Patricia Aburime

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Patricia is a Licensed Professional Counselor Intern at Amy Wine Counseling. She enjoys working with women facing the challenges of life changes through all stages of life, from late teen years well into adult-hood.

A Holiday Wellness Check: Enjoying the season on your own terms

By Patricia Aburime | November 26, 2019
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gjoyjoy‘Tis the season for all things jolly and bright! With Thanksgiving just around the corner, the holiday season is officially in full swing. This is the time of year for office parties, Friendsgivings, and just plain entertaining and mingling. It is no coincidence that this time of year is accompanied by high stress and triggers for mental health disorders.  (Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)). Let’s explore ways to mitigate the affects of holiday stressors and how to make the most of this holiday season! Identify Holiday Stressors The great thing about holiday stress is that it is often predictable. We can […]

The Gradual Normalization of Mental Health

By Patricia Aburime | November 12, 2019
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Mental health is an increasingly relevant topic. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), one in five American adults experience a mental health issue in their life time. Moreover, additional sources note that in a yearly period, one in 10 young adults experience a period of major depression and one in 25 Americans live with a serious mental illness, such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, or major depression. Despite the prevalence of mental health issues in our society, a number of Americans continue to live their lives without the mental health care they need. Much of this is due […]

The Unavoidable Guilt of Screen Time

By Patricia Aburime | November 12, 2019
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As the parent of two preschoolers, it often feels like parental guilt is a staple in my day-to-day routines. I feel guilty for not offering my children Pinterest-worthy meals, accommodating their requests to eat cereal for dinner, allowing toys in bed for naptime…the list goes on. But perhaps my most cringeworthy struggle with parental guilt correlates with screen time usage. A very long time ago, in my pre-parent days, I was under the misguided belief that I would never park my future children in front of a screen to occupy them. In my infinite, childless, wisdom I believed that it […]

Maternal Suicide: Mom’s Are Not Immune

By Patricia Aburime | September 9, 2019
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September marks Suicide Awareness Month across the globe. This is an especially important and vulnerable topic to address because the effects of suicide are far reaching. It touches many lives. I would like to take this time to highlight a segment of suicide awareness: Maternal Suicide. The organization, 2020 Mom, sponsors an annual Maternal Suicide Awareness Campaign. This year the campaign will take place September 9 – 13, 2019. If you are interested in supporting this cause, please visit https://www.2020mom.org/maternal-suicide-awareness What is Maternal Suicide? Suicide is one of the leading causes of maternal death in the United States, and is […]

The Back-to-School Reset

By Patricia Aburime | August 22, 2019
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Back to school reset

School is back in session for districts across the country. The start of the academic school year sets a number of actions in motion for parents: clothes and school supply shopping, new routines, preparation for fall extracurricular activities, and readjusting bed times. There are several aspects involved in transitions from lazy summer days to busy school festivities. Moreover, there are big milestones to mark. For some parents, this is the first-year venturing into ‘big kid’ school, while for others it is the last hoorah of senior year. Once the whirlwind of the first day settles, many parents will be left […]

How to Manage a Life Transition

By Patricia Aburime | August 13, 2019
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While growing up, my mother created poignant teachable moments using proverbs. One of my favorite sayings referred to an outlook on life. She often said, “the only constant in life is change”. This sage advice did not truly have meaning in my life until I reached adulthood. I am amazed at how quickly days and months pass by. And yet the only constant within the passing days is the anticipation of major and minor life changes. Life transitions can be exciting and challenging times often accompanied with a myriad of feelings. From high stress, depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem to […]

How to Incorporate Optimism: Step 1

By Patricia Aburime | July 3, 2019
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“[…]  Pessimists can learn the skills of optimism and permanently improve the quality of their lives.” – Martin Seligman. Ph.D. My previous blog, Why Optimism Matters, established that optimism is pretty darn important. It can have a lasting impact on your health and overall well-being. Our mindset is powerful! Now that we recognize the importance of this aspect, how does one achieve consistent optimism?  Dr. Seligman describes several ways to achieve an optimistic lifestyle in his book, Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life. This blog will focus on the first step he mentions, which is a […]

Why Optimism Matters

By Patricia Aburime | June 10, 2019
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“Pessimistic prophecies are self-fulling.” – Martin Seligman, Ph.D. The topic of optimism reminds me of the common quote: “Life is what you make of it.” How one recovers from life events makes a critical impact. My summer reading currently consists of Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life written by Martin Seligman, Ph.D. He is the father of the positive psychology movement. This book is highly recommended if you are interested in learning how to identify pessimistic tendencies and skills to develop more optimistic thinking patterns. The Optimist vs The Pessimist “The defining characteristic of pessimists is […]

Your Superpower

By Patricia Aburime | May 13, 2019
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Last month brimmed with exciting entertainment ventures from the franchises Game of Thrones and Marvel Entertainment. The global excitement and of these cinematic events made me reflect on what made these events so epically significant. These franchises excel at glamorizing the extraordinary. The appeal in this, is to step outside of our own realities in order to be consumed and distracted by a make-believe reality. This made me think about my own reality. Is there something wrong with my world and all of its moving parts? It may not be as glamorous or mystical. However, for the most part, it […]

Treatment for Infertility: Fostering Hope

By Patricia Aburime | April 29, 2019
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Last week marked National Infertility Awareness week: April 21- 27, 2019. For this post, I would like to focus on the solutions for infertility. Fertility treatment looks different for every family. Options should be thoroughly discussed with a qualified healthcare provider. While the outcome may not be clear, I would like to emphasize the importance of Hope. Infertility can cause a wide range of emotions including heartache, frustration, and grief. The inability to start or add to your family on your own terms can be devastating. Know that you are not alone. There is medical and emotional help available. Treatment […]

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