Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy

To start off this month’s blog, I want to ask you an important question. In your everyday life, how much time you do you actually spend with your partner? Not just being around him/her, but actually spending quality time with them and connecting? Compare this to the amount of time you used to spend with [Read more...]

Are You A Conversational Narcissist?

Naturally, most human beings love to talk about themselves.  It is a pleasurable experience to tell others our interests, hobbies, and what we had for lunch. What if we find ourselves turning every conversation into another story about us? What Is A Conversational Narcissist? Sociologist, Charles Derber, coined the term Conversational Narcissist to describe a [Read more...]

Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 2

So, let’s say a spouse is already in an emotional deficit and has chosen to not have the conversation mentioned in part 1 with their partner. Now, they experience the feeling they’ve identified as missing from their partner with someone else during their day. It’s like a drug. It’s an addictive experience. Author, Karen Young, [Read more...]

New Year, New Me

3 ways to set lasting goals Have you already started working on those New Year's resolutions? Or are you like me and already counting the number of times you’ve totally disregarded the ones you set? (Dr. Pepper is HARD to quit!) The beginning of a new year is typically a popular time to start fresh, [Read more...]

Loving Freely

This is a concept that’s hard for people to understand and equally hard to write about. The truth is that most people love in a way that’s comfortable to them. We protect ourselves by letting people get just close enough but not close enough to hurt us. We hide behind layers of ourselves to hide [Read more...]

Coping With Grief During The Holidays

I never really understood what it meant to grieve during the holidays until it happened to my own family.  My father had a massive heart attack that took his life just days before Christmas. My entire family was in anguish. From then on, Christmas has never been quite the same.    The holidays bring meaning [Read more...]

By |2018-12-19T14:34:24+00:00December 19th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Anger, Anxiety, Coping Skills, Depression, Family, Grief, Holidays, Mental Health, Motivation, Peer Relationships, Self-care, Stress|Comments Off on Coping With Grief During The Holidays

Surviving the Crowds at Christmas

We are lucky to live up here on the Northside of Houston. We have wonderful schools, nice neighborhoods, access to great dog parks, and an outlet mall. Whether it is malls, certain Swedish furniture stores, or outdoor festivals, large groups of people make me anxious, crabby, and impatient. When you combine two of my least [Read more...]

By |2018-12-18T17:04:27+00:00December 18th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Antisocial, Anxiety, Coping Skills, Mental Health, Motivation, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Surviving the Crowds at Christmas

How Much Sex Is Normal In A Marriage?

When sex is an issue in a relationship (it more than likely will be in all relationships) I often hear this question… How often should we be having sex? Great question! I’m glad you asked. It’s completely normal to wonder if you are having more or less sex than other couples, but it’s a difficult [Read more...]

By |2018-12-10T13:51:48+00:00December 10th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Sex Therapy, Women's Issues|Comments Off on How Much Sex Is Normal In A Marriage?

Family Tradition

Growing up, my favorite holiday tradition was heading to the Hallmark store and picking out a new ornament for the Christmas tree. I still remember the first ornament I got to pick out. It’s a cute little fox standing on its hind legs, holding a golden 1996. I can’t tell you why I picked it, [Read more...]

By |2018-12-18T16:37:08+00:00December 6th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Family, Holidays, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health|Comments Off on Family Tradition

Codependency and Enmeshment

Codependency is a learned conduct that is often passed down through generations. It affects an individual’s ability to have healthy relationships. Relationships that have substance abuse, chronic mental illness, or dysfunctional behaviors are co-dependent.  Enmeshment is very similar to co-dependency. Personal boundaries in a relationship are blurred. An over-concern for others leads to a loss [Read more...]