your spot for counseling, relationships, Mental Health, self-care, and more

The Blog

read post

I can remember when I first read the book “Boundaries” by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Using verses from Galatians, Cloud and Townsend discuss the difference between burdens and loads. It defines a burden as something that is excessive boulders or problems in our life that we need to allow people to help with. They define the load as our daily toils and strains – something that we are personally responsible for managing and if we ask others to help with our loads we are being irresponsible.

Supporting One Another

If you are one of the people who grew up with social media in your younger years, you are likely being reminded of some of the past events and posts that occurred on your social media sites. Things like TimeHop had their debut before fizzling out, only to be replaced by Facebook “On This Day”. Being only a click away from some of your old pictures and past experiences can bring up lots of emotions, one of them being a complex feeling of nostalgia. 

MEMORIES: Throwback Thursday and the Complexity of Nostalgia

Mental Health

Have you ever heard of inherited family trauma? In his book “ It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End The Cycle”, Mark Wolynn summarizes and uses years of research that reveals this truth – the roots of issues such as depression, anxiety, chronic pain, phobias, and obsessive thoughts often starts from traumas of parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents.

We Are Family

Family

At some point in your therapy journey, your therapist is likely to assess for protective factors that help individuals with resiliency and coping bandwidth when going through difficult times or managing mood disorders or traumas. One protective factor we look for is FRIENDSHIP! Having healthy friendship is a protective factor for both emotional health and physical health. 

Importance of Friendship

Relationships

best friends

Elisabeth Elliot defines suffering as “having something you don’t want or wanting something you don’t have” in her book Suffering is Never for Nothing. One of the reasons I enjoy this definition of suffering so much is because it helps us to acknowledge our pain, even in the midst of witnessing global pain and trauma.

Acknowledging Our Suffering

Trauma

Step-family counseling and pre-step family counseling looks very different than counseling your average couple and family. The dynamics are different and there are specific considerations to make when coming together. One of the leading books to help both counselors and the general public learn more about becoming a stepfamily is Ron Deal’s The Smart Stepfamily. […]

Becoming a Stepfamily: Delivered and Redeemed

Family

Step-family counseling and pre-step family counseling looks very different than counseling your average couple and family. The dynamics are different and there are specific considerations to make when coming together. One of the leading books to help both counselors and the general public learn more about becoming a stepfamily is Ron Deal’s The Smart Stepfamily. […]

Becoming a Step-Family

Family

Confession: Going to church has been hard lately. I can’t remember exactly when it started. As a believer, attending church regularly is something that is important to me. I felt a number of different emotions when we would start driving to church, serving at church, or getting ready for church. I had reached a point […]

When Going to Church is Hard

Christian Counseling

Being a child of divorce is hard…it’s fairly public knowledge. What many of us are not discussing is what happens to the children when they become adults. The pain of the divorce might not be as widespread as the early days, but adult children of divorce still feel the sharp, poignant pain from time to […]

When Children of Divorce Become Adults

Adult Counseling

Staying true to your values and beliefs can be difficult, especially when you’re under pressure. It might be peer pressure, or maybe it is pressure at work or home. No matter what, when we deny ourselves of acting in accordance with our belief system and our values, we are creating small betrayals. There are six […]

Staying True to Yourself Under Pressure

Adult Counseling