The Sandwich Generation

When my mom became ill after my father died, I did not have a lot of options.  My husband and I decided to move her into our home. We could assist her with costs and care so she could help us with our young children while I went back to graduate school.  Although, as the [Read more...]

By |2019-06-10T07:35:36-06:00June 6th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Boundaries, Coping Skills, Depression, Family, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Parenting, Self-care, Stress|Comments Off on The Sandwich Generation

Being Together While Apart: Making Long-Distance Marriage Work

Marriage is a challenging journey all on its own. When you add long-distance into the mix, you may find yourself up against some real "make it or break it" scenarios. Is your spouse in the military? Does your spouse travel frequently for work? How about pursuing a ‘once-in-a-lifetime’ dream this summer? Whatever the reason, there [Read more...]

By |2019-06-05T13:16:18-06:00June 5th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Boundaries, Communication, Couples Counseling, Family, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Being Together While Apart: Making Long-Distance Marriage Work

How To Appropriately Utilize Rewards and Punishments

Many parents have reported that in order to reduce power struggles in the home, there needs to be some sort of solution focused perspective. Concentrating on solutions creates a very different family dynamic. If your own thinking and behavior will change, so will the thinking and behavior of your children.  The theme for focusing on [Read more...]

By |2019-05-28T10:16:35-06:00May 28th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Boundaries, Childrens Counseling, Communication, Family, Mental Health, Motivation, Parenting, Stress|Comments Off on How To Appropriately Utilize Rewards and Punishments

Symbiosis: The Empath and the Narcissist

Dear Empath, You may feel as if your purpose in this life is to facilitate the healing of others. You emotionally feed and water others to watch them abundantly grow. Highly sensitive and highly intuitive, you’re like an emotional sponge, absorbing all of the emotional energy around you. You thrive when you see others happy, [Read more...]

By |2019-04-04T07:14:25-06:00April 2nd, 2019|Adult Counseling, Boundaries, Coping Skills, Empathy, Life Balance, Mental Health, Motivation, Peer Relationships, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Symbiosis: The Empath and the Narcissist

Video Games

I had the pleasure of having dinner with a good friend and his wife. Now, full disclosure, he is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  He is also married with two children. His oldest son was a complete gentleman. He engaged in the conversation and was just completely great to be around. During our conversation, [Read more...]

Your Spouse Is Inadequate

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second sees them self as a full vessel eagerly waiting to pour into their marriage. This blog addresses the former. This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that [Read more...]

Bottling Up Emotions

I have these glass water bottles that have been quite durable. Please note that my toddler has chunked them across the room and they have not broken before. Then, one Sunday morning, I set the bottle down on the floor by my seat and I heard it crack. I jumped up quickly and noticed a slight [Read more...]

By |2019-02-20T11:40:44-06:00February 20th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anger, Anxiety, Boundaries, Communication, Coping Skills, Mental Health, Motivation, Peer Relationships, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Bottling Up Emotions

Givers, Takers, and Matchers

The best lessons for marriage can sometimes come from resources unrelated to the topic. For example, Adam Grant wrote an intriguing book called Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. This book is intended for a business audience, but I also believe there are crossover elements for intimate relationships. His theories detail 3 categories of [Read more...]

Codependency and Enmeshment

Codependency is a learned conduct that is often passed down through generations. It affects an individual’s ability to have healthy relationships. Relationships that have substance abuse, chronic mental illness, or dysfunctional behaviors are co-dependent.  Enmeshment is very similar to co-dependency. Personal boundaries in a relationship are blurred. An over-concern for others leads to a loss [Read more...]

Newlyweds Guide to Your First Holiday Together

Newlyweds, don’t relax just yet. You are still in for a ride after the wedding day! As you start on the delicate, sometimes frustrating, task of combining you lives, there will be many “firsts” and decisions to make. That includes the sensitive topic of where to spend the first holiday. Yikes! Now, this might be [Read more...]

By |2018-11-08T11:51:10-06:00November 8th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Boundaries, Communication, Couples Counseling, Holidays, Life Balance, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Newlyweds Guide to Your First Holiday Together