going through An Emotionally Difficult Time – Part One

Tea and Honey "I don't feel very much like Pooh today," said Pooh. "There, there," said Piglet. "I'll bring you tea and honey until you do. Which one do you relate the most to? For me, it fluctuates. Sometimes I’m piglet, being the person offering the support. Sometimes I’m Pooh, when I’m just feeling [Read more...]

Myth-Busters: Relationships Edition

One big factor that drives couples to seek counseling is the disappointment they feel in how their relationship has developed over the years. They enter the relationship with certain expectations and goals in mind. As they find themselves drifting farther away from what they believed the relationship would be like, a sense of frustration arises. [Read more...]

From Roommates to Reconnection

“I feel so disconnected from my partner.” “We have different lives, like passing ships.” “It’s like we’re not even married anymore; we’re just roommates.” I hear these difficult words all too frequently in my work with couples. It is heart-breaking to realize the distance that has grown in your relationship after going through so [Read more...]

Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Individual Factors

If you are new to this blog, we are following along what Philip J. Guerin, Jr. Leo F. Fay, Susan L. Burden, and Judith Gilbert Kautto wrote about in The Evaluation and Treatment of Marital Conflict. Family system factors, marital dyad factors, and triangle factors that impact marital conflict have been addressed in my [Read more...]

By |2019-06-17T07:56:55-06:00June 10th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Individual Factors

Being Together While Apart: Making Long-Distance Marriage Work

Marriage is a challenging journey all on its own. When you add long-distance into the mix, you may find yourself up against some real "make it or break it" scenarios. Is your spouse in the military? Does your spouse travel frequently for work? How about pursuing a ‘once-in-a-lifetime’ dream this summer? Whatever the reason, there [Read more...]

By |2019-06-05T13:16:18-06:00June 5th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Boundaries, Communication, Couples Counseling, Family, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Being Together While Apart: Making Long-Distance Marriage Work

My Child is Gay… Now What?

Gay. Lesbian. Bisexual. Queer. Pansexual. You are probably familiar with these words as they are becoming more common in mainstream society. But if you or someone you love doesn't identify as one of the above, it can be easy to look the other way and focus on the concepts and priorities in your world. [Read more...]

By |2019-06-06T14:26:09-06:00June 5th, 2019|Childrens Counseling, Communication, Coping Skills, Family, LGBTQIA+, Mental Health, Motivation, Parenting, Stress, Teen Counseling|Comments Off on My Child is Gay… Now What?

Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Triangles

Today, we will continue the series on the evaluation and treatment of  marital conflict examining another part of the marital dyad. Triangles, a term coined by Murray Bowen, refers to the idea that a two-person emotional system is unstable. When under stress, partners tend to draw in a third party to stabilize the relationship. Meaning, [Read more...]

By |2019-06-03T14:27:59-06:00May 28th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Family, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Stress, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Triangles

How To Appropriately Utilize Rewards and Punishments

Many parents have reported that in order to reduce power struggles in the home, there needs to be some sort of solution focused perspective. Concentrating on solutions creates a very different family dynamic. If your own thinking and behavior will change, so will the thinking and behavior of your children.  The theme for focusing on [Read more...]

By |2019-05-28T10:16:35-06:00May 28th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Boundaries, Childrens Counseling, Communication, Family, Mental Health, Motivation, Parenting, Stress|Comments Off on How To Appropriately Utilize Rewards and Punishments

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Acts of Service

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation - covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time - covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts - covered in my blog here! 4) Physical Touch- covered in my blog here! 5) Acts of Service If these 5 love languages are new to you, don’t [Read more...]

By |2019-05-28T08:16:40-06:00May 28th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Acts of Service

Opposites attract, but do they last?

You’re an introvert, they’re an extrovert. You need quiet when you first wake up, they need loud audio stimulation. Your idea of a date night is a quiet evening, their idea is a night on the town. I often see opposites attracted to each other. Someone quick to anger is paired with someone who stays [Read more...]

By |2019-05-28T13:20:32-06:00May 21st, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anger, Anxiety, Communication, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Opposites attract, but do they last?