I often hear parents say: “We have tried everything, yet nothing seems to be working!” during that first initial intake appointment. Maybe you are sitting at home, your child has finally fallen asleep after .. not one.. not two… but seven attempts, the living room is a mess, you have not had time to box up the leftovers from dinner, while desperately trying to find ways to help your child.
he bottom line of relationships comes down to ensuring that your partner knows that they matter to you. In the beginning of a relationship, this is almost automatic as the newness and heightened joy exist and you want to keep that going. You initiate spending time together, talking, holding hands or cuddling, buying gifts, telling them how wonderful they are, and doing things for them.
I can remember when I first read the book “Boundaries” by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Using verses from Galatians, Cloud and Townsend discuss the difference between burdens and loads. It defines a burden as something that is excessive boulders or problems in our life that we need to allow people to help with. They define the load as our daily toils and strains – something that we are personally responsible for managing and if we ask others to help with our loads we are being irresponsible.
There are many apps now that use behavioral exercises and relaxation techniques to help with anxious thoughts and feelings. The apps work in different ways to help reduce anxiety symptoms. If you have been diagnosed with anxiety or suffer from anxiety symptoms, here are three apps that can help.
You often hear that communication in any relationship is key. There are many resources out there on how to communicate along with some topics to help get you started. There are even apps for your tablets and smartphones that are solely geared to conversation starters.
Perhaps part of why suicide is such a heavy topic is that so many of us have been affected by it in some way. In 2017, my close friend experienced a heartbreaking tragedy when his brother died by suicide. In addition to feeling the weight of the loss being experienced by my friend and his family, I distinctly remember this devastating event being part of what inspired me to pursue counseling as a career.
Transitioning from parenting a young child to parenting a tween can have its challenges, but keeping an open mind and learning to be more flexible will bring you and your child more joy. Adapting your parenting to fit the needs of your teenager-to-be requires a change in rules, communication patterns, expectations, collaboration, and ways of connecting with your child.
When we think of diversity, a common assumption is that people from diverse backgrounds will automatically find their way into our lives. However, this is rarely the case. More often, our default setting as humans is to surround ourselves with people who are similar to ourselves.
Have you ever heard of inherited family trauma? In his book “ It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End The Cycle”, Mark Wolynn summarizes and uses years of research that reveals this truth – the roots of issues such as depression, anxiety, chronic pain, phobias, and obsessive thoughts often starts from traumas of parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents.
Sometimes it is difficult to appreciate how much someone means to you until that person is no longer around. Last year, I experienced this after losing one of my all-time favorite professors. In formal settings, my classmates and I often called her “Dr. Laurie” to give some well-deserved recognition, while also keeping it casual enough to describe the approachable person she was.