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Embracing the holidays, COVID style

Embracing the Holidays, COVID Style

Without a doubt, COVID-19 has impacted every person in big ways and small ways, across a variety of situations. For almost 8 months, each individual across the globe has had ...

How to Make the Most of Your Holiday Season Despite COVID-19

For many, the holiday season was the metaphorical “light at the end of the tunnel” for 2020. Happily, holiday season is officially in full swing; however, it is unfortunately not ...
Examples of Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries, Part 2: Examples of Healthy Boundaries

In last week's blog post, we introduced the idea of boundaries.  To recap, boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways ...
Boundaries - Why In The World Are They Important?

Boundaries: Why In The World Are They Important?

Your decisions are disregarded. You take on the blame for something that is not your fault. You feel frustration or resentment about how others treat you. You experience shame. You ...
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“Positive Vibes Only”: The Danger of Toxic Positivity Culture

I am sure you have heard generally well-meaning phrases like “everything happens for a reason” or “it will all work out in the end.” I am also sure that the ...

Experiencing Information Fatigue? Creating intentional boundaries around what we look at and listen to

What we think affects how we feel.   The information we input has impacts on what we output. In this day and age of a pandemic, racial tension, an upcoming election, ...

Codependence: The struggle to own YOUR reality

Difficulty owning your own reality is a crucial symptom to address in the pursuit to overcome codependent-linked thoughts, beliefs, and actions. “Codependents often report that they don’t know who they ...

The Struggle Is Real: Navigating the Unknown as the School Year Approaches

Whether or not you have children or work as a teacher, without a doubt you are privy to the current struggles and challenges related to the rapidly approaching school year. ...

Overcoming the Fear of Change

Understanding the 5 stages of change How do you respond to change?  Do you embrace it with all that you have or do you avoid it at all costs?  Can ...

Being OK with Surviving

When you think of being in “survival mode,” what comes to mind? Surviving on scraps, you find in the wilderness? Jumping at every sudden noise with a knife in hand?  ...

Coping: Healthy or Unhealthy?

Life is full of stress.  Some of the stress on us comes in the form of the positive (eustress) and some in the form of the negative (distress), however regardless ...

Is it time to say YES to counseling?

I have been a practicing Licensed Professional Counselor for 13 years. I have treated hundreds of men, women, teens, and couples. I have seen many people have great success in ...

Jesus and Anxiety: faith and struggle are not mutually exclusive

I love Jesus. And I also struggle. I am no stranger to fear and worry and anxiety. For years I was told things like “just trust God more” and “worry ...

A New Normal? Navigating Feelings About the World Opening Back Up.

Over the past two months, we have collectively experienced a first.  For most of us, we have never lived through a pandemic and all that comes with it.  We have ...

How to Continue: Embracing the New Normal

It goes without saying; the world is no longer the same. The simplest interactions of yesterday are no more. It is safe to assume that all ages and demographics have ...

Making Mental Health a Priority in the Midst of Financial Uncertainty

According to a recent Gallup poll, 50% of Americans say that their financial situation is getting worse.  The unemployment rate is sitting at 14.7%, the highest rate this country has ...

Conversations in Isolation

For most, regional stay-at-home orders have created an opportunity for unprecedented amounts of time at home with our partners. This scenario will unequivocally yield to more time to interact with ...

Tackling Family Challenges: A teen’s guide to surviving and thriving in the midst of conflict

Conflict is inevitable.  As long as we have relationships, we will experience conflict.  Research even shows that conflict can be a vital part of strengthening relationships, as we work to ...

Supporting Your Teen Through the Quarantine

For most of us, it has been more than six weeks of practicing social distancing.  Six weeks of learning a new normal, of experiencing the missed events and connections, and ...

Can Kids Learn Mindfulness? 6 tips on how to do just that!

In simple terms, mindfulness is being focused on the present moment and yes, kids can learn how to implement mindfulness into their daily lives.  Mindfulness is a learned skill that ...

How Internal Dialogue Influences Your Daily Life

Studies show that we have an average of around 50,000 thoughts per day. Wow, we really are in constant dialogue with ourselves. Those thoughts can be positive, negative, or neutral. ...

Keeping the Spark Alive During Quarantine

The novel virus, COVID-19, has ushered in a novel way of life for couples and families. Stay-at-home orders across the country have yielded unprecedented amounts of time for togetherness for ...

How To: Use DBT Skill: DEAR MAN to Communicate Effectively

Uncomfortable emotions and/or a general lack of skill to put thoughts and feelings into perspective- let alone words- often get in the way of communicating effectively. DBT Skill: DEAR MAN ...

How to: Effectively handle crisis situations using Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Skills

So you just discovered your spouse is having an affair. The doctor just disclosed a diagnosis of a serious medical condition you thought was just a cold. Your life has ...

How to Love Yourself (when struggling with mental illness)

 As children we are taught how to be kind to others, respect others, love others. However, very rarely are we taught how to be kind to ourselves, respect ourselves, love ...

8 Strategies to Show Yourself Some Love: Learning the Art of Self-Care as a Teenager

Years ago I heard an analogy that has stuck with me.  We are all buckets, containers in which water can be put into.  As we move through life, our buckets ...

Ways for Parents to Decrease Stress and Increase Positivity Amidst the Chaos of Covid-19

Attention all parents!  Feeling stressed during this difficult time?  The struggle is real!  You are not alone.  Here are 5 things to consider that will keep you on the path ...

When Your Spouse is on the Virus Front Lines – To the Spouses of First Responders and Healthcare Workers

You are the person behind the scenes of the front lines. You aren’t answering the emergency calls, walking the hospital ward, or in contact with virus positive people every day ...

“Into the Unknown”: Welcoming the Interruptions

Imagine taking a stroll down a beautiful green forest with wonderfully scented flowers, creatures of different types making their calls to each other, a calm stream of water to your ...

5 Easy Ways to Start to Find “Normal”

I never realized how heavily I relied on “structure” until now.  I knew I liked it, I knew it was a part of our routine, but it has been over ...

Senior Year Sadness: Missing Anticipated Milestones of High School

The COVID-19 outbreak has utterly changed day-to-day life as we know it. A simple trip to the grocery store is no longer an act to take for granted. Among these ...

During These Scary Times, I Hope You’re Taking Care of Yourself: Coronavirus and Reducing Anxiety

When it comes to the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic, there's what you see, there's what you hear, and after taking it all in, there's how it all makes you feel. There ...

Finding Peace When the World Around Us Feels Out of Control

We are in the midst of uncharted territory as a country, a world, and as individuals.  Every day we hear and take in new information, adjust plans, and manage our ...

First Responder and COVID19

You are on the front lines of this crisis. So many other people are talking about things to keep themselves busy during this time, and you are wishing you had ...

A Deeper Look Into Grief and Loss

The concept of grief is often associated closely with death/loss of a loved one. However, grief can occur as a result of any kind of loss. Other types of loss ...

Becoming a Stepfamily: Delivered and Redeemed

Step-family counseling and pre-step family counseling looks very different than counseling your average couple and family. The dynamics are different and there are specific considerations to make when coming together. ...

How Radical Acceptance (and not Approval) Will Help You Get Through It

I often hear clients tell me that they can't accept it - that if they accept it, they feel like they're approving of it; they feel like approval for a ...

Grieving What Once Was: So, Are We Still Friends?

We have all heard that saying: Life happens. We meet some great people. We text and call each other at the craziest times, share hilarious situations that happened at parties, ...

“Am I Mad or Just Hungry?” – How Not To Light Everything On Fire When Your Physical Needs Aren’t Met

Eating, sleeping, resting – all of these are just basic physical needs right?  However… these needs are basically non-existent for some. How many of us feel like we are constantly ...

Becoming a Step-Family

Step-family counseling and pre-step family counseling looks very different than counseling your average couple and family. The dynamics are different and there are specific considerations to make when coming together. ...

Surviving Cabin Fever – You Don’t Have To Strangle Everyone While Being Safe

Being quarantined, whether self regulated or government mandated, is never fun. Since we are in Houston, we are used to hiding away for a few days at a time for ...

Stop Being a Control Freak!

As a bit of a control freak myself, I may be a little biased here, but being a control freak isn’t all bad! Another way to look at it is ...

How To: Use DBT Skill DEARMAN to Communicate Effectively

Uncomfortable emotions and/or a general lack of skill to put thoughts and feelings into perspective- let alone words- often get in the way of communicating effectively. Not having the skills ...

How to Be a Supportive Spouse When Your Partner is Sick

The sniffles start, then comes the sneezing, and then the fever. The head fog and body aches follow shortly behind. You wash your hands a little bit longer than usual, ...

4 Tips to Help You Make Friends as an Adult (Because it’s Hard!)

Being an avid gym-goer, I see many faces at the gym. For the most part, everyone keeps to themselves, but you start to recognize more faces than others after a ...

It’s You & Me vs. The World

Have you ever thought back to when you were dating your spouse and felt like there was nothing in the world that you two couldn’t tackle together? You saw your ...

When Your Toddler’s Big Emotions Give You Big Emotions!

A couple months ago I shared a post on my Instagram (@realtalkandrainbowscounseling – you should follow me!) about bringing my toddler in to my own therapist to help us both ...

Crisis Situations & Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Skills

So you just discovered your spouse is having an affair. The doctor just disclosed a diagnosis of a serious medical condition you thought was just a cold. Your life has ...

When Going to Church is Hard

Confession: Going to church has been hard lately. I can’t remember exactly when it started. As a believer, attending church regularly is something that is important to me. I felt ...

Parents Having Confident Conversations

Whenever I am in session, doing a group talk, or casually speaking with parents, the frequently asked question starts with these curious words: How do I tell my child/teen (fill ...

Thoughtful Valentine’s Day Gifts Without Breaking the Bank

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner! We’re starting to see chocolate boxes and flowers on display at stores. Hearts and Cupid silhouettes are adorning the windows and hanging from ...

How to Talk to Someone That is Grieving

Death and loss are inevitable. They’re the most sure things about life. For some reason, though, we can get weird around the topic of death. Society has a few blanket ...

Date Night…In? A How To Guide!

You’ve done all the right things, you’ve scheduled the babysitter, made reservations, picked out an outfit and have been looking forward to this date night with your spouse all week. ...

How to Love Yourself (When Struggling with Mental Illness)

 As children we are taught how to be kind to others, respect others, love others. However, very rarely are we taught how to be kind to ourselves, respect ourselves, love ...

A Letter to My Clients That Are Mothers

“Many believe parenting is about controlling children’s behavior and training them to act like adults. I believe that parenting is about controlling my own behavior and acting like an adult ...

Dear Mama: A Letter of Recognition & Encouragement

Dear Mama, So, no one told you life would be this…wait. Let me restart. So, you became a mother? Perhaps while preparing for motherhood, you relished in anticipation of raising ...

Unhealthy Friendships in Adulthood

Something I work on with my clients ALL. THE. TIME. is how to identify healthy relationships. No, I don't just mean romantic relationships. We're SO hyper-focused on romantic relationships as ...

How to Save Your Relationship from the Rise of Technology

As glorious and convenient as it is to have the entire world at our fingertips, Americans now spend an average of 3-4 hours a day on their mobile phones. For ...

“So, I don’t know how to say this, but…”: Why it’s important to have awkward conversations with your therapist

Have you ever had an “awkward” therapy experience? What was your response? Did you ghost your therapist? Did you cancel all future appointments and find someone else? Did you give ...

An Open Letter To The Parents of My Child and Adolescent Clients

Hi! I’m the quirky redhead in crazy socks and changing color hair that shakes your hand every week before taking your kid to either the magical toy room or my ...

When Children of Divorce Become Adults

Being a child of divorce is hard…it’s fairly public knowledge. What many of us are not discussing is what happens to the children when they become adults. The pain of ...

Staying True to Yourself Under Pressure

Staying true to your values and beliefs can be difficult, especially when you’re under pressure. It might be peer pressure, or maybe it is pressure at work or home. No ...

A Lesson From the Honeybee: Working with What You’ve Got

My LPC Supervisor (shoutout Megan Garzaglass woohoo you’re amazing!) encourages me to no end. She likes to remind me about that popular story about how the honey bee aerodynamically should ...

4 Steps on How to Be Assertive This Year

Happy 2020, readers! Not only are we entering a new year, but we are entering a new decade. Reflect for a moment and envision what you want this next chapter ...

Five TED Talks to Spark New Thoughts in the New Year

We are at the beginning of a new year! Full of time when many of us make resolutions about how we are going to improve our minds, our bodies, and ...

Regain Control: Reconnecting with Your New Year Resolution(s)

The new year is in full swing. How are those New Year’s resolutions coming along? If the answer is Great! – well keep on rocking! Great job! If the answer ...

Get Real With Your Resolutions

 You celebrated with your nearest and dearest! The New Year’s Eve celebrations are over.  It is time to set your sights on the year that lies ahead. If you are ...

Redefining the Practice of Patience

My sweet Izzy (my second oldest dog) doesn't seem to have much longer on this earth. She's the kind of dog that stares into your soul with the biggest smile ...

The Affair Series: Attunement

After an affair, and during affair recovery, we follow three steps in counseling: atonement, attunement, and re-attachment. During attunement, couples have decided that they can move forward with forgiveness, ready ...

Sometimes Life Just Sucks..and That’s OK

The Truth. Authenticity – it’s something that we crave, we seek after, we talk about, but when it faces us, it’s often uncomfortable and we don’t know what to do ...

Celebrating the Holidays as an Interfaith Couple

Holidays Can Work with an Interfaith Couple The holidays are a wonderful time of celebration, giving, and spending time with family. However, for some they're also a time of great ...

Minimizing to Maximize: Exploring the benefits of a Minimalist Lifestyle

The end of a calendar year ushers in a sense of hope and the desire for new aspirations. As we anticipate the new year, it is typical to set goals ...

“It’s Not If, It’s When” – Managing Anxiety for Parents of Kids with Chronic Illnesses

You’re not worried if the bridge is going to collapse while driving.  You’re not losing sleep about if all the pillows are lined up straight downstairs on the couch.  You’re ...

5 Easy Ways to Avoid Holiday Burnout This Year

As the holiday’s approach, I find myself with a growing sense of dread due to the amount of “holiday things” that go on our calendar.  Parties, events, family gatherings, shows…you ...

Why “Thankful Season” Should Last All Year Long in Your Relationship: Part 2

I recently posted “Part 1” exploring why you should practice gratitude every day, every moment - not just on Thanksgiving. Here are some signs you need to make gratitude a ...

A Holiday Wellness Check: Enjoying the season on your own terms

gjoyjoy‘Tis the season for all things jolly and bright! With Thanksgiving just around the corner, the holiday season is officially in full swing. This is the time of year for ...

The Affair Series: Atonement

Affairs don’t always have to mean the end of a relationship. In fact, there is research that indicates that sometimes couples come back stronger after recovering through the affair. According ...

Kindness Always Wins

Do Things For People Not Because of Who They Are or What They Do In Return, But Because of Who You Are – Harold S. Kushner   Being kind not ...

‘Tis Always the Season to be Grateful

Now that the holidays are in full swing, everyone is definitely feeling a little more festive, merrier, and happier. Let’s be honest, it’s a LOT easier to show gratitude and ...

Ways to Deepen Your Relationship Part 2

It is amazing how a couple can go from a loving, respectful, deep connection with their partner to living like two strangers in the same house.  Is this what has ...

“How’s Your Day Going?” – How to Connect with your Partner

Typical Email Exchange: “How’s your day going love?”  “It’s going, you?”  “Same, I miss you.”  “Miss you too, what are dinner plans?”  The above is pretty much a copy/paste from ...

Your Anxiety Monster is Calling

We often think as our anxiety as a monster lurking under our bed that only gets bigger as we get older. He feeds on our insecurities, never-ending life stressors, every ...

The Gradual Normalization of Mental Health

Mental health is an increasingly relevant topic. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), one in five American adults experience a mental health issue in their life time. ...

Grieving Unmet Expectations

When you think of grief, it is likely what comes Sad flowers to mind is bereavement and grief after someone passes away. Grieving is something much deeper and wider than ...

Living Vicariously Through Your Child

To live vicariously through your child often means to push your own ambitions onto your offspring in order to gain a feeling of success or achievement.  More than anything, most ...

How to Deepen Your Relationship, Part I

If you stop for a moment and take a good look at the relationship you have with your partner, are you connecting on a deep and intimate level?  Or do ...

The Affair Series: The Windows and Walls of Affair Relationships

Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli, in their book Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity, reference how affairs occur to relationships that seem apparently solid ...

Turning Our “Yes” Into a “Hell, Yes” by Saying it Less Often

We are getting into holiday season! Enter in the excited butterflies and overall groans as we wince under the weight of additional responsibilities. Kids activities, spouse holiday parties, crunching more ...

Self Care in 5 Minutes or Less for the Busy Mom

When it came time to write this article, my partner asked me what felt alive for me in life at the moment. My response? “Sleep!” Self care Sleep and other ...

The Unavoidable Guilt of Screen Time

Child on cell phone As the parent of two preschoolers, it often feels like parental guilt is a staple in my day-to-day routines. I feel guilty for not offering my ...

Why “Thankful Season” Should Last All Year Long in Your Relationship

Gratitude It’s thankful season! Each year, we gather around and one-by-one share what we’re grateful for. We likely put more thought into what we appreciate on that one day than ...

What to Know About Caring for Someone with a Terminal Illness

Everyone has a different reaction when a loved one is diagnosed with a terminal illness.  When we found out that my mother had cancer, we were at a loss for ...

Stop Should-ing on Yourself

I have a birthday coming up. I’ve always loved celebrating my birthday, but this year feels a little different. As I’m approaching another year of my life, I am increasingly ...
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Your Past Self Keeps Knocking – Here’s Why (and How) You Should Answer the Door: Part 1

Is It In the Past? You probably hear things like “the past is the past” and “you should just let it go” often – they’re common sayings. In part, this ...
Scared Silent - Breaking the Stigma Around Suicidal Ideation

Scared Silent – Breaking the Stigma Around Suicidal Ideation

Phrases I Have Heard “Please don’t call the hospital.”  “Don’t be scared, it’s not that bad.”  “Don’t freak out.”  “I don’t know, I don’t want you to panic or worry.” ...

Connection Connection: Read All About It!

Individuals have many needs- both physical, emotional, and spiritual. The focus of this series has been taking a dive into the nine different emotional needs. When someone is suffering, we ...

Maternal Suicide: Mom’s Are Not Immune

September marks Suicide Awareness Month across the globe. This is an especially important and vulnerable topic to address because the effects of suicide are far reaching. It touches many lives. ...
Suicide: What to Know

Suicide: What to Know

World Suicide Prevention Day is held on September 10, 2019 to create worldwide awareness with a focus on raising commitment and action to prevent suicide.  According to WHO, approximately one ...

To those who have lost someone to suicide,

You Are Not Alone September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. Initially, you may appreciate the statistics and the acknowledgment. When the month ends, though, you may feel complete invalidation. No ...

Suicide Preparations, A Calm Before the Storm

The Time Between Preparations to end your life. It’s a stage that isn’t often talked about. We discuss the thoughts leading up to it, and then we discuss the actions ...
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The Back-to-School Reset

School is back in session for districts across the country. The start of the academic school year sets a number of actions in motion for parents: clothes and school supply ...
Surviving back to school while married

Surviving Back to School… While Married!

Back to School... Pursuing higher education is stressful, but sometimes, it’s a plunge you just have to take – whether it’s to finish something you started years ago and finally ...

Pay Attention To Me…. Also, Give Me Space!

Individuals have many needs- both physical, emotional, and spiritual. The focus of this series has been taking a dive into the nine different emotional needs. When someone is suffering, we ...

What To Consider Before Letting Your Child Have a Sleepover

An educated parent is the best one to choose if and when a sleepover is appropriate for their child.  As a parent, if you do choose to let your child ...

An Open Letter to My Psychotherapy Clients

You walk into my office thinking I’m the expert. You glance at my diplomas, license, and certificates. While yes, I am the therapist; you are the expert of your own ...

Social Support: How Important is it to Your Overall Health and Wellbeing?

Social support can be described as the physical and emotional comfort we receive through social ties to others, such as family, friends, co-workers, etc.  It’s the love and acceptance we ...

How to Manage a Life Transition

While growing up, my mother created poignant teachable moments using proverbs. One of my favorite sayings referred to an outlook on life. She often said, “the only constant in life ...

You’ve Got This: Fulfilling Your Unsatisfied Emotional Needs

Individuals have many needs- both physical, emotional, and spiritual. The focus of this series will take a quick dive into the nine different emotional needs. When someone is suffering, we ...
Diagnosis of Autism

So We Got the Diagnosis of Autism…. Now What?

You’ve known something was different about your child for a while. Not necessarily bad or wrong, just… different. Maybe they weren’t making eye contact? Possibly they missed several developmental milestones?  ...
When the outside doesn't match the inside

When the Outside Doesn’t Match the Inside: Bipolar Disorder

You feel like you’re on an emotional roller coaster – instead it’s going in slow motion, the lows are REALLY low, and the highs…MAN are they exhilarating. The Bipolar High! ...

Physical Needs and Emotional Needs

What is a Pyramid of Needs? Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is typically one of the first things taught in Psychology 101 courses. Have you seen his pyramid of needs before? ...

Relationship-ocalypse: How To Be a “Honeymoon Period” Survivor

Is the Honeymoon Period a Real Thing? The biggest early obstacle to any relationship is one that few ever see coming: the dreaded end of the Honeymoon Period. The initial ...

Cinema Therapy

Have you ever had the opportunity to enjoy an inspirational movie, and it just lit up your world?  I oftentimes find myself choosing movies with themes that mirror my current ...

How to Support Someone Going Through An Emotionally Difficult Time: Tea and Honey – Part Two

“I don’t feel very much like Pooh today,” said Pooh. “There, there,” said Piglet. “I’ll bring you tea and honey until you do.”   Loving someone comes with high and ...

Vicarious Trauma

When we experience overwhelming volumes of information—especially information that holds an emotional charge—our bodies, minds, and spirit adapt to help us cope. At times, the way we cope may help ...
When the outside doesn't match the inside

When the Outside Doesn’t Match the Inside: Part Two

Your alarm clock goes off in the morning after a night of restless tossing and turning. You slowly get out of bed and feel “off”. Showering is exhausting, and getting ...

5 Things to Consider When Assessing Your Self-Care

When we think of self-care, the most obvious thing to consider is if you are eating right, exercising, and getting enough sleep.  Although this is very important to overall self-care, ...

How to Support Someone Going through An Emotionally Difficult Time – Part One

Tea and Honey "I don't feel very much like Pooh today," said Pooh. "There, there," said Piglet. "I'll bring you tea and honey until you do. Which one do you ...

Myth-Busters: Relationships Edition

One big factor that drives couples to seek counseling is the disappointment they feel in how their relationship has developed over the years. They enter the relationship with certain expectations ...

What do Pulling Weeds and Therapy have in Common?

I like to bring metaphors into therapy. It is often helpful to relate a client's internal emotions to tangible things that are known concretely. My family was pulling weeds in ...

How to Incorporate Optimism: Step 1

“[…]  Pessimists can learn the skills of optimism and permanently improve the quality of their lives.” – Martin Seligman. Ph.D. My previous blog, Why Optimism Matters, established that optimism is ...

When the Outside Doesn’t Match the Inside: Part One

Persistent Depressive Disorder You’re the one always smiling and laughing to prove that you’re having fun in the social setting that you forced yourself to go to. You ask yourself, ...

The Cycle of Anger

Have you ever wondered how you can go from zero to thirty on the anger scale in such a short amount of time?  Anger is an undesirable emotional state ranging ...

From Roommates to Reconnection

“I feel so disconnected from my partner.” “We have different lives, like passing ships.” “It’s like we’re not even married anymore; we’re just roommates.” I hear these difficult words all ...

When You Just Can’t Figure Out The Right Words: Sand Tray Therapy

Ever have those moments where you know something is bothering you, but you can’t quite place your finger on what it is exactly? Do you know general words to describe ...

Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Individual Factors

If you are new to this blog, we are following along what Philip J. Guerin, Jr. Leo F. Fay, Susan L. Burden, and Judith Gilbert Kautto wrote about in The ...

Why Optimism Matters

“Pessimistic prophecies are self-fulling.” - Martin Seligman, Ph.D. The topic of optimism reminds me of the common quote: “Life is what you make of it.” How one recovers from life ...

Getting “Unstuck”

Defining EMDR and how it works EMDR, or eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, is “an integrative psychotherapy approach that has been extensively researched and proven effective for treatment of trauma”. ...

The Sandwich Generation

When my mom became ill after my father died, I did not have a lot of options.  My husband and I decided to move her into our home. We could ...

Being Together While Apart: Making Long-Distance Marriage Work

Marriage is a challenging journey all on its own. When you add long-distance into the mix, you may find yourself up against some real "make it or break it" scenarios. ...

My Child is Gay… Now What?

Gay. Lesbian. Bisexual. Queer. Pansexual. You are probably familiar with these words as they are becoming more common in mainstream society. But if you or someone you love doesn't identify ...

Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Triangles

Today, we will continue the series on the evaluation and treatment of  marital conflict examining another part of the marital dyad. Triangles, a term coined by Murray Bowen, refers to ...

How To Appropriately Utilize Rewards and Punishments

Many parents have reported that in order to reduce power struggles in the home, there needs to be some sort of solution focused perspective. Concentrating on solutions creates a very ...

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Acts of Service

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation - covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time - covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts - covered in ...
When the outside doesn't match the inside

Getting Lost and Finding Yourself: Stepping Outside of Your Teenage Shell

I recently had a young girl cry as she told me that no matter how hard she tries, she will never be like the girls in her school. All she ...

3 Tips on How to Use a Mantra to Shift Your Thinking

“I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggonit, people like me!”  If you are an SNL fan, you will recognize these words of affirmation from satirist and comedian, Al Franken ...

Opposites attract, but do they last?

You’re an introvert, they’re an extrovert. You need quiet when you first wake up, they need loud audio stimulation. Your idea of a date night is a quiet evening, their ...

The Truth About Health Anxiety

Health anxiety, formerly known as hypochondria, is a condition that creates major symptoms of anxiety related to physical, mental, and psychological wellbeing.  It is often described as, “a sensation of ...

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Physical Touch

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation - covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time - covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts - covered in ...

Your Superpower

Last month brimmed with exciting entertainment ventures from the franchises Game of Thrones and Marvel Entertainment. The global excitement and of these cinematic events made me reflect on what made ...

Why Your Relationship is Stealthily Unhealthy

  Most people's ideal relationship includes having respect, unconditional acceptance, equality, honesty, and love. The list goes on. Oftentimes, relationships look more like this: “You never think about how your ...

Evaluation in Marital Therapy: Marital Dyad Factors

There are all types of factors to collect about the marital dyad. In my next blog of this series, I will go over the areas that the authors of The ...

What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

  The word narcissism gets incorporated into everyday conversation along with our self-obsessed, celebrity-driven culture. This term often defines someone who seems extremely hollow or full of themselves. However, in ...

Treatment for Infertility: Fostering Hope

Last week marked National Infertility Awareness week: April 21- 27, 2019. For this post, I would like to focus on the solutions for infertility. Fertility treatment looks different for every ...

Stay the Course…

Three years ago, I made a career switch. When looking back, it does not seem so long ago. During my first semester, I was excited about the material we were ...

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Receiving Gifts

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation - covered in my blog here! 2) Quality Time - covered in my blog here! 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) ...

Responding vs. Reacting

“By learning to accept the small things immediately as they happen, you can be free of having to react to things at all.  You still can respond when action is ...

Child Abuse Awareness Month

The month of April is Child Abuse Awareness Month.  This is an epidemic that is near and dear to my heart.  I am an advocate for the non-exploitation and safety ...

6 Ways to Build Resiliency

Tools to help you to bounce back from life’s challenges. Have you ever noticed that two people can go through situations that are very similar and their ability to cope ...

Evaluation In Marital Therapy: Family System Factors

The Evaluation and Treatment of Marital Conflict by Guerin, Fay, Burden, and Kautto discusses the what areas should be assessed when considering the course of treatment in marital counseling. Below are ...

Infertility 101

April 21- 27, 2019 is National Infertility Awareness week. The topic of infertility is a very real matter for an estimated 6.1 million people, or 15% of couples, in the ...

Now You’re Speaking my Love- Language: Quality Time

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES ARE: 1) Words of Affirmation – covered in my last blog here! 2) Quality Time 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service 5) Physical Touch If ...

The Power of Connection – Part 2

Two weeks ago, I discussed Brene Brown’s, The Power of Vulnerability. This week, I’d like to expand on a concept that Brene Brown introduced – the relationship we have with ...

Symbiosis: The Empath and the Narcissist

Dear Empath, You may feel as if your purpose in this life is to facilitate the healing of others. You emotionally feed and water others to watch them abundantly grow. ...

A New Frontier: Pharmaceutical Relief for Postpartum Depression

This is a historic month with regard to a recent breakthrough in the world of Postpartum Depression (PPD). On Tuesday, March 19th, The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approved a ...

Evaluation in Marital Therapy

When couples come in for therapy, they are often reporting all sorts of conflicts they are currently experiencing. As tempting as it is to jump straight into problem solving, sometimes ...

What Is Psychosocial Development?

I’ve always wondered why children, adolescents, and adults go through certain psychological changes. Each transformation seems to build upon the previous one and pave the way for development. One of ...

10 Self-Care Tips and Practices for Maintaining Sanity

Self-care is a vital part of maintaining your mental health. However, it is always overlooked. Sometimes, people do not even realize that they need it. Often it looks like, “well ...
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Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

Gaining Psychological Flexibility Through the Third-Wave of Behavioral Therapy Take a moment and think about your most painful internal experiences. Now, think about the most important values that you hold ...

The Power of Connection – Part 1

Brene Brown expertly addresses her lifetime of work researching shame, vulnerability, courage, connection, and empathy in her audio book, The Power of Vulnerability.  Her words effortlessly transition between personal reflection and ...

Ask a Boring Question, Get a Boring Response.

20 questions to ask our children instead of, “How was your day?” What response do you get when you ask your children how their day was?  Do you get eye ...

Now You’re Speaking my Love-Language: Words of Affirmation

Imagine that you’re visiting another country and you find yourself lost. You go up to the next person you see and, in clear, perfect English, ask for directions. The person ...

Parenting Success begins with You

It almost seems inevitable that, as a parent, you feel as though you are failing your children. I am sure you often wonder where you fall on the proverbial scale ...

Connect, Then Redirect.

Parenting is not easy. No one can deny that truth. One of the main concerns parents and couples have involves disciplining their child. No Drama- Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel and ...

Self-Care: Spring Cleaning For Your Mind

When you hear the phrase “spring cleaning,” you probably envision the dirt and dust that has accumulated in your living space. You may even imagine a big pile of stuff ...

L-P-C What?

Defining the Difference Between an LPC and an LPC-Intern I was working as an administrator for a non-profit counseling group before, during, and after my master’s work. Spending time in ...

Harry Potter and the Meaning of Suffering

“Harry, suffering like this proves you are still a man! This pain is part of being human… the fact that you can feel pain like this is your greatest strength.” ...

Beyond Baby Blues: Part 2

Awareness of mental health interventions are incredibly important for new mothers who show symptoms of Postpartum Depression (PPD) or Perinatal Depression. There are several factors that affect the rate at ...

Parenting Out of Fear

"Where Fear Is, Happiness Is Not" –Author Unknown I remember the day I brought my first child home from the hospital after giving birth.  I looked down at that little ...

Breaking Out of that Slump

Several years ago, I bought a book on solution-focused therapy. I found a lot of great techniques that could be utilized by most counselors AND clients. However, there was something ...
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Your Spouse Is Inadequate

When I’m working with couples, I often encounter two different mindsets. The first sees them self as an empty vessel waiting to be poured into by their spouse. The second ...

Your Love Life in the Year of the Pig: Part 2

For most of us, the holiday festivities are long gone and we’re already weeks deep into the new year. This year, the Lunar New Year started on February 5th, 2019, ...

Bottling Up Emotions

I have these glass water bottles that have been quite durable. Please note that my toddler has chunked them across the room and they have not broken before. Then, one Sunday ...
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Caring for the Mess-Maker

My toddler recently got the stomach bug. Even worse, he projectile vomited all over the rug in front of a friend that was at my house for the first time. ...
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Guilt and Shame: Is it All the Same?

Understanding the difference between guilt and shame The two most confusing emotions I encounter in my sessions are guilt and shame.  I think that it is crucial to know the ...

Your Love Life in the Year of the Pig: Part 1

For most of us, the holiday festivities are long gone and we’re already weeks deep into the new year. For those that celebrate Lunar New Year (a.k.a. Spring Festival and ...

Givers, Takers, and Matchers

The best lessons for marriage can sometimes come from resources unrelated to the topic. For example, Adam Grant wrote an intriguing book called Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. ...

Beyond Baby Blues

The birth of a child is often a celebrated event. However, this event is followed by an adjustment period for all members of the family, but most especially the new ...

Learning to Breathe

Several years ago, I had an accident. I severely injured my back and shoulder. Unfortunately, I was also someone who loved working out. Although I was limited in my movement, ...
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Flying Solo on Valentine’s Day

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance!” Oscar Wilde Many consider February 14th the Day of Love. It is Hallmark’s most famous day of the year. Although ...

Gender Norms and Mental Health

It seems that gender politics are at the front and center of society. From the news and your twitter feed, gender roles are at the focus of this era. Women ...

The Complexities of Nostalgia: Part 2

The Truth behind the Highlight Reel Often times we use social media as a highlight reel. So, we post the happy pictures where things in life seem to be going ...

Tolerance to Pain Works Both Ways

We are a couple of months into the new year and my fitness goals are moving forward. Yes, I’ve had some cheat days, but things are moving along nicely. Along ...

Understanding OCD

Do you like things in a particular order? Does it bother you when things are a little out of order? Do you complain that your OCD is kicking in? Well, ...

Creating Mindfulness in Motherhood

There are many pressures and responsibilities that fall under the umbrella of motherhood. Dinner. Laundry. Doctor appointments. Grocery shopping. Extracurriculars for the kids. The list goes on and it most ...

5 Tips to Help Free You from Anxiety

Over 40 million Americans over the age of 18 suffer with Anxiety.  That means there are a lot of people out there that have some of the same symptoms of ...

Build Rituals for Deeper Connection & Intimacy

To start off this month’s blog, I want to ask you an important question. In your everyday life, how much time you do you actually spend with your partner? Not ...

Are You A Conversational Narcissist?

Naturally, most human beings love to talk about themselves.  It is a pleasurable experience to tell others our interests, hobbies, and what we had for lunch. What if we find ...

Harry Potter and Moving Past Biology

“It matters not what someone is born but what they grow to be.”- Albus Dumbledore Choice I have talked a lot about choice in this series. I think it is ...

A Letter to Yesterday

Dear Yesterday, To be honest, I don’t know where to start with addressing you. We have had so many ups and downs. I guess you have taught me some positives. ...

Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 2

So, let’s say a spouse is already in an emotional deficit and has chosen to not have the conversation mentioned in part 1 with their partner. Now, they experience the ...

Our Daily Trauma Intake

A recent study at Duke University posed an interesting question: what is your daily trauma intake?  Think about it. You wake up, check the news and what is the first ...

Helping Helps

A new year is here and we all have resolutions. These resolutions include a lot of personal goals. For example, being more sociable, getting a better job, or more physically ...

Harry Potter and the Invisible Scars

“According to Madam Pomfrey, thoughts could leave deeper scarring than almost anything else.”- J. K. Rowling Battling Thoughts I think anyone who has struggled with their mental health can relate ...

Is Sex Last on Your To-Do List?

It’s a common misconception that sex is supposed to be the easy part of marriage. Wouldn’t it be amazing if sex was always carefree and full of pleasure? If there ...

Infidelity Isn’t a Choice: Part 1

Temptation I loved sports cards when I was in the 4th grade; collected, traded, and talked about them in class. I also combed through many Beckett price guides trying to ...

New Year, New Me

3 ways to set lasting goals Have you already started working on those New Year's resolutions? Or are you like me and already counting the number of times you’ve totally ...

Mindfulness and Resolutions

Like many of you, most of my conversations in the last week or so have been focused on resolutions for 2019. What am I going to change or make better? ...

Loving Freely

This is a concept that’s hard for people to understand and equally hard to write about. The truth is that most people love in a way that’s comfortable to them. ...

Standing Up For Joy

Christmas season is both a joy and a stressor. Let’s be honest, as much as we want to pretend things are great, trying to purchase all the gifts AND pick ...

The Complexities of Nostalgia: Part 1

Throwback Thursday Did you have a social media account years ago? If yes, you are likely being reminded of some of the past events and posts. Apps, like TimeHop, had ...

Hello, New Year! Bye-Bye Bad Habits!

It happens every New Year without fail. We always say, “This is going to be MY year!” We make the “spontaneous” decision to reinvent ourselves. Everyone has their resolutions, but ...

Coping With Grief During The Holidays

I never really understood what it meant to grieve during the holidays until it happened to my own family.  My father had a massive heart attack that took his life ...

When It Rains, It Pours…

If you can relate to this title, you probably feel like you don’t have time to read through some thought out reasoning for why you should try this or that. ...

Harry Potter and the Journey Back Home

“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget how to live.” – Albus Dumbledore Expectations You might be faced with expectations from your family, friends and even yourself ...

Surviving the Crowds at Christmas

We are lucky to live up here on the Northside of Houston. We have wonderful schools, nice neighborhoods, access to great dog parks, and an outlet mall. Whether it is ...

Celebrating Successes and Lessons Learned

This month, I am going to take a step back from our goal-setting blogs. Instead, I will share a great technique I learned while spending the last 20 years of ...

How Much Sex Is Normal In A Marriage?

When sex is an issue in a relationship (it more than likely will be in all relationships) I often hear this question… How often should we be having sex? Great ...

Harry Potter and the Choice Within

“The world isn’t split into good people and Death Eaters. We’ve all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose to act on. That’s ...

Family Tradition

Growing up, my favorite holiday tradition was heading to the Hallmark store and picking out a new ornament for the Christmas tree. I still remember the first ornament I got ...

Thirty and Thriving: Structured Play Time Can Help Your Child

Today, parents are busier than ever before and disconnected from their children. Moms, dads, and caretakers… I have one question: Can you give attention to your child for thirty minutes ...

Choose Hope

Hope is essential to the therapeutic process One of the questions I always ask in my first few sessions is, “What are you hoping for?”  The answer to this question ...

Newlywed Christmas Traditions

Happy Holidays, friends! Last month, I wrote a blog on how to survive your first Thanksgiving as a married couple If this is also your first Christmas as a married ...

Living Positive

If you turned on the news today, you would be told that the world is dangerous and unhappy. All hope is lost, you’re not safe, and you’re in danger of ...

Be Kind

“Have courage and be kind.” – Cinderella Life can be stressful. In the midst of deadlines and schedules, we can often forget to be kind to one another. Each of ...

How Checking-In Can Save Your Marriage

I don’t know much about planes or how to fly them. However, I could watch a few youtube videos to figure it out. Still, I’ll leave it up to trained ...

Past, Present, and Future

This month, I want you to focus a little bit more on those things that you have accomplished, those things you are currently working on, and those things you will ...

True Gratefulness

"Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously.  All things have contributed to your advancement, so you would include ...

How Postpartum Stole Christmas!

Christmas time is approaching. The cups at Starbucks are now red, stores are selling stocking stuffers, treats to bring to the next gathering, and are blasting holiday tunes. You probably ...

Harry Potter and the Invisible Struggle

“Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean it is not real?”- Albus Dumbledore. Living with a mental illness is isolating. You ...

8 Lessons from Suicide Attempt Survivors

As devastating and serious as suicide is, it’s a topic that people hide away from. Because of this, many people are left to suffer in silence. Their closest loved ones ...

Community of Trust

How to create safety and independence for our children in the world today I recently listened to a podcast called Sorta Awesome. A licensed clinical social worker Leann Gardner (http://www.leanngardner.com) ...

Parents Playing Nice

Divorce is typically not someone’s first choice of outcome when they get married. However, sometimes things don’t go as planned and divorce becomes a part of the story. It’s never ...

Harry Potter and Difficult Decisions

“Dark times lie ahead of us and there will be a time when we must choose between what is easy and what is right”- Albus Dumbledore Making Decisions You learn ...

Self Love

We are constantly taught how to love others. Many people emphasize what love should look like. People encourage others to love the way the Bible says. 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 New ...

Newlyweds Guide to Your First Holiday Together

Newlyweds, don’t relax just yet. You are still in for a ride after the wedding day! As you start on the delicate, sometimes frustrating, task of combining you lives, there ...

What Is Sand Tray Therapy?

Sand tray therapy is a treatment modality that is used concurrently with most kinds of therapies. It is most beneficial when working with children, couples, and individuals that have experienced ...

Goaaaaaaaal!

These past several weeks have been quite busy for me. I have been working, going to school, and now I’m currently helping an old business friend set up her project ...

Is Your Marriage Child-Centered?

It is difficult to balance nurturing a marriage and the relationship with your kids. I don’t know a couple who doesn’t struggle with this. If you are caught in the ...

Raise Your Standards

This was a beautiful weekend – the sun was out, the wind was cool, and basically it was just a great day to be outside. Despite the great weather, I ...

Figuring Out Life

We often find ourselves on auto-pilot or in survival mode after we go through drastic life changes. The world is just passing us by as we go through the motions ...

Finding Inspiration and Hope in Harry Potter

I have always been a person who enjoys escaping to a new world with a movie, tv show, or good book. For me personally, there is no better book to ...

Weaken Your Inner Critic

“You’re weak... you just made another stupid mistake... you’ll never be good at this… you’re ugly… there’s something wrong with you.”  Does this sound familiar? The inner critic does not ...

Make Your Marriage Stronger by Asking for Less

What do you think a typical marriage looked like 200 years ago?  Do you think their ceremony vows included one of the popular options found from theknot.com below? I promise ...

Be Calm! Combating Negative Self-Talk

How do you self-talk? Are you nice? Or do you find that you criticize yourself harshly for the smallest mistakes? So often, we find ourselves in a pattern of negative ...

Let The Fight Happen

Relationships are really great. Whether they are romantic or platonic, finding someone you enjoy being around feels good. You begin to connect on different levels, create inside jokes, and learn ...

The Healing Power of Tears

"There is sacredness in tears. Tears are not the mark of weakness, but of power.  They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues.  They are messengers of overwhelming grief, and ...

What does transgender mean?

Understanding transgender youth is an important part of understanding the complexities of human nature. This blog is for you if you have a child who is exploring their gender. It ...

Help! How Do I Survive My Monster-In-Law?!

Wouldn’t it be grand if, when you chose your life partner, that’s all you get? Just the two of you alone in your own little bliss bubble – forever and ...

Back On The Market

Have you recently found yourself single? If you were in a long-term relationship, the dating scene is probably completely different than when you left it. To some, the dating scene ...

Disability Awareness Month

There are currently 40 million Americans living with a disability.  People with disabilities of working age are employed at a rate below the general population.  One particular physical disability that ...

When You Hate Your Spouse

I enjoy a good Disney movie.  Is there a better one than Aladdin? That’s a rhetorical question because everyone knows it’s the best. Maybe I enjoy it because it has ...

No Means No

5 things to consider when it comes to teaching “consent” to your children I don’t think there is any good way to talk about this, so let’s just dive right ...

Domestic Violence: A Real Ghost Story and How You Can Help

Once October hits, a lot of us have the same thoughts in mind: autumn, football, sweater weather, pumpkin-spice everything, and preparing for Halloween. As much as I love spooky festivities, ...

What’s the Big Deal About Journaling?

The concept of journaling is not only for teenagers with sparkly spirals and colorful pens.  The benefits are applicable to all people, in all walks of life. Journaling has repeatedly ...

You Don’t Have To Wait For Things to Get “That Bad”

World champion swimmer, Michael Phelps, is one of the most successful athletes of all time. He's said, “You don’t have to wait for it to get that bad. Therapy isn’t ...

Rediscovery

Life is long and we go through so much stuff that, at times, we have to rediscover ourselves. Everyone has their own reasons for rediscovery. Some people have lost themselves ...

Letting Go of Control

“You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink”.  Over the past week, I heard this saying spoken a handful of times by individuals all across ...

Those Attractive Nuisances

I was speaking with a friend the other day about some “nice to haves” in a future house. Being a former collegiate swimmer, she mentioned that she loved the idea ...

It’s OK To Not Be OK

My current season of life is rough. Some days, I find my only victory is getting dressed. Self-care no longer looks like getting my nails done and sipping my favorite ...
Marriage Reboot: Keys to Sustaining a Long, Healthy Relationship, Amy Wine Counseling, Cypress, TX

Marriage Reboot: Keys to Sustaining a Long, Healthy Relationship

Twenty-two. That’s how many years of marriage I have under my belt. I met my husband while I was a senior in high school. I can remember the day we ...

Dear Tired Momma…

Don’t forget to take care of yourself! 6 SIMPLE self-care ideas for a busy (tired) momma 100% transparency here: Summer was THE WORST! Balancing work, being at home with my ...

What can you do to support someone living with depression?

Do’s and Don’ts of Supporting Someone with Depression Depression is not easy. It is complicated and different for each person who struggles with it. Sometimes, I wonder if people really ...

When Your Therapist Sucks

I have this theory about why people enjoy Chick-fil-A so much.  It isn’t the food, albeit it is tasty.  It deals with the one thing I’ve never experienced in a ...

Accepting Emotions

How many times have you found yourself in a difficult situation that brings up many emotions for you, but you believe you have to suppress those emotions and move on? ...
Helping Your Child Experience Success At School, Amy Wine Counseling, Cypress, TX

Youth Mental Health Issues: Helping Your Child Experience Success At School

Are you tired of getting those dreaded phone calls from your child’s teacher or principal or school counselor?  What has Timmy done now? How many days of in-school suspension will ...

Self-Improvement Month: Becoming BETTER Week-by-Week

As human beings, we are our own worst critics. Most of us are guilty of focusing on our weaknesses instead of our strengths. We all have areas we would like ...

Happy Wife, Happy Life: Wife Appreciation Day

Calling all husbands! On September 16th this year, it is Wife Appreciation Day – or, as many wives would probably like to prefer it, just your typical day! Wife Appreciation ...

Living a Life of Gratitude

What if I told you that implementing one small change in your daily life could have vast benefits for your social, mental, and physical health? That your life could be ...

How to Survive Becoming an Empty Nester

Part 2:  Thriving vs. Surviving the Empty Nest The tough part of becoming an empty nester is over!  You have already taken a ride on that not so fun emotional ...

Stress is Contagious! It’s Contagious!

As a Texan, there is a part of me that is deeply devoted to the fall. For one, it is the end of another brutal summer. Second, it is also ...

How to Beat the Monday Blues

Numerous individuals spend Sunday in a state of “dread” over the upcoming Monday. Anxiety is felt as work, school, projects, and deadlines flood our brains. So, what can we do ...

The Art of Good Sex

“We’re just not sexually compatible.” “Our bedroom life is boring.” “I don’t enjoy making love anymore.” These are words I have heard spoken in a session with couples. Here’s the ...

Who Are You?

Once upon a time I worked for an organization that helped provide mentors for children. My responsibility was to interview potential mentors and their potential mentee. Of course, they both ...

Am I Good Enough? How Far Does the Impact of Cyberbullying Go?

Cyberbullying and the effects on self-worth. As I was browsing through my Facebook, I noticed a status that was disturbing- but not shocking in anyway. Someone posted: “If a girl ...

Increasing Connection Through Movement

It is no secret that most people nowadays need more exercise. Turn on the TV or pick up a magazine and you will see dozens of ads, interviews, and articles ...

Living My Best Life

One of today’s new popular sayings is, “I am living my best life.” Everyone has their own idea of what it means to live their best life. As I have ...

Is Your Relationship Toxic?

Things are bad. You’re dissatisfied. You want connection, but they seem to not care as much. You have been unhappy for a while. Are these telltale signs you are in ...

Cultivating Lasting Friendships

Social isolation is a growing epidemic throughout the world today thanks to social media and ever-changing societal norms. Research conducted by Julianne Holt-Lundstad, a psychology professor at Brigham Young University, ...

The True Definition of Forgiveness

The first step to understanding forgiveness is learning what it means. Forgiveness is willfully abandoning resentment and related responses relevant to past wrongdoings.  Forgiveness is based on the moral principle ...

How to Survive Becoming an Empty Nester

Part 1: The Departure and Remaining Connected You survive by distracting yourself with planning the high school graduation celebration, followed by shopping for college necessities… but now the day is ...

The Silent Killer

The UK began a campaign to combat obesity, heart disease, and depression in 2011. This campaign was not centralized around medication, physical activity or any other individualistic endeavor.  UK’s Campaign ...

Conflict and Communication

Communication can be a pervasive issue in relationships. From marriages to parent-child, to boss-employee relationships, communication is key. Conflicts are something that come up in all types of relationships and ...

It’s Not Your Job to Make Your Spouse Happy

I am going to tell you something about making your spouse happy that I wish you heard a long time ago.  It might sound ludicrous, but hang in there with ...

How to Prepare For a Smooth Transition Back to School

The back-to-school season can be stressful for families. Everyone has to adjust back to the school year routine and there can be new activities in this routine. For kids, the ...

Breaking Up is Hard to Do

The end of a relationship is complicated. In some way or another your future, present, and past have collided together all at once. You may find yourself anxious about the ...

Helping Children Cope With Separation and Divorce

Going through a separation or divorce is emotional for both adults and children. Children frequently do not understand the reason or meaning behind a divorce, thus creating confusion, anger, and ...

What Does Success Mean to You?

What does success mean to you? How will you know you've made it? Often times we get so focused on work and managing life that we never stop to ask ...