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What are ‘cognitive distortions’ and why do so many people have them? Cognitive distortions are ways that our thought patterns can convince us that something is true or false. These are typically thoughts that occur automatically, and are usually used to reinforce negative thinking or emotions. Our automatic thoughts can feel rational and accurate, and most of all, they can feel factual.

9 Cognitive Distortions That Sabotage Your Brain

Have you ever been in a therapy session and your therapist casually drops a phrase you’ve never heard before? “Hold space”? “Sit with a feeling”? You’re sitting there smiling and nodding politely, but you’re probably thinking, “What does that even mean? Who says that?” Being a therapist, these phrases make sense, are easy to say, and have become second nature over my years of practice, so sometimes it’s easy to forget that not everyone speaks “therapist.”

Help! Why Does My Therapist Say That?

Adult Counseling

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“Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. To talk about how you’re feeling. To have the hard conversations.” – Brene Brown

Being brave is not about the absence of fear, it’s about having the courage to be vulnerable – to press on in spite of fear.

Finding the Courage to be Vulnerable

Women's Issues

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At this point, we’re all aware of the basics of getting enough rest: proper sleep, less screen time, more relaxation. We also know how important it is to get enough rest. But in a world so driven by distraction and hustle, the idea of ‘doing nothing’ can be daunting. In fact, ‘doing nothing’ can actually be counterproductive to true rest.

Relax & Unwind with the 7 Types of Rest


Love Hurts: 4 Reasons Why You May Be Holding onto a Toxic Relationship

Women's Issues

When it comes to the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic, there’s what you see, there’s what you hear, and after taking it all in, there’s how it all makes you feel. There is no denying that there is an overwhelming amount of changes happening right now. You’re being asked to stay home as much as possible. Restaurants […]

During These Scary Times, I Hope You’re Taking Care of Yourself: Coronavirus and Reducing Anxiety


As a bit of a control freak myself, I may be a little biased here, but being a control freak isn’t all bad! Another way to look at it is you’re super competent, efficient, have high standards, and a go-getter. You get things done right the first time. Plus, when things are spiraling, a little […]

Stop Being a Control Freak!

Adult Counseling

Being an avid gym-goer, I see many faces at the gym. For the most part, everyone keeps to themselves, but you start to recognize more faces than others after a while. Naturally, it is only a matter of time before other gym “regulars” become acquaintances and those acquaintances slowly move towards friendships. Recently, I achieved […]

4 Tips to Help You Make Friends as an Adult (Because it’s Hard!)

Adult Counseling

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner! We’re starting to see chocolate boxes and flowers on display at stores. Hearts and Cupid silhouettes are adorning the windows and hanging from the ceilings. For some couples, it’s time to start thinking of fancy dinner plans and extravagant gifts. Other couples treat it as just another day […]

Thoughtful Valentine’s Day Gifts Without Breaking the Bank


As glorious and convenient as it is to have the entire world at our fingertips, Americans now spend an average of 3-4 hours a day on their mobile phones. For most of us, that includes nearly 2 hours a day on Facebook, YouTube, Snapchat, Instagram, and Twitter. This is bad news for intimate partner relationships, […]

How to Save Your Relationship from the Rise of Technology

Adult Counseling