About Gary Malone

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist at Amy Wine Counseling Center in Cypress TX. Lover of the outdoors. Husband and father of three.

Your Spouse Is Inadequate

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second sees them self as a full vessel eagerly waiting to pour into their marriage. This blog addresses the former. This expectation (conscious or subconscious) that [Read more...]

Givers, Takers, and Matchers

The best lessons for marriage can sometimes come from resources unrelated to the topic. For example, Adam Grant wrote an intriguing book called Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. This book is intended for a business audience, but I also believe there are crossover elements for intimate relationships. His theories detail 3 categories of [Read more...]

Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 2

So, let’s say a spouse is already in an emotional deficit and has chosen to not have the conversation mentioned in part 1 with their partner. Now, they experience the feeling they’ve identified as missing from their partner with someone else during their day. It’s like a drug. It’s an addictive experience. Author, Karen Young, [Read more...]

By |2019-01-09T13:30:53+00:00January 9th, 2019|Adult Counseling, Anger, Anxiety, Communication, Couples Counseling, Infidelity, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 2

Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 1

Temptation I loved sports cards when I was in the 4th grade; collected, traded, and talked about them in class. I also combed through many Beckett price guides trying to figure out how much they’re worth (anyone else remember combing through a Beckett?). One day I was browsing various card packages at K-Mart when I [Read more...]

By |2019-01-07T17:42:27+00:00January 7th, 2019|Communication, Couples Counseling, Infidelity, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Self-care, Self-Esteem, Stress|Comments Off on Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 1

How Much Sex Is Normal In A Marriage?

When sex is an issue in a relationship (it more than likely will be in all relationships) I often hear this question… How often should we be having sex? Great question! I’m glad you asked. It’s completely normal to wonder if you are having more or less sex than other couples, but it’s a difficult [Read more...]

By |2018-12-10T13:51:48+00:00December 10th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Men's Issues, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Sex Therapy, Women's Issues|Comments Off on How Much Sex Is Normal In A Marriage?

How Checking-In Can Save Your Marriage

I don’t know much about planes or how to fly them. However, I could watch a few youtube videos to figure it out. Still, I’ll leave it up to trained pilots to navigate me on a flight. I recently learned something interesting about aviation – the importance of checklists.  From what I understand, every plane [Read more...]

By |2018-11-26T14:27:30+00:00November 26th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships|Comments Off on How Checking-In Can Save Your Marriage

Is Your Marriage Child-Centered?

It is difficult to balance nurturing a marriage and the relationship with your kids. I don’t know a couple who doesn’t struggle with this. If you are caught in the child-centered grind, I imagine you’re schedule has become more crowded with child activities.   Disclaimer: I very much believe kids are a blessing and we [Read more...]

By |2018-11-06T11:11:20+00:00November 6th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Anger, Anxiety, Communication, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Parenting, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Is Your Marriage Child-Centered?

Make Your Marriage Stronger by Asking for Less

What do you think a typical marriage looked like 200 years ago?  Do you think their ceremony vows included one of the popular options found from theknot.com below? I promise to be your lover, companion, and friend. Your partner in parenthood, ally in conflict, greatest fan, toughest adversary, comrade in adventure, student, teacher, consolation in disappointment, and accomplice in mischief. This is [Read more...]

By |2018-10-22T10:13:57+00:00October 22nd, 2018|Adult Counseling, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Life Balance, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Motivation, Relationships, Stress|Comments Off on Make Your Marriage Stronger by Asking for Less

When You Hate Your Spouse

I enjoy a good Disney movie.  Is there a better one than Aladdin? That’s a rhetorical question because everyone knows it’s the best. Maybe I enjoy it because it has a happily ever after.  Isn’t it interesting how the movies and shows we watch as kids impact how we view life as adults? I’ll admit, [Read more...]

By |2018-10-07T13:53:43+00:00October 7th, 2018|Adult Counseling, Communication, Couples Counseling, Gratitude, Intimacy, Marriage Counseling, Mental Health, Relationships|Comments Off on When You Hate Your Spouse

When Your Therapist Sucks

I have this theory about why people enjoy Chick-fil-A so much.  It isn’t the food, albeit it is tasty.  It deals with the one thing I’ve never experienced in a CFA restaurant: bad customer service. I’m greeted with a smile when I walk in the door, the cashiers are always friendly, and workers even stop [Read more...]

By |2018-10-02T09:26:52+00:00September 21st, 2018|Adult Counseling, Anxiety, Communication, Mental Health|Comments Off on When Your Therapist Sucks