20 questions to ask our children instead of, “How was your day?”

What response do you get when you ask your children how their day was?  Do you get eye rolls? Is a long, drawn out, and dramatic sigh let out? Maybe they just walk away and pretend they didn’t even hear you?  Or maybe they reply with the pre-determined shoulder shrug response of the day? 

Can anyone relate?

What’s so lame about this question?

The problem with this question boils down to the fact that it’s one that kids perceive as mandatory. They don’t think it’s asked because parents actually care about the response.  It can be seen as a boring way to connect. Therefore, it often turns up those boring, one word responses.

Teach connection through conversation  

No matter what they say, or how they act, your children are human. Therefore, they desire connection. So, as the parents, it’s our job to model and teach them just how to obtain that. Ask one (or all) of these 25 questions INSTEAD of, “How was your day.” Open the door for conversation, and more importantly, create connection with our children.

20 Questions to ask your kids instead of, “How was your day?”

  1. What made you smile today?
  2. What was your first thought when you woke up today?
  3. Can you tell me an example of kindness you saw/showed?
  4. What did you do that was creative?
  5. Who did you sit with at lunch?
  6. What was the hardest rule to follow today?
  7. If you could change one thing about your day, what would it be?
  8. What made your teacher smile/frown?  
  9. If you could switch seats with anyone in class, who would it be?
  10. If you were invisible, where would you go and what would you do?
  11. When do you feel happiest?
  12. What is one thing you want to learn how to do?
  13. What’s the smartest thing you heard somebody say today?
  14. If you could switch places with one person for a day, who would it be and why?
  15. What’s the most important thing for a parent to do?
  16. Which one of your teacher’s would survive a zombie apocalypse and why?
  17. What was the best/worst part of your day today? 
  18. What are you looking forward to tomorrow?
  19. Teach me something I don’t know.
  20. What are you reading?  OR What show are you watching?  

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