Ask a Boring Question, Get a Boring Response.

20 questions to ask our children instead of, “How was your day?” What response do you get when you ask your children how their day was?  Do you get eye rolls? Is a long, drawn out, and dramatic sigh let out? Maybe they just walk away and pretend they didn’t even hear you?  Or maybe [Read more...]

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language

Words of Affirmation Imagine that you’re visiting another country and you find yourself lost. You go up to the next person you see and, in clear, perfect English, ask for directions. The person also responds clearly and perfectly – but in their own language. You both go back-and-forth for a few minutes, trying to get [Read more...]

Parenting Success begins with You

It almost seems inevitable that, as a parent, you feel as though you are failing your children. I am sure you often wonder where you fall on the proverbial scale of successful parenting. It is easy to fall into the trap of comparison and to attribute your child's shortcomings onto yourself. I have personally spent [Read more...]

Connect, Then Redirect.

Parenting is not easy. No one can deny that truth. One of the main concerns parents and couples have involves disciplining their child. No Drama- Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson is a book that tackles the topic of discipling your child. What is discipline? When you think about discipline, what first comes [Read more...]

Harry Potter and the Meaning of Suffering

“Harry, suffering like this proves you are still a man! This pain is part of being human… the fact that you can feel pain like this is your greatest strength” Emotions While this may seem counter intuitive, sometimes the way we know we are prospering as humans is through our ability to feel and experience [Read more...]

Parenting Out of Fear

"Where Fear Is, Happiness Is Not" –Author Unknown I remember the day I brought my first child home from the hospital after giving birth.  I looked down at that little baby and vowed to myself that I would keep her safe for as long as I lived.  While watching her sleep at night, I would [Read more...]

Your Spouse Is Inadequate

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second sees them self as a full vessel eagerly waiting to pour into their marriage. This blog addresses the former. This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that [Read more...]

Your Love Life in the Year of the Pig: Part 2

For most of us, the holiday festivities are long gone and we’re already weeks deep into the new year. This year, the Lunar New Year started on February 5th, 2019, and it also marked the beginning of the Year of the Pig. Yes, you heard right – Year of the Pig! Similar to sun/mood signs [Read more...]

Bottling Up Emotions

I have these glass water bottles that have been quite durable. Please note that my toddler has chunked them across the room and they have not broken before. Then, one Sunday morning, I set the bottle down on the floor by my seat and I heard it crack. I jumped up quickly and noticed a slight [Read more...]

Givers, Takers, and Matchers

The best lessons for marriage can sometimes come from resources unrelated to the topic. For example, Adam Grant wrote an intriguing book called Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. This book is intended for a business audience, but I also believe there are crossover elements for intimate relationships. His theories detail 3 categories of [Read more...]