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Sarah is a Licensed Professional Counselor - Intern at Amy Wine Counseling Center. Sarah enjoys working with young clients, teenage clients, adult clients and couples.

Becoming a Stepfamily: Delivered and Redeemed

By Sarah Dailey | March 24, 2020
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Step-family counseling and pre-step family counseling looks very different than counseling your average couple and family. The dynamics are different and there are specific considerations to make when coming together. One of the leading books to help both counselors and the general public learn more about becoming a stepfamily is Ron Deal’s The Smart Stepfamily. This psycho-education material helps step and pre-step families come together in a way that is both psychological and biblical. Dysfunctional is the “Norm” Many stepfamilies or pre-stepfamily couples discuss a certain level of guilt or shame that accompany their move into another marriage. In the […]

Becoming a Step-Family

By Sarah Dailey | March 24, 2020
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Step-family counseling and pre-step family counseling looks very different than counseling your average couple and family. The dynamics are different and there are specific considerations to make when coming together. One of the leading books to help both counselors and the general public learn more about becoming a stepfamily is Ron Deal’s The Smart Stepfamily. This psycho-education material helps step and pre-step families come together in a way that is both psychological and biblical. Ron’s material is completed in 8 sessions with couples and includes 7 different steps to creating a healthy step family. Ron’s 7 steps are identified as […]

When Going to Church is Hard

By Sarah Dailey | February 28, 2020
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Confession: Going to church has been hard lately. I can’t remember exactly when it started. As a believer, attending church regularly is something that is important to me. I felt a number of different emotions when we would start driving to church, serving at church, or getting ready for church. I had reached a point when I wanted to give up and give in to my desire to no longer attend.  This bothered me, so I decided to explore what was going on within me. I was trying really hard to “get to the bottom of it”. I found many […]

When Children of Divorce Become Adults

By Sarah Dailey | February 10, 2020
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Being a child of divorce is hard…it’s fairly public knowledge. What many of us are not discussing is what happens to the children when they become adults. The pain of the divorce might not be as widespread as the early days, but adult children of divorce still feel the sharp, poignant pain from time to time. Three realities that still evoke pain over the divorce include: celebrations and holidays, no more court ordered custody split, personal relationship conflict. Celebrations & Holidays Being an adult child of divorce means there is no “home” to go back to during the holiday season. […]

Staying True to Yourself Under Pressure

By Sarah Dailey | January 21, 2020
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Staying true to your values and beliefs can be difficult, especially when you’re under pressure. It might be peer pressure, or maybe it is pressure at work or home. No matter what, when we deny ourselves of acting in accordance with our belief system and our values, we are creating small betrayals. There are six steps in making sure you remain true to yourself under pressure.  Define your values and beliefs. Ask yourself, “what do I believe and why”? Is there a behavior I need to gain control over? What do I want to experience more of? What does a […]

The Affair Series: Attunement

By Sarah Dailey | December 6, 2019
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After an affair, and during affair recovery, we follow three steps in counseling: atonement, attunement, and re-attachment. During attunement, couples have decided that they can move forward with forgiveness, ready to stop blaming the partner that was involved in infidelity.  Step 3:  Attunement Many trust building behaviors occur in this area of the recovery phase. The partner that acted outside of the marriage is making a commitment to this relationship, constantly working to build the marital friendship. The couple is also working on how to process negative events, both making a commitment to try to handle their conflicts so that […]

The Affair Series: Atonement

By Sarah Dailey | November 26, 2019
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Affairs don’t always have to mean the end of a relationship. In fact, there is research that indicates that sometimes couples come back stronger after recovering through the affair. According to lead researchers John and Julie Gottman, there are three phases to affair recovery. The three phases are: Atonement, Attunement, and ReAttachment. The atonement phase is typically the phase in affair recovery that makes or breaks whether the primary marriage relationship can continue after the affair.  Atonement Phase This phase necessary to the rest of recovery, it is the time when the affair partner must come clean with their actions, […]

Grieving Unmet Expectations

By Sarah Dailey | November 12, 2019
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When you think of grief, it is likely what comes to mind is bereavement and grief after someone passes away. Grieving is something much deeper and wider than only applying to the loss of a loved one. Grief is a loss — a loss of any kind. Grief Comes in Many Forms: Expectations, dreams, and longings can be wonderful cartographers, drawing the road maps for what we think our future will be. They can help us to feel motivated when the going gets tough, and provide hope in some dire situations. However, when they are not met, it can break […]

The Affair Series: The Windows and Walls of Affair Relationships

By Sarah Dailey | November 12, 2019
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Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli, in their book Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity, reference how affairs occur to relationships that seem apparently solid by illustrating relationship “walls and windows”. If we can think of a marriage as a house, and two committed partners in separate rooms of the house, we want a large window in between the partners. In safe, committed relationships, the wall serves as a barrier to protect the “us” of the couple; it stands between them and the outside world. On the safe side of the walls, inside the house, […]

Connection Connection: Read All About It!

By Sarah Dailey | September 9, 2019
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Individuals have many needs- both physical, emotional, and spiritual. The focus of this series has been taking a dive into the nine different emotional needs. When someone is suffering, we can often take a glance at their emotional needs, and work toward fulfilling those that might not be satisfied. Thankfully there is a way to examine the needs and see which ones may need nourishing, so that you can begin taking the steps toward more emotional contentment.  A quick review of the nine emotional needs: security, volition, attention, emotional connection, connection to the community, privacy, a sense of status, a […]

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