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Sarah is a Licensed Professional Counselor - Intern, Supervised by Huston McComb, MA, LPC-S. Sarah enjoys working with young adults, adults and couples.

“I Just Want to be Heard!” How to Communicate our Emotions Assertively and Effectively

By Sarah Howard | December 12, 2020
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“You always make me feel so…” Have you ever found yourself saying these words (or even hearing these words) in an attempt to just have your feelings understood or heard?  What is usually the outcome of that conversation?   For a lot of people, these types of conversations typically lead to feelings of frustration, defeat and even hurt feelings (for all involved) because the speaker feels unheard and the listener feels attacked, blamed or like they’re being accused.  So then how are we supposed to communicate our emotions effectively?  By using assertive communication skills. There is a HUGE difference between communicating […]

Overcoming the Fear of Change

By Sarah Howard | August 20, 2020
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Understanding the 5 stages of change How do you respond to change?  Do you embrace it with all that you have or do you avoid it at all costs?  Can I be honest with you?  Change is inevitable.  And no matter how good you might think you are at avoiding it or ignoring it, we all must make changes and adjustments throughout our lives.   But how do we create meaningful and lasting change?  How long should it take?  And how do we avoid the fear of failure?   According to psychologist James Prochaska, creator of the Transtheoretical Model of Behavior Change, […]

5 Easy Ways to Start to Find “Normal”

By Sarah Howard | March 25, 2020
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I never realized how heavily I relied on “structure” until now.  I knew I liked it, I knew it was a part of our routine, but it has been over this past week that I have realized that structure not only regulated the things that I did during the day, but also attributed to regulating how I felt.   So let’s implement some structure! Easy right? (Um…wrong!) Each time I’ve tried to step back and figure out how to incorporate structure back into my week (especially for at least a month or 2), I very quickly find myself becoming overwhelmed.  So […]

“So, I don’t know how to say this, but…”: Why it’s important to have awkward conversations with your therapist

By Sarah Howard | February 10, 2020
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Have you ever had an “awkward” therapy experience? What was your response? Did you ghost your therapist? Did you cancel all future appointments and find someone else? Did you give up on therapy all together? Whatever your response, I want you to know that you’re not alone! It is completely reasonable to expect that you may have some awkward experiences in your journey to find a therapist. But what I want to encourage you to do in those moments (as awkward as they might be!) is to talk about it with your therapist before making any decisions about moving forward. […]

5 Easy Ways to Avoid Holiday Burnout This Year

By Sarah Howard | November 26, 2019
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As the holiday’s approach, I find myself with a growing sense of dread due to the amount of “holiday things” that go on our calendar.  Parties, events, family gatherings, shows…you name it, we got it on our list of “things that we HAVE to do.”   But as our lives have grown and changed, I’ve come to a realization:  How many of those things do we really HAVE to do? Because at the end of the day, is it worth it to cram five holiday events into one day, only to come home and be so exhausted that you can’t recall […]

Getting “Unstuck”

By Sarah Howard | June 6, 2019
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Defining EMDR and how it works EMDR, or eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, is “an integrative psychotherapy approach that has been extensively researched and proven effective for treatment of trauma”. Created by Francine Sharpio in 1989, EMDR has evolved through practice and research all over the world. (For more specific examples, please visit ) How Does it Work? When a person experiences intense emotion, their brain cannot process information as it should and the moment becomes “stuck”.  For some people, the memory of that moment is just as terrifying, sad and/or scary as it was when they first experienced […]

Ask a Boring Question, Get a Boring Response.

By Sarah Howard | March 20, 2019
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20 questions to ask our children instead of, “How was your day?” What response do you get when you ask your children how their day was?  Do you get eye rolls? Is a long, drawn out, and dramatic sigh let out? Maybe they just walk away and pretend they didn’t even hear you?  Or maybe they reply with the pre-determined shoulder shrug response of the day?  Can anyone relate? What’s so lame about this question? The problem with this question boils down to the fact that it’s one that kids perceive as mandatory. They don’t think it’s asked because parents […]

L-P-C What?

By Sarah Howard | March 5, 2019
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Defining the Difference Between an LPC and an LPC-Intern I was working as an administrator for a non-profit counseling group before, during, and after my master’s work. Spending time in this role gave me some great insight into the common misconceptions about the field of counseling.    One of the biggest misunderstandings was surrounding the role of an LPC-Intern. Many times, I would receive intake calls and match them with the counselor who had the proper training, only to be told, “No, I don’t want an intern…I want a fully licensed counselor.” So, what is an LPC? What is an […]

Guilt and Shame: Is it All the Same?

By Sarah Howard | February 13, 2019
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Understanding the difference between guilt and shame The two most confusing emotions I encounter in my sessions are guilt and shame.  I think that it is crucial to know the major differences between them because they’re commonly used interchangeably. You have a better chance of overcoming these negative emotions once you understand the difference between them.   Guilt (I’ve done something bad) Guilt is what we feel when we’ve done something wrong and feel bad about it.  A more thorough definition could be that guilt occurs when a person believes or realizes, accurately or not, that they have compromised their […]

New Year, New Me

By Sarah Howard | January 3, 2019
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3 ways to set lasting goals Have you already started working on those New Year’s resolutions? Or are you like me and already counting the number of times you’ve totally disregarded the ones you set? (Dr. Pepper is HARD to quit!) The beginning of a new year is typically a popular time to start fresh, set new goals and ride that wave of collective motivation to achieve good things. Just as often, after a month or two, you may find yourself back in that same place you were before the new year: unmotivated, discouraged, or completely unaware of those awesome […]

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