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he bottom line of relationships comes down to ensuring that your partner knows that they matter to you.  In the beginning of a relationship, this is almost automatic as the newness and heightened joy exist and you want to keep that going.  You initiate spending time together, talking, holding hands or cuddling, buying gifts, telling them how wonderful they are, and doing things for them. 

Do I Matter?

You often hear that communication in any relationship is key.  There are many resources out there on how to communicate along with some topics to help get you started.  There are even apps for your tablets and smartphones that are solely geared to conversation starters. 

Communication is key, but why?

Couples Counseling

I often hear phrases like that from clients. I hear this from people who have been in short-term relationships as well as long-term ones. The reasons are as varied as the personalities of the individuals in the relationships. However, there is one common thread that runs through them all: One person starts to like something new, and their partner does share that same joy.

We have nothing in common anymore!

Couples Counseling

I often hear statements from one partner that they love the other person, but that they are not “in love” with them. Really, I hear this from nearly every couple. They have lost that loving feeling, so to speak. What is actually happening is that the “newness” of the relationship has worn off. Human nature is rather fickle, and many have the “what have you done for me lately?” attitude when it comes to relationships.

Creating Fondness in Relationships


heart drawn in the sand on the beach, being washed away by ocean wave

How well do you know your partner?  Oftentimes we say we know them but find it difficult to buy them gifts or know what to do to help them on a daily basis.  I often hear couples who have been together for a while, especially after the children leave the home, that they just don’t know each other anymore.  The question is, did they ever know their partner?

Knowing Your Partner