Symbiosis: The Empath and the Narcissist

Dear Empath, You may feel as if your purpose in this life is to facilitate the healing of others. You emotionally feed and water others to watch them abundantly grow. Highly sensitive and highly intuitive, you’re like an emotional sponge, absorbing all of the emotional energy around you. You thrive when you see others happy, [Read more...]

By |2019-04-04T07:14:25-06:00April 2nd, 2019|Adult Counseling, Boundaries, Coping Skills, Empathy, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Peer Relationships, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Symbiosis: The Empath and the Narcissist

Video Games

I had the pleasure of having dinner with a good friend and his wife. Now, full disclosure, he is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  He is also married with two children. His oldest son was a complete gentleman. He engaged in the conversation and was just completely great to be around. During our conversation, [Read more...]

Your Spouse Is Inadequate

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second sees them self as a full vessel eagerly waiting to pour into their marriage. This blog addresses the former. This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that [Read more...]

Bottling Up Emotions

I have these glass water bottles that have been quite durable. Please note that my toddler has chunked them across the room and they have not broken before. Then, one Sunday morning, I set the bottle down on the floor by my seat and I heard it crack. I jumped up quickly and noticed a slight [Read more...]

By |2019-02-20T11:40:44-06:00February 20th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anger, Anxiety, Boundaries, Communication, Coping Skills, Mental Health, Motivation, Peer Relationships, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Bottling Up Emotions

Givers, Takers, and Matchers

The best lessons for marriage can sometimes come from resources unrelated to the topic. For example, Adam Grant wrote an intriguing book called Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. This book is intended for a business audience, but I also believe there are crossover elements for intimate relationships. His theories detail 3 categories of [Read more...]

Codependency and Enmeshment

Codependency is a learned conduct that is often passed down through generations. It affects an individual’s ability to have healthy relationships. Relationships that have substance abuse, chronic mental illness, or dysfunctional behaviors are co-dependent.  Enmeshment is very similar to co-dependency. Personal boundaries in a relationship are blurred. An over-concern for others leads to a loss [Read more...]

Newlyweds Guide to Your First Holiday Together

Newlyweds, don’t relax just yet. You are still in for a ride after the wedding day! As you start on the delicate, sometimes frustrating, task of combining you lives, there will be many “firsts” and decisions to make. That includes the sensitive topic of where to spend the first holiday. Yikes! Now, this might be [Read more...]

By |2018-11-08T11:51:10-06:00November 8th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Boundaries, Communication, Couples Counseling, Holidays, Life Balance, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Newlyweds Guide to Your First Holiday Together

Help! How Do I Survive My Monster-In-Law?!

Wouldn’t it be grand if, when you chose your life partner, that’s all you get? Just the two of you alone in your own little bliss bubble – forever and ever? Sorry to shatter the dream, but you know how it goes: “When you marry your spouse, you marry his/her family too.” While that may [Read more...]

By |2018-10-18T12:47:01-06:00October 18th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Boundaries, Communication, Couples Counseling, Family, Life Balance, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Help! How Do I Survive My Monster-In-Law?!

Living My Best Life

One of today’s new popular sayings is, “I am living my best life.” Everyone has their own idea of what it means to live their best life. As I have grown older, what I consider my best life has changed. I define it by my outlook in the following areas of my life. Spiritual Having [Read more...]

By |2018-10-02T09:33:54-06:00August 29th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Boundaries, Family, Gratitude, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Self-care, Stress|Comments Off on Living My Best Life

Helping Children Cope With Separation and Divorce

Going through a separation or divorce is emotional for both adults and children. Children frequently do not understand the reason or meaning behind a divorce, thus creating confusion, anger, and stress.  Oftentimes, children will internalize the blame for problems that led to the divorce. Their left with unjustified feelings of shame, guilt, and self blame.  [Read more...]

By |2018-10-11T11:59:06-06:00August 7th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Anger, Anxiety, Boundaries, Childrens Counseling, Communication, Coping Skills, Family, Mental Health, Motivation, Parenting, Stress, Teen Counseling|Comments Off on Helping Children Cope With Separation and Divorce