Ask a Boring Question, Get a Boring Response.

20 questions to ask our children instead of, “How was your day?” What response do you get when you ask your children how their day was?  Do you get eye rolls? Is a long, drawn out, and dramatic sigh let out? Maybe they just walk away and pretend they didn’t even hear you?  Or maybe [Read more...]

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language

Words of Affirmation Imagine that you’re visiting another country and you find yourself lost. You go up to the next person you see and, in clear, perfect English, ask for directions. The person also responds clearly and perfectly – but in their own language. You both go back-and-forth for a few minutes, trying to get [Read more...]

Parenting Success begins with You

It almost seems inevitable that, as a parent, you feel as though you are failing your children. I am sure you often wonder where you fall on the proverbial scale of successful parenting. It is easy to fall into the trap of comparison and to attribute your child's shortcomings onto yourself. I have personally spent [Read more...]

Connect, Then Redirect.

Parenting is not easy. No one can deny that truth. One of the main concerns parents and couples have involves disciplining their child. No Drama- Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson is a book that tackles the topic of discipling your child. What is discipline? When you think about discipline, what first comes [Read more...]

Your Spouse Is Inadequate

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second sees them self as a full vessel eagerly waiting to pour into their marriage. This blog addresses the former. This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that [Read more...]

Bottling Up Emotions

I have these glass water bottles that have been quite durable. Please note that my toddler has chunked them across the room and they have not broken before. Then, one Sunday morning, I set the bottle down on the floor by my seat and I heard it crack. I jumped up quickly and noticed a slight [Read more...]

Your Love Life in the Year of the Pig: Part 1

For most of us, the holiday festivities are long gone and we’re already weeks deep into the new year. For those that celebrate Lunar New Year (a.k.a. Spring Festival and Chinese New Year, though it is observed by numerous Asian countries, such as Vietnam, Korea, Singapore, Malaysia, and more), the biggest event of the year [Read more...]

By |2019-02-06T08:23:25+00:00February 6th, 2019|Communication, Couples Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Peer Relationships, Relationships, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Your Love Life in the Year of the Pig: Part 1

Givers, Takers, and Matchers

The best lessons for marriage can sometimes come from resources unrelated to the topic. For example, Adam Grant wrote an intriguing book called Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. This book is intended for a business audience, but I also believe there are crossover elements for intimate relationships. His theories detail 3 categories of [Read more...]

Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy

To start off this month’s blog, I want to ask you an important question. In your everyday life, how much time you do you actually spend with your partner? Not just being around him/her, but actually spending quality time with them and connecting? Compare this to the amount of time you used to spend with [Read more...]

By |2019-01-22T15:39:42+00:00January 22nd, 2019|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Life Balance, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy

Are You A Conversational Narcissist?

Naturally, most human beings love to talk about themselves.  It is a pleasurable experience to tell others our interests, hobbies, and what we had for lunch. What if we find ourselves turning every conversation into another story about us? What Is A Conversational Narcissist? Sociologist, Charles Derber, coined the term Conversational Narcissist to describe a [Read more...]

By |2019-01-22T16:28:44+00:00January 22nd, 2019|Adult Counseling, Antisocial, Communication, Mental Health, Motivation, Peer Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Are You A Conversational Narcissist?