Patricia Aburime

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Patricia is a Licensed Professional Counselor Intern at Amy Wine Counseling. She enjoys working with women facing the challenges of life changes through all stages of life, from late teen years well into adult-hood.

Codependence: The struggle to own YOUR reality

By Patricia Aburime | September 15, 2020
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Difficulty owning your own reality is a crucial symptom to address in the pursuit to overcome codependent-linked thoughts, beliefs, and actions. “Codependents often report that they don’t know who they are.” – Pia Mellody Author and speaker, Pia Mellody, maps out several eye-opening insights in her book Facing Codependence: What it is, Where it comes from, How it sabotages our lives. Among which is a list of core symptoms that many individuals with codependent tendencies struggle with. I particularly found powerful meaning in the third core symptom that she identifies as ‘Difficulty Owning Our Own Reality.’ What should this mean […]

How to Continue: Embracing the New Normal

By Patricia Aburime | July 15, 2020
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It goes without saying; the world is no longer the same. The simplest interactions of yesterday are no more. It is safe to assume that all ages and demographics have been touched by these severe lifestyle changes. Sadly, the young and recent graduates are a demographic that has been greatly impacted by the current pandemic.   I have a friend with two elementary school-aged boys. The other day, the boys woke up and requested that their mother pack their lunches in lunch boxes. She complied and they proceeded to get dressed (like a typical school day), put on their backpacks, […]

Conversations in Isolation

By Patricia Aburime | May 4, 2020
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For most, regional stay-at-home orders have created an opportunity for unprecedented amounts of time at home with our partners. This scenario will unequivocally yield to more time to interact with one another. Interactions vary in some degree. Perhaps there is more emphasis on completing household tasks together or engagement in mutual hobbies. One thing that is certain, there will be an increased opportunity to converse with your partner. It is important to be aware of a few aspects before addressing heavy hitting topics during this time. Let us discuss why and how to go about this:   Unprecedented stressors   […]

Keeping the Spark Alive During Quarantine

By Patricia Aburime | April 13, 2020
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The novel virus, COVID-19, has ushered in a novel way of life for couples and families. Stay-at-home orders across the country have yielded unprecedented amounts of time for togetherness for most. With this new-found abundance of time, there is a multitude of challenges to embrace. From balancing work from home schedules with household-child care duties to battling feelings of anxiety, depression, loneliness or isolation. It is sufficed to say, 2020 is a year of uncertainty.    One thing remains clear: this is a period where navigating relationships is key; moreover, this is a period to strengthen valued relationships. For couples, […]

Senior Year Sadness: Missing Anticipated Milestones of High School

By Patricia Aburime | March 25, 2020
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The COVID-19 outbreak has utterly changed day-to-day life as we know it. A simple trip to the grocery store is no longer an act to take for granted. Among these novel changes is the unequivocal loss of normalcy that many Americans feel. As schools and workplaces across the country shut their doors, many families face weeks of self-isolation at home. With isolation comes a sense of loss of routine and anticipated events that will no longer take place. One subsect of Americans that are subject to significant loss are graduating high school seniors. In working with a few of my […]

Dear Mama: A Letter of Recognition & Encouragement

By Patricia Aburime | February 10, 2020
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Dear Mama, So, no one told you life would be this…wait. Let me restart. So, you became a mother? Perhaps while preparing for motherhood, you relished in anticipation of raising a little one or ones. Dreamt about attending mommy-and-me classes, playdates, museums, library story times, etc. Perhaps, you imagined endless cuddles. What did not come to mind, were the sleepless nights followed by active days. Or even the morning tantrums that unfold right when you absolutely need to leave the house in order to make daycare drop off before that 9 AM meeting. There is nothing like a toddler tantrum […]

Regain Control: Reconnecting with Your New Year Resolution(s)

By Patricia Aburime | January 7, 2020
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The new year is in full swing. How are those New Year’s resolutions coming along? If the answer is Great! – well keep on rocking! Great job! If the answer is Not so good – let’s pause and take stock.  First and foremost, it should be noted that forging new and healthier habits is hard. What you are attempting to cultivate in your new year is admirable. If you are not successful on the first go, that is okay! It is not important that you meet your personal goal(s) flawlessly. What is important, is that you meet your goal, despite […]

Get Real With Your Resolutions

By Patricia Aburime | December 23, 2019
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 You celebrated with your nearest and dearest! The New Year’s Eve celebrations are over.  It is time to set your sights on the year that lies ahead. If you are like most individuals, the first item on the agenda of your new year is probably one or a cluster of New Year’s resolutions.  According to some sources, only about 10% of Americans who set New Year’s resolutions actually achieve them. How can you increase your chances of becoming a part of that small yet successful percent? It starts with careful planning and realistic expectations.  Be Realistic: Start Small It may […]

Minimizing to Maximize: Exploring the benefits of a Minimalist Lifestyle

By Patricia Aburime | December 6, 2019
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The end of a calendar year ushers in a sense of hope and the desire for new aspirations. As we anticipate the new year, it is typical to set goals and “New Year’s Resolutions.” This is the perfect time to incorporate lifestyle changes as well as healthier habits.  Minimalism A particularly interesting lifestyle that appears to have garnered momentum in recent years, is that of Minimalism. It is commonly described as a way to place more value and emphasis on experiences and loved ones rather than possessions. In doing so, one is able to cultivate a greater sense of self […]

A Holiday Wellness Check: Enjoying the season on your own terms

By Patricia Aburime | November 26, 2019
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gjoyjoy‘Tis the season for all things jolly and bright! With Thanksgiving just around the corner, the holiday season is officially in full swing. This is the time of year for office parties, Friendsgivings, and just plain entertaining and mingling. It is no coincidence that this time of year is accompanied by high stress and triggers for mental health disorders.  (Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)). Let’s explore ways to mitigate the affects of holiday stressors and how to make the most of this holiday season! Identify Holiday Stressors The great thing about holiday stress is that it is often predictable. We can […]

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