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Your Past Self Keeps Knocking – Here’s Why (and How) You Should Answer the Door: Part 1

Is It In the Past? You probably hear things like “the past is the past” and “you should just let it go” often – they’re common sayings. In part, this ...
Scared Silent - Breaking the Stigma Around Suicidal Ideation

Scared Silent – Breaking the Stigma Around Suicidal Ideation

Phrases I Have Heard “Please don’t call the hospital.”  “Don’t be scared, it’s not that bad.”  “Don’t freak out.”  “I don’t know, I don’t want you to panic or worry.” ...

Connection Connection: Read All About It!

Individuals have many needs- both physical, emotional, and spiritual. The focus of this series has been taking a dive into the nine different emotional needs. When someone is suffering, we ...

Maternal Suicide: Mom’s Are Not Immune

September marks Suicide Awareness Month across the globe. This is an especially important and vulnerable topic to address because the effects of suicide are far reaching. It touches many lives. ...
Suicide: What to Know

Suicide: What to Know

World Suicide Prevention Day is held on September 10, 2019 to create worldwide awareness with a focus on raising commitment and action to prevent suicide.  According to WHO, approximately one ...

To those who have lost someone to suicide,

You Are Not Alone September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. Initially, you may appreciate the statistics and the acknowledgment. When the month ends, though, you may feel complete invalidation. No ...

Suicide Preparations, A Calm Before the Storm

The Time Between Preparations to end your life. It’s a stage that isn’t often talked about. We discuss the thoughts leading up to it, and then we discuss the actions ...
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The Back-to-School Reset

School is back in session for districts across the country. The start of the academic school year sets a number of actions in motion for parents: clothes and school supply ...
Surviving back to school while married

Surviving Back to School… While Married!

Back to School... Pursuing higher education is stressful, but sometimes, it’s a plunge you just have to take – whether it’s to finish something you started years ago and finally ...

Pay Attention To Me…. Also, Give Me Space!

Individuals have many needs- both physical, emotional, and spiritual. The focus of this series has been taking a dive into the nine different emotional needs. When someone is suffering, we ...

What To Consider Before Letting Your Child Have a Sleepover

An educated parent is the best one to choose if and when a sleepover is appropriate for their child.  As a parent, if you do choose to let your child ...

An Open Letter to My Psychotherapy Clients

You walk into my office thinking I’m the expert. You glance at my diplomas, license, and certificates. While yes, I am the therapist; you are the expert of your own ...

Social Support: How Important is it to Your Overall Health and Wellbeing?

Social support can be described as the physical and emotional comfort we receive through social ties to others, such as family, friends, co-workers, etc.  It’s the love and acceptance we ...

How to Manage a Life Transition

While growing up, my mother created poignant teachable moments using proverbs. One of my favorite sayings referred to an outlook on life. She often said, “the only constant in life ...

You’ve Got This: Fulfilling Your Unsatisfied Emotional Needs

Individuals have many needs- both physical, emotional, and spiritual. The focus of this series will take a quick dive into the nine different emotional needs. When someone is suffering, we ...
Diagnosis of Autism

So We Got the Diagnosis of Autism…. Now What?

You’ve known something was different about your child for a while. Not necessarily bad or wrong, just… different. Maybe they weren’t making eye contact? Possibly they missed several developmental milestones?  ...
When the outside doesn't match the inside

When the Outside Doesn’t Match the Inside: Bipolar Disorder

You feel like you’re on an emotional roller coaster – instead it’s going in slow motion, the lows are REALLY low, and the highs…MAN are they exhilarating. The Bipolar High! ...

Physical Needs and Emotional Needs

What is a Pyramid of Needs? Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is typically one of the first things taught in Psychology 101 courses. Have you seen his pyramid of needs before? ...

Relationship-ocalypse: How To Be a “Honeymoon Period” Survivor

Is the Honeymoon Period a Real Thing? The biggest early obstacle to any relationship is one that few ever see coming: the dreaded end of the Honeymoon Period. The initial ...

Cinema Therapy

Have you ever had the opportunity to enjoy an inspirational movie, and it just lit up your world?  I oftentimes find myself choosing movies with themes that mirror my current ...

How to Support Someone Going Through An Emotionally Difficult Time: Tea and Honey – Part Two

“I don’t feel very much like Pooh today,” said Pooh. “There, there,” said Piglet. “I’ll bring you tea and honey until you do.”   Loving someone comes with high and ...
When the outside doesn't match the inside

When the Outside Doesn’t Match the Inside: Part Two

Your alarm clock goes off in the morning after a night of restless tossing and turning. You slowly get out of bed and feel “off”. Showering is exhausting, and getting ...

5 Things to Consider When Assessing Your Self-Care

When we think of self-care, the most obvious thing to consider is if you are eating right, exercising, and getting enough sleep.  Although this is very important to overall self-care, ...

How to Support Someone Going through An Emotionally Difficult Time – Part One

Tea and Honey "I don't feel very much like Pooh today," said Pooh. "There, there," said Piglet. "I'll bring you tea and honey until you do. Which one do you ...

Myth-Busters: Relationships Edition

One big factor that drives couples to seek counseling is the disappointment they feel in how their relationship has developed over the years. They enter the relationship with certain expectations ...

What do Pulling Weeds and Therapy have in Common?

I like to bring metaphors into therapy. It is often helpful to relate a client's internal emotions to tangible things that are known concretely. My family was pulling weeds in ...

How to Incorporate Optimism: Step 1

“[…]  Pessimists can learn the skills of optimism and permanently improve the quality of their lives.” – Martin Seligman. Ph.D. My previous blog, Why Optimism Matters, established that optimism is ...

When the Outside Doesn’t Match the Inside: Part One

Persistent Depressive Disorder You’re the one always smiling and laughing to prove that you’re having fun in the social setting that you forced yourself to go to. You ask yourself, ...

The Cycle of Anger

Have you ever wondered how you can go from zero to thirty on the anger scale in such a short amount of time?  Anger is an undesirable emotional state ranging ...

From Roommates to Reconnection

“I feel so disconnected from my partner.” “We have different lives, like passing ships.” “It’s like we’re not even married anymore; we’re just roommates.” I hear these difficult words all ...

When You Just Can’t Figure Out The Right Words: Sand Tray Therapy

Ever have those moments where you know something is bothering you, but you can’t quite place your finger on what it is exactly? Do you know general words to describe ...

Remember Your Success

Does it feel like you’ve been doing your best and making all the right choices, but life is not going in your favor?  It is natural to go through these ...

Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Individual Factors

If you are new to this blog, we are following along what Philip J. Guerin, Jr. Leo F. Fay, Susan L. Burden, and Judith Gilbert Kautto wrote about in The ...

Why Optimism Matters

“Pessimistic prophecies are self-fulling.” - Martin Seligman, Ph.D. The topic of optimism reminds me of the common quote: “Life is what you make of it.” How one recovers from life ...

Strength in Vulnerability

Many of us are plagued with feeling like we are not enough, no matter what we accomplish. It’s easy to become envious of others while feeling you’re falling short; wondering ...

Getting “Unstuck”

Defining EMDR and how it works EMDR, or eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, is “an integrative psychotherapy approach that has been extensively researched and proven effective for treatment of trauma”. ...

The Sandwich Generation

When my mom became ill after my father died, I did not have a lot of options.  My husband and I decided to move her into our home. We could ...

Being Together While Apart: Making Long-Distance Marriage Work

Marriage is a challenging journey all on its own. When you add long-distance into the mix, you may find yourself up against some real "make it or break it" scenarios. ...

My Child is Gay… Now What?

Gay. Lesbian. Bisexual. Queer. Pansexual. You are probably familiar with these words as they are becoming more common in mainstream society. But if you or someone you love doesn't identify ...

Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Triangles

Today, we will continue the series on the evaluation and treatment of  marital conflict examining another part of the marital dyad. Triangles, a term coined by Murray Bowen, refers to ...

How To Appropriately Utilize Rewards and Punishments

Many parents have reported that in order to reduce power struggles in the home, there needs to be some sort of solution focused perspective. Concentrating on solutions creates a very ...

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Acts of Service

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation - covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time - covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts - covered in ...
When the outside doesn't match the inside

Getting Lost and Finding Yourself: Stepping Outside of Your Teenage Shell

I recently had a young girl cry as she told me that no matter how hard she tries, she will never be like the girls in her school. All she ...

3 Tips on How to Use a Mantra to Shift Your Thinking

“I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggonit, people like me!”  If you are an SNL fan, you will recognize these words of affirmation from satirist and comedian, Al Franken ...

Opposites attract, but do they last?

You’re an introvert, they’re an extrovert. You need quiet when you first wake up, they need loud audio stimulation. Your idea of a date night is a quiet evening, their ...

The Truth About Health Anxiety

Health anxiety, formerly known as hypochondria, is a condition that creates major symptoms of anxiety related to physical, mental, and psychological wellbeing.  It is often described as, “a sensation of ...

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Physical Touch

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation - covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time - covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts - covered in ...

Your Superpower

Last month brimmed with exciting entertainment ventures from the franchises Game of Thrones and Marvel Entertainment. The global excitement and of these cinematic events made me reflect on what made ...

Why Your Relationship is Stealthily Unhealthy

  Most people's ideal relationship includes having respect, unconditional acceptance, equality, honesty, and love. The list goes on. Oftentimes, relationships look more like this: “You never think about how your ...

Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Marital Dyad Factors

There are all types of factors to collect about the marital dyad. In my next blog of this series, I will go over the areas that the authors of The ...

What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

  The word narcissism gets incorporated into everyday conversation along with our self-obsessed, celebrity-driven culture. This term often defines someone who seems extremely hollow or full of themselves. However, in ...

Treatment for Infertility: Fostering Hope

Last week marked National Infertility Awareness week: April 21- 27, 2019. For this post, I would like to focus on the solutions for infertility. Fertility treatment looks different for every ...

Stay the Course…

Three years ago, I made a career switch. When looking back, it does not seem so long ago. During my first semester, I was excited about the material we were ...

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Receiving Gifts

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation - covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time - covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) ...

Responding vs. Reacting

“By learning to accept the small things immediately as they happen, you can be free of having to react to things at all.  You still can respond when action is ...

Child Abuse Awareness Month

The month of April is Child Abuse Awareness Month.  This is an epidemic that is near and dear to my heart.  I am an advocate for the non-exploitation and safety ...

6 Ways to Build Resiliency

Tools to help you to bounce back from life’s challenges. Have you ever noticed that two people can go through situations that are very similar and their ability to cope ...

Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Family System Factors

The Evaluation and Treatment of Marital Conflict by Guerin, Fay, Burden, and Kautto discusses the what areas should be assessed when considering the course of treatment in marital counseling. Below are ...

Infertility 101

April 21- 27, 2019 is National Infertility Awareness week. The topic of infertility is a very real matter for an estimated 6.1 million people, or 15% of couples, in the ...

Now You’re Speaking my Love- Language: Quality Time

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation – covered in my last blog here! 2) Quality Time 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Physical Touch If ...

The Power of Connection – Part 2

Two weeks ago, I discussed Brene Brown’s, The Power of Vulnerability. This week, I’d like to expand on a concept that Brene Brown introduced – the relationship we have with ...

Symbiosis: The Empath and the Narcissist

Dear Empath, You may feel as if your purpose in this life is to facilitate the healing of others. You emotionally feed and water others to watch them abundantly grow. ...

A New Frontier: Pharmaceutical Relief for Postpartum Depression

This is a historic month with regard to a recent breakthrough in the world of Postpartum Depression (PPD). On Tuesday, March 19th, The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approved a ...

Evaluation in Marital Therapy

When couples come in for therapy, they are often reporting all sorts of conflicts they are currently experiencing. As tempting as it is to jump straight into problem solving, sometimes ...

What Is Psychosocial Development?

I’ve always wondered why children, adolescents, and adults go through certain psychological changes. Each transformation seems to build upon the previous one and pave the way for development. One of ...

10 Self-Care Tips and Practices for Maintaining Sanity

Self-care is a vital part of maintaining your mental health. However, it is always overlooked. Sometimes, people do not even realize that they need it. Often it looks like, “well ...
Drug and alcohol abuse

Misconceptions of Drug and Alcohol Use

People use drugs and alcohol for many reasons. Some use socially and on occasion. On the flip side, many use to numb life circumstances, stresses, fears, traumas, and more. Issues ...
Acceptance and commitment therapy

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

Gaining Psychological Flexibility Through the Third-Wave of Behavioral Therapy Take a moment and think about your most painful internal experiences. Now, think about the most important values that you hold ...

The Power of Connection – Part 1

Brene Brown expertly addresses her lifetime of work researching shame, vulnerability, courage, connection, and empathy in her audio book, The Power of Vulnerability.  Her words effortlessly transition between personal reflection and ...

Ask a Boring Question, Get a Boring Response.

20 questions to ask our children instead of, “How was your day?” What response do you get when you ask your children how their day was?  Do you get eye ...

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Words of Affirmation

Imagine that you’re visiting another country and you find yourself lost. You go up to the next person you see and, in clear, perfect English, ask for directions. The person ...

Psychological Shock

Psychological shock, or mental shock, is a condition in response to a traumatic event. The shock comes from witnessing a traumatic event that induces a strong emotional response within an individual. ...

Harry Potter and Numb Feelings

“Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.” Coping When I read this quote, I think about coping mechanisms. A coping mechanism is ...

Parenting Success begins with You

It almost seems inevitable that, as a parent, you feel as though you are failing your children. I am sure you often wonder where you fall on the proverbial scale ...

Video Games

I had the pleasure of having dinner with a good friend and his wife. Now, full disclosure, he is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  He is also married with ...

Connect, Then Redirect.

Parenting is not easy. No one can deny that truth. One of the main concerns parents and couples have involves disciplining their child. No Drama- Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel and ...

Self-Care: Spring Cleaning For Your Mind

When you hear the phrase “spring cleaning,” you probably envision the dirt and dust that has accumulated in your living space. You may even imagine a big pile of stuff ...

L-P-C What?

Defining the Difference Between an LPC and an LPC-Intern I was working as an administrator for a non-profit counseling group before, during, and after my master’s work. Spending time in ...

Harry Potter and the Meaning of Suffering

“Harry, suffering like this proves you are still a man! This pain is part of being human… the fact that you can feel pain like this is your greatest strength.” ...

Beyond Baby Blues: Part 2

Awareness of mental health interventions are incredibly important for new mothers who show symptoms of Postpartum Depression (PPD) or Perinatal Depression. There are several factors that affect the rate at ...

Parenting Out of Fear

"Where Fear Is, Happiness Is Not" –Author Unknown I remember the day I brought my first child home from the hospital after giving birth.  I looked down at that little ...

Breaking Out of that Slump

Several years ago, I bought a book on solution-focused therapy. I found a lot of great techniques that could be utilized by most counselors AND clients. However, there was something ...
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Your Spouse Is Inadequate

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second ...

Your Love Life in the Year of the Pig: Part 2

For most of us, the holiday festivities are long gone and we’re already weeks deep into the new year. This year, the Lunar New Year started on February 5th, 2019, ...

Bottling Up Emotions

I have these glass water bottles that have been quite durable. Please note that my toddler has chunked them across the room and they have not broken before. Then, one Sunday ...
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Caring for the Mess-Maker

My toddler recently got the stomach bug. Even worse, he projectile vomited all over the rug in front of a friend that was at my house for the first time. ...
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Guilt and Shame: Is it All the Same?

Understanding the difference between guilt and shame The two most confusing emotions I encounter in my sessions are guilt and shame.  I think that it is crucial to know the ...

Your Love Life in the Year of the Pig: Part 1

For most of us, the holiday festivities are long gone and we’re already weeks deep into the new year. For those that celebrate Lunar New Year (a.k.a. Spring Festival and ...

Givers, Takers, and Matchers

The best lessons for marriage can sometimes come from resources unrelated to the topic. For example, Adam Grant wrote an intriguing book called Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. ...

Beyond Baby Blues

The birth of a child is often a celebrated event. However, this event is followed by an adjustment period for all members of the family, but most especially the new ...

Learning to Breathe

Several years ago, I had an accident. I severely injured my back and shoulder. Unfortunately, I was also someone who loved working out. Although I was limited in my movement, ...
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Flying Solo on Valentine’s Day

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance!” Oscar Wilde Many consider February 14th the Day of Love. It is Hallmark’s most famous day of the year. Although ...

Gender Norms and Mental Health

It seems that gender politics are at the front and center of society. From the news and your twitter feed, gender roles are at the focus of this era. Women ...

The Complexities of Nostalgia: Part 2

The Truth behind the Highlight Reel Often times we use social media as a highlight reel. So, we post the happy pictures where things in life seem to be going ...

Tolerance to Pain Works Both Ways

We are a couple of months into the new year and my fitness goals are moving forward. Yes, I’ve had some cheat days, but things are moving along nicely. Along ...

Understanding OCD

Do you like things in a particular order? Does it bother you when things are a little out of order? Do you complain that your OCD is kicking in? Well, ...

Creating Mindfulness in Motherhood

There are many pressures and responsibilities that fall under the umbrella of motherhood. Dinner. Laundry. Doctor appointments. Grocery shopping. Extracurriculars for the kids. The list goes on and it most ...

5 Tips to Help Free You from Anxiety

Over 40 million Americans over the age of 18 suffer with Anxiety.  That means there are a lot of people out there that have some of the same symptoms of ...

Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy

To start off this month’s blog, I want to ask you an important question. In your everyday life, how much time you do you actually spend with your partner? Not ...

Are You A Conversational Narcissist?

Naturally, most human beings love to talk about themselves.  It is a pleasurable experience to tell others our interests, hobbies, and what we had for lunch. What if we find ...

Harry Potter and Moving Past Biology

“It matters not what someone is born but what they grow to be.”- Albus Dumbledore Choice I have talked a lot about choice in this series. I think it is ...

A Letter to Yesterday

Dear Yesterday, To be honest, I don’t know where to start with addressing you. We have had so many ups and downs. I guess you have taught me some positives. ...

Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 2

So, let’s say a spouse is already in an emotional deficit and has chosen to not have the conversation mentioned in part 1 with their partner. Now, they experience the ...

Our Daily Trauma Intake

A recent study at Duke University posed an interesting question: what is your daily trauma intake?  Think about it. You wake up, check the news and what is the first ...

Helping Helps

A new year is here and we all have resolutions. These resolutions include a lot of personal goals. For example, being more sociable, getting a better job, or more physically ...

Harry Potter and the Invisible Scars

“According to Madam Pomfrey, thoughts could leave deeper scarring than almost anything else.”- J. K. Rowling Battling Thoughts I think anyone who has struggled with their mental health can relate ...

Is Sex Last on Your To-Do List?

It’s a common misconception that sex is supposed to be the easy part of marriage. Wouldn’t it be amazing if sex was always carefree and full of pleasure? If there ...

Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 1

Temptation I loved sports cards when I was in the 4th grade; collected, traded, and talked about them in class. I also combed through many Beckett price guides trying to ...

New Year, New Me

3 ways to set lasting goals Have you already started working on those New Year's resolutions? Or are you like me and already counting the number of times you’ve totally ...

Mindfulness and Resolutions

Like many of you, most of my conversations in the last week or so have been focused on resolutions for 2019. What am I going to change or make better? ...

Loving Freely

This is a concept that’s hard for people to understand and equally hard to write about. The truth is that most people love in a way that’s comfortable to them. ...

Standing Up For Joy

Christmas season is both a joy and a stressor. Let’s be honest, as much as we want to pretend things are great, trying to purchase all the gifts AND pick ...

The Complexities of Nostalgia: Part 1

Throwback Thursday Did you have a social media account years ago? If yes, you are likely being reminded of some of the past events and posts. Apps, like TimeHop, had ...

Hello, New Year! Bye-Bye Bad Habits!

It happens every New Year without fail. We always say, “This is going to be MY year!” We make the “spontaneous” decision to reinvent ourselves. Everyone has their resolutions, but ...

Coping With Grief During The Holidays

I never really understood what it meant to grieve during the holidays until it happened to my own family.  My father had a massive heart attack that took his life ...

When It Rains, It Pours…

If you can relate to this title, you probably feel like you don’t have time to read through some thought out reasoning for why you should try this or that. ...

Harry Potter and the Journey Back Home

“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget how to live.” – Albus Dumbledore Expectations You might be faced with expectations from your family, friends and even yourself ...

Surviving the Crowds at Christmas

We are lucky to live up here on the Northside of Houston. We have wonderful schools, nice neighborhoods, access to great dog parks, and an outlet mall. Whether it is ...

Celebrating Successes and Lessons Learned

This month, I am going to take a step back from our goal-setting blogs. Instead, I will share a great technique I learned while spending the last 20 years of ...

How Much Sex Is Normal In A Marriage?

When sex is an issue in a relationship (it more than likely will be in all relationships) I often hear this question… How often should we be having sex? Great ...

Harry Potter and the Choice Within

“The world isn’t split into good people and Death Eaters. We’ve all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose to act on. That’s ...

Family Tradition

Growing up, my favorite holiday tradition was heading to the Hallmark store and picking out a new ornament for the Christmas tree. I still remember the first ornament I got ...

Codependency and Enmeshment

Codependency is a learned conduct that is often passed down through generations. It affects an individual’s ability to have healthy relationships. Relationships that have substance abuse, chronic mental illness, or ...

Thirty and Thriving: Structured Play Time Can Help Your Child

Today, parents are busier than ever before and disconnected from their children. Moms, dads, and caretakers… I have one question: Can you give attention to your child for thirty minutes ...

Choose Hope

Hope is essential to the therapeutic process One of the questions I always ask in my first few sessions is, “What are you hoping for?”  The answer to this question ...

Newlywed Christmas Traditions

Happy Holidays, friends! Last month, I wrote a blog on how to survive your first Thanksgiving as a married couple If this is also your first Christmas as a married ...

Living Positive

If you turned on the news today, you would be told that the world is dangerous and unhappy. All hope is lost, you’re not safe, and you’re in danger of ...

Be Kind

“Have courage and be kind.” – Cinderella Life can be stressful. In the midst of deadlines and schedules, we can often forget to be kind to one another. Each of ...

How Checking-In Can Save Your Marriage

I don’t know much about planes or how to fly them. However, I could watch a few youtube videos to figure it out. Still, I’ll leave it up to trained ...

Past, Present, and Future

This month, I want you to focus a little bit more on those things that you have accomplished, those things you are currently working on, and those things you will ...

True Gratefulness

"Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously.  All things have contributed to your advancement, so you would include ...

How Postpartum Stole Christmas!

Christmas time is approaching. The cups at Starbucks are now red, stores are selling stocking stuffers, treats to bring to the next gathering, and are blasting holiday tunes. You probably ...

Harry Potter and the Invisible Struggle

“Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean it is not real?”- Albus Dumbledore. Living with a mental illness is isolating. You ...

8 Lessons from Suicide Attempt Survivors

As devastating and serious as suicide is, it’s a topic that people hide away from. Because of this, many people are left to suffer in silence. Their closest loved ones ...

Community of Trust

How to create safety and independence for our children in the world today I recently listened to a podcast called Sorta Awesome. A licensed clinical social worker Leann Gardner (http://www.leanngardner.com) ...

Parents Playing Nice

Divorce is typically not someone’s first choice of outcome when they get married. However, sometimes things don’t go as planned and divorce becomes a part of the story. It’s never ...

Harry Potter and Difficult Decisions

“Dark times lie ahead of us and there will be a time when we must choose between what is easy and what is right”- Albus Dumbledore Making Decisions You learn ...

Self Love

We are constantly taught how to love others. Many people emphasize what love should look like. People encourage others to love the way the Bible says. 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 New ...

Newlyweds Guide to Your First Holiday Together

Newlyweds, don’t relax just yet. You are still in for a ride after the wedding day! As you start on the delicate, sometimes frustrating, task of combining you lives, there ...

What Is Sand Tray Therapy?

Sand tray therapy is a treatment modality that is used concurrently with most kinds of therapies. It is most beneficial when working with children, couples, and individuals that have experienced ...

Goaaaaaaaal!

These past several weeks have been quite busy for me. I have been working, going to school, and now I’m currently helping an old business friend set up her project ...

Is Your Marriage Child-Centered?

It is difficult to balance nurturing a marriage and the relationship with your kids. I don’t know a couple who doesn’t struggle with this. If you are caught in the ...

Raise Your Standards

This was a beautiful weekend – the sun was out, the wind was cool, and basically it was just a great day to be outside. Despite the great weather, I ...

Figuring Out Life

We often find ourselves on auto-pilot or in survival mode after we go through drastic life changes. The world is just passing us by as we go through the motions ...

Finding Inspiration and Hope in Harry Potter

I have always been a person who enjoys escaping to a new world with a movie, tv show, or good book. For me personally, there is no better book to ...

Weaken Your Inner Critic

“You’re weak... you just made another stupid mistake... you’ll never be good at this… you’re ugly… there’s something wrong with you.”  Does this sound familiar? The inner critic does not ...

Make Your Marriage Stronger by Asking for Less

What do you think a typical marriage looked like 200 years ago?  Do you think their ceremony vows included one of the popular options found from theknot.com below? I promise ...

Be Calm! Combating Negative Self-Talk

How do you self-talk? Are you nice? Or do you find that you criticize yourself harshly for the smallest mistakes? So often, we find ourselves in a pattern of negative ...

Let The Fight Happen

Relationships are really great. Whether they are romantic or platonic, finding someone you enjoy being around feels good. You begin to connect on different levels, create inside jokes, and learn ...

The Healing Power of Tears

"There is sacredness in tears. Tears are not the mark of weakness, but of power.  They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues.  They are messengers of overwhelming grief, and ...

What does transgender mean?

Understanding transgender youth is an important part of understanding the complexities of human nature. This blog is for you if you have a child who is exploring their gender. It ...

Help! How Do I Survive My Monster-In-Law?!

Wouldn’t it be grand if, when you chose your life partner, that’s all you get? Just the two of you alone in your own little bliss bubble – forever and ...

Ch-ch-ch-changes…Turn, and Face The Strange.

In the middle of my run yesterday, David Bowie’s, Changes, came on the overhead speakers. I have heard the song a thousand times, but rarely stopped to listen to his words. However, ...

Back On The Market

Have you recently found yourself single? If you were in a long-term relationship, the dating scene is probably completely different than when you left it. To some, the dating scene ...

Disability Awareness Month

There are currently 40 million Americans living with a disability.  People with disabilities of working age are employed at a rate below the general population.  One particular physical disability that ...

When You Hate Your Spouse

I enjoy a good Disney movie.  Is there a better one than Aladdin? That’s a rhetorical question because everyone knows it’s the best. Maybe I enjoy it because it has ...

No Means No

5 things to consider when it comes to teaching “consent” to your children I don’t think there is any good way to talk about this, so let’s just dive right ...

Domestic Violence: A Real Ghost Story and How You Can Help

Once October hits, a lot of us have the same thoughts in mind: autumn, football, sweater weather, pumpkin-spice everything, and preparing for Halloween. As much as I love spooky festivities, ...

What’s the Big Deal About Journaling?

The concept of journaling is not only for teenagers with sparkly spirals and colorful pens.  The benefits are applicable to all people, in all walks of life. Journaling has repeatedly ...

You Don’t Have To Wait For Things to Get “That Bad”

World champion swimmer, Michael Phelps, is one of the most successful athletes of all time. He's said, “You don’t have to wait for it to get that bad. Therapy isn’t ...

Rediscovery

Life is long and we go through so much stuff that, at times, we have to rediscover ourselves. Everyone has their own reasons for rediscovery. Some people have lost themselves ...

Letting Go of Control

“You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink”.  Over the past week, I heard this saying spoken a handful of times by individuals all across ...

Those Attractive Nuisances

I was speaking with a friend the other day about some “nice to haves” in a future house. Being a former collegiate swimmer, she mentioned that she loved the idea ...

It’s OK To Not Be OK

My current season of life is rough. Some days, I find my only victory is getting dressed. Self-care no longer looks like getting my nails done and sipping my favorite ...
Marriage Reboot: Keys to Sustaining a Long, Healthy Relationship, Amy Wine Counseling, Cypress, TX

Marriage Reboot: Keys to Sustaining a Long, Healthy Relationship

Twenty-two. That’s how many years of marriage I have under my belt. I met my husband while I was a senior in high school. I can remember the day we ...

Dear Tired Momma…

Don’t forget to take care of yourself! 6 SIMPLE self-care ideas for a busy (tired) momma 100% transparency here: Summer was THE WORST! Balancing work, being at home with my ...

What can you do to support someone living with depression?

Do’s and Don’ts of Supporting Someone with Depression Depression is not easy. It is complicated and different for each person who struggles with it. Sometimes, I wonder if people really ...

When Your Therapist Sucks

I have this theory about why people enjoy Chick-fil-A so much.  It isn’t the food, albeit it is tasty.  It deals with the one thing I’ve never experienced in a ...

Accepting Emotions

How many times have you found yourself in a difficult situation that brings up many emotions for you, but you believe you have to suppress those emotions and move on? ...
Helping Your Child Experience Success At School, Amy Wine Counseling, Cypress, TX

Youth Mental Health Issues: Helping Your Child Experience Success At School

Are you tired of getting those dreaded phone calls from your child’s teacher or principal or school counselor?  What has Timmy done now? How many days of in-school suspension will ...

Self-Improvement Month: Becoming BETTER Week-by-Week

As human beings, we are our own worst critics. Most of us are guilty of focusing on our weaknesses instead of our strengths. We all have areas we would like ...

Happy Wife, Happy Life: Wife Appreciation Day

Calling all husbands! On September 16th this year, it is Wife Appreciation Day – or, as many wives would probably like to prefer it, just your typical day! Wife Appreciation ...

Living a Life of Gratitude

What if I told you that implementing one small change in your daily life could have vast benefits for your social, mental, and physical health? That your life could be ...

How to Survive Becoming an Empty Nester

Part 2:  Thriving vs. Surviving the Empty Nest The tough part of becoming an empty nester is over!  You have already taken a ride on that not so fun emotional ...

Stress is Contagious! It’s Contagious!

As a Texan, there is a part of me that is deeply devoted to the fall. For one, it is the end of another brutal summer. Second, it is also ...

How to Beat the Monday Blues

Numerous individuals spend Sunday in a state of “dread” over the upcoming Monday. Anxiety is felt as work, school, projects, and deadlines flood our brains. So, what can we do ...

The Art of Good Sex

“We’re just not sexually compatible.” “Our bedroom life is boring.” “I don’t enjoy making love anymore.” These are words I have heard spoken in a session with couples. Here’s the ...

Who Are You?

Once upon a time I worked for an organization that helped provide mentors for children. My responsibility was to interview potential mentors and their potential mentee. Of course, they both ...

Am I Good Enough? How Far Does the Impact of Cyberbullying Go?

Cyberbullying and the effects on self-worth. As I was browsing through my Facebook, I noticed a status that was disturbing- but not shocking in anyway. Someone posted: “If a girl ...

Increasing Connection Through Movement

It is no secret that most people nowadays need more exercise. Turn on the TV or pick up a magazine and you will see dozens of ads, interviews, and articles ...

Living My Best Life

One of today’s new popular sayings is, “I am living my best life.” Everyone has their own idea of what it means to live their best life. As I have ...

Is Your Relationship Toxic?

Things are bad. You’re dissatisfied. You want connection, but they seem to not care as much. You have been unhappy for a while. Are these telltale signs you are in ...

Cultivating Lasting Friendships

Social isolation is a growing epidemic throughout the world today thanks to social media and ever-changing societal norms. Research conducted by Julianne Holt-Lundstad, a psychology professor at Brigham Young University, ...

The True Definition of Forgiveness

The first step to understanding forgiveness is learning what it means. Forgiveness is willfully abandoning resentment and related responses relevant to past wrongdoings.  Forgiveness is based on the moral principle ...

How to Survive Becoming an Empty Nester

Part 1: The Departure and Remaining Connected You survive by distracting yourself with planning the high school graduation celebration, followed by shopping for college necessities… but now the day is ...

The Silent Killer

The UK began a campaign to combat obesity, heart disease, and depression in 2011. This campaign was not centralized around medication, physical activity or any other individualistic endeavor.  UK’s Campaign ...

Conflict and Communication

Communication can be a pervasive issue in relationships. From marriages to parent-child, to boss-employee relationships, communication is key. Conflicts are something that come up in all types of relationships and ...

It’s Not Your Job to Make Your Spouse Happy

I am going to tell you something about making your spouse happy that I wish you heard a long time ago.  It might sound ludicrous, but hang in there with ...

How to Prepare For a Smooth Transition Back to School

The back-to-school season can be stressful for families. Everyone has to adjust back to the school year routine and there can be new activities in this routine. For kids, the ...

Breaking Up is Hard to Do

The end of a relationship is complicated. In some way or another your future, present, and past have collided together all at once. You may find yourself anxious about the ...

Helping Children Cope With Separation and Divorce

Going through a separation or divorce is emotional for both adults and children. Children frequently do not understand the reason or meaning behind a divorce, thus creating confusion, anger, and ...

What Does Success Mean to You?

What does success mean to you? How will you know you've made it? Often times we get so focused on work and managing life that we never stop to ask ...

Postpartum Depression: How A Husband Can Help

Police found the lifeless body of 28-year-old mother, Elizabeth Davis, in a creek on Thursday, July 19th. Elizabeth, or Libby, was a special education teacher in Plano, TX. She suffered ...

3 Ways to Increase Happiness in Your Life

When was the last time you asked yourself, “Am I happy?” Don’t be too hard on yourself. This is not a question most people ask themselves on the regular. Everyone ...

The Importance of Self-Reflection

Many of us view self-reflection as something that should be done once a year to determine our New Year resolutions- as pointless and a waste of time.We are often focused ...

The Power of Loneliness

  Isn’t it unusual that a world more virtually connected than ever before is also the loneliest? Loneliness is defined as a complex and unpleasant emotion in response to isolation. ...

Life Transitions

There are some things in life that are given. For example, seasons change, children grow up, birthdays come, and careers change. Life continues to move forward during each transition. We ...

What Causes a Panic Attack?

“I’m freaking out!” Panic attacks are scary because they typically occur suddenly and without cause.  This creates more fear, which just perpetuates the attack. One of the things that makes ...

It’s Time To Make a Change

We’ve all struggled with that one particular goal that is left unmet. For some, the change might be losing weight. For others, it is a bad habit they would like ...

How Much Is Your Marriage Worth?

$33,391 Is that how much a down payment on a house costs? What about the cost of a new vehicle? Nope. It’s the average amount of money spent by American ...

Vulnerability: A Sign of Strength

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.” – Brene Brown Vulnerability can be defined as allowing yourself to be ...

Family Boundaries: Sliding Door vs. Brick Wall

Blurred family boundaries have repercussions. At best, they can be annoying. At worst, they’re completely soul-crushing. We’ve all seen examples: The siblings who constantly pester each other. The helicopter parent. ...

How to Let Go of Being Right

Do you or your spouse always feel the need to be right?  Do either of you need to have the last word during a conflict or get frustrated when the ...

Summertime Blues: A Closer Look at Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

As a former teacher, I often longed for sweet summertime by the beginning of May. I could not wait to relax by the pool, take my children on summer adventures, ...

Disciplining a Child With Trauma

Parenting is a difficult topic even in the best situations. Everyone has their own ideas and opinions on how best to discipline their children. Things become even more convoluted for ...

Maximize the Fun in Family Vacations

  School’s out, sun’s out. This can only mean one thing: Summer’s here and it’s time to have some fun! Research tells us that having fun is one of the ...

When Trauma Decides to Stay

Understanding 3 common symptoms of PTSD We often associate PTSD with war and soldiers in today’s society. However, anyone who has experience trauma in their life can have PTSD. What ...

3 Questions Every Father Should Ask Himself

The importance of this role has been on my mind with Father’s Day being this month. I start by reflecting on the relationship I have with my father. To begin, ...

Managing Screen Time This Summer

Parents may be concerned with the amount of screen time their child is engaging in with summer upon us and school structure gone. Children turn towards technology to relieve restlessness ...

Silence is (Not Always) Golden

  80% of my job is to listen well.  Listening involves being silent and it is one of the best tools to implement in any relationship, especially your marriage.  There’s ...

What Is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own and other's emotions.  The 3 parts of emotional intelligence are emotional awareness, managing emotions, and applying emotions to problem ...

Breaking Down the Fortress of Resentment

Challenges and disagreements are inevitable as a couple grows through time. Life presents the relationship with opportunities to develop a closer bond or build what could be the most difficult ...

Surviving Summer as a Stay-at-Home Mom

A summer self-care guide It’s finally here! The time of the year your kids have been talking about and looking forward to all year long!  SUMMER TIME!! As all the ...

What is Pride Month?

  Happy Pride Month! To begin, it is important that I highlight this pride-filled month as a therapist that provides counseling services for the LGBTQ+ community. An overwhelming number of ...

Masking Mental Illness

Recently, I was shocked to hear about the passing of one of my favorite designers, Kate Spade. To me, she had it all going for her. Her purses and clothing ...
Tips to Help Teens Talk to Parents, Amy Wine Counseling, Cypress TX

Tips to Help Teens Talk to Parents

As teens, it is 100% normal to want to avoid- if at all possible- talking to your parents!  However, it’s important to create and maintain an environment in which you ...

Bedtime Anxiety : Helping Your Child Sleep Alone

Bedtime Anxiety Children and adolescents with bedtime anxiety find comfort and security being close in proximity to their parents or another sibling. They may throw tantrums or plead with you ...

6 Ideas for Becoming a Better Listener in Your Marriage

Communication issues is by far the number one complaint I hear in couples counseling.  When I say, ‘by far’, I mean there’s nothing remotely close. There are 8 basic parts ...

Couples Diffusing Arguments with Repair Attempts

“I’m sorry” are two of the most important words couples can use. Vital. Life-altering. Forgiveness and reconciliation is the glue of marriage. Unfortunately, it’s easier said than done. First, we ...
Talking to Your Children About Suicide, Sarah Howard, Amy Wine Counseling Cypress TX

Talking to Your Children About Suicide – Why it’s Important

PSA:  It is PAST time to be having conversations about suicide with our children!  According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, we are seeing higher levels of children (ages 5-17) ...
3 Steps in Selecting a Counselor, Amy Wine Counseling, Cypress, TX

3 Steps in Selecting a Counselor

You’re are at a point in your life where you realize you need help. Things are out of control, you’ve lost your happiness and life just doesn’t seem fulfilled anymore. ...
Dating and Thinking About Getting Married? Ask Yourself These Questions First!

Dating and Thinking About Getting Married? Ask Yourself These Questions First!

‘Hypothetical’ conversation: Me: So, you’re thinking about getting married? Person: Yes! They are the one! Me: How do you know they’re the one? Person: I just feel it. Me: What ...
The Benefits of Journaling

The Benefits of Journaling

Journaling is a therapeutic tool or strategy prescribed by many therapists to help people who may be struggling with a variety of life issues. Reflection through journaling may help to ...
Playing the Rivalry Game, Amy Wine Counseling, Cypress, TX

Playing the Rivalry Game

Sibling rivalry and peer rivalry are part of life. As human beings, it is natural to want to know where your child ranks in comparison to other children even their ...
Monitoring Your Kids Phone, Amy Wine Counseling, Cypress, TX

Monitoring Your Kids Phone

Monitoring Your Kids Phone I’m sure it’s difficult to be a parent. You do your best to enforce rules and raise respectful kids, just to have them find thousands (and ...
3 Benefits of Men Going to Therapy, Amy Wine Counseling, Cypress, TX

3 Benefits of Men Going to Therapy

For this blog I want to talk to the men, my apologies to the women, please feel free to pass along the info in this blog to the important men ...
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The Difference Between Empathy and Sympathy

Empathy and Sympathy Two words that are often used interchangeably are empathy and sympathy.  Although both have comparable meanings, they are unmistakably dissimilar.   Sympathy is described as a feeling of ...
Power of Music Listen to Your Heart, Amy Wine, Cypress Texas

Power of Music – Listen to Your Heart

Music is a Bridge It can move your soul, build memories, create connections with others. It is a universal experience for all humans. We may not all enjoy the same ...
Is Sex Therapy for Me? 5 Answers to Commonly Asked Questions, Amy Wine Counseling, Cypress, TX

Is Sex Therapy for Me? 5 Answers to Commonly Asked Questions

Every couple struggles with sex at some point in their relationship. To begin, differences in how often you want sex or what type of things you prefer doing can separate ...
Giving 100% Amy Wine, Cypress, TX

Life Balance versus Giving 100%

Life Balance Imagine you have an empty cup and that you could fill it with five different kinds of juice to make a fancy juice blend. Now, pretend the 5 ...
Learning To Say “No”, Amy Wine, Cypress, Texas

Learning To Say “No”

“Sure, I’ll help you with that.” “Yes, I’ll do that for you.”  “No problem at all.”  “No, I don’t mind.” Does this sound familiar to you?  Are you always saying ...
Practicing Gratitude, Cypress Texas

Practicing Gratitude

Since 2013, my husband and I have had the tradition of keeping what we call a “Good Things Jar.” In January, we pick out a new jar and decorate it ...
Eating Disorders are not just a Female Issue, Cypress, Texas

Eating Disorders are Not Just a Female Issue

  The National Eating Disorder Association (NEDA) explains that although eating disorders impact those in all genders, socioeconomic statuses, and racial groups the “stereotypical person with anorexia nervosa is a ...
Dating Your Spouse on the Cheap

Dating Your Spouse on a Budget

Fanning the flame of desire in your marriage doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg it can be fun and stay in budget!  Date nights (or days) ...
The Benefits of Journaling

Breaking Down Trauma and It’s Many Facets

One of the most over utilized words in society today is the word trauma.  It is misused, misinterpreted, and frankly misunderstood.  Psychological trauma is defined as a type of damage ...

Steps to Fighting Fair

Typically, when couples disagree, a calm conversation is all that is needed to find common ground and resolve the situation. After all, contrary to popular belief, it is completely HEALTHY ...
3 Common Myths of Christian Counseling

3 Common Myths of Christian Counseling

Some people might want to see a Christian Counselor because it resonates with their belief system, but what should you expect? Are we going to just read the Bible together? ...

Restore Intimacy in 4 Steps

  Is your marriage lacking intimacy? Has the affection gone from your relationship? As a marriage therapist, this is one of the primary complaints that has brought many of my ...

Effective Parenting in a Changing World

Parenting is the most challenging job there is.  No debates necessary. The stakes are high. Effective parents set out to rear productive, responsible members of society.  Our hope is that ...

Mental Health in the African American Community

With it being Black History Month I wanted this blog to focus on mental health in the African American community. Mental Health Statistics in the African American Community* In 2014, ...

More Love: Parents and Poop

What’s really happening in the brains of new parents? When my husband and I found out we were pregnant, we were showered with encouragement.  The “Congratulations!” were mixed with comments ...

More Love: Building Love Maps

This month’s Love Series will help you with rediscovering love through a fun activity called Love Maps! Celebrating Valentine’s Day “right” is a source of stress for many couples. A ...

More Love: Open Relationships

As we are in the month of love, I want to talk about all different types of intimate relationships. There are couples, “throuples”, “situationships”, partners and open relationships becoming popular ...

More Love: Adoptive Parents

When I first started this blog post I had a pretty straightforward idea of what it would look like. I was going to describe adoption as something that comes from ...

More Love: Accepting Influence

Think about the first big argument with your spouse.  Can you even remember?  Thinking back, was it absurd?  I’m going to quickly share mine, trusting you are not going to ...

More Love: Marriage Reboot

Twenty-two. That’s how many years of marriage I have under my belt. I met my husband while I was a senior in high school. I can remember the day we ...

Fondness and Admiration

Although the holidays are over, we may be still riding the high of a new closeness that developed throughout the season towards our spouse. Whether it’s a grand gesture of ...

Feelings vs Thoughts

  Have you ever wondered why it is so difficult to have a logical thought when you get angry?  It’s almost like your brain is hijacked, and someone has replaced ...
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Client Questions, Part 2

As promised, here is the second installment of questions you wish you could ask you therapist, but may be afraid to. Let's jump right in: 1. Do you look me ...
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Marriage Shouldn’t Be Fair

All you have to do to ruin your marriage is play fair. I have three kids. – I know this post is supposed to be about marriage, just hang with ...

Mental Health Professionals 101

When faced with a challenge, sometimes it is difficult to determine what type of help is most suited for your needs.  Mental health professionals are varied in their level of ...

5 Signs You’re Gonna Make It

As a couple’s therapist, one of the most difficult questions I am asked is “Are we going to make it?”. The beauty of relationships, and the reason this specific area ...

The Perfectionism Paradox

I remember the first time I submitted a blog for Amy Wine Counseling. It was an absolutely terrifying experience. Thoughts of “what if people don’t like it” and “what if ...

Questions You’ve Always Wanted to Ask Your Therapist: Part 1

Have you ever wanted to ask your therapist something, but were afraid to do so?  Well, have no more fear.  Over the next couple of blogs, I will answer some ...

Mom Guilt

Around 2 years ago, I can remember having a conversation with a friend about how I wasn’t going to be “one of those Moms” that felt guilty about every decision ...
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Resolutions: It’s the Final Countdown!

At Amy Wine Counseling, our team is always looking for ways to increase our client's success. Our job is not to create goals for you, but to come alongside and ...

The Platinum Rule

Be careful who you ask to define the Golden Rule. You might hear, “The person with the gold makes the rules!”.  Any smart husband or wife would never define it ...
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Can Play Be Therapy?

The practice of play therapy dates back to the early 1900’s.  Almost every theoretical orientation such as Adlerian, Jungian, Gestalt, Behavioral, and Cognitive has a play therapy component.  Child centered ...

What Can Christmas Teach Us?

Well folks, ‘tis the season to be jolly! Of course, life is hard, and we may have had our share of troubles throughout the year, but the holidays are a ...

Your Best Self

Self-care in a time like this is so needed. During the holidays, I constantly watch people get angry over necessary—and sometimes unnecessary—reasons on social media and in person because emotions ...
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Surviving Holiday FAQs

The holidays are really great. It’s an opportunity to get together with friends and family you haven’t seen in a while, indulge in some delicious food, and rejuvenate for the ...

The Unwelcomed Holiday Guest

Is there a time of year that is more food focused than the November/December holiday season? The amount of food and diet talk that pops up around the holidays rivals ...

Winter Blues? Or are You S.A.D.?

As the weather changes and temperatures drop, sometimes our moods follow suit.  Some people experience increased sadness and sluggishness during the fall and winter months.  Winter blues, for some is ...

Surviving the Holidays with Your In-Laws

As I sit here, taking a break from all the holiday baking I am responsible for this year, a sense of relief comes over me. This year, I am not ...

So Many Books, So Little Time

Often times in my sessions, clients’ will ask me “What books can I be reading right now to help me with x-y-z?”   You would think that after a few years, ...

Adoption Disruption

Earlier I wrote a blog post about adoption counseling, highlighting the approach taken by adoption competent counselors. As an adoption counselor, one of the most challenging things for me is ...
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Quick Intimacy

Let’s be honest, if left unchecked, marriage can become monotonous.  Intimacy decreases as individuals have their daily routines. Spouses can get used to using the same old surface level questions; ...
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Managing ODD

Are you the parent of a child diagnosed with ODD? Are you doing your best to parent your child with little progress?  You are not alone.  Research suggests that as ...
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The Scoop on Potty Training

It has been long debated when the best time to start potty training should commence.  What age is most appropriate? 18 months? 24 months?  Does anybody know?  Early potty training ...
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#MeToo… I think?: Debunking Sexual Harassment Myths

If you’ve had any connection with the outside world, you have probably noticed the increased attention being given to sexual harassment.  Specifically, the hashtag “#metoo” has been bringing awareness to ...