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Crisis Situations & Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Skills

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | February 28, 2020
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So you just discovered your spouse is having an affair. The doctor just disclosed a diagnosis of a serious medical condition you thought was just a cold. Your life has been turned upside down within seconds and you don’t know what to say, think, or do. A crisis situation is considered any major life event which occurs and overwhelms your mind and body’s ability to cope in a healthy manner. A crisis situation can often trigger shock, denial, anger, or any other intense emotional experiences which you may not be equipped to cope with.  Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) is an […]

How to Talk to Someone That is Grieving

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | February 11, 2020
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Death and loss are inevitable. They’re the most sure things about life. For some reason, though, we can get weird around the topic of death. Society has a few blanket statements to say, but are those actually helpful? Some of those well intended but ignorant things can be pretty damaging. Grief is a confusing emotion. People walk around someone grieving as if they’re on egg shells. Being real and genuine is much more effective. Here’s a list of what not to say and what to say to someone that’s grieving.  What Not to Say They’re in a better place. This […]

How to Love Yourself (When Struggling with Mental Illness)

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | February 11, 2020
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 As children we are taught how to be kind to others, respect others, love others. However, very rarely are we taught how to be kind to ourselves, respect ourselves, love ourselves. When life gets tough, it is easy to be harsh with ourselves. However, it takes an act of courage to love yourself. Struggling with mental illness can be a destructive process. We pick ourselves apart, judge ourselves, over-analyze every move we make and word we speak. But if you look beneath the surface, you will find there is beauty in your struggle. Destruction breeds creation. The purpose of your […]

A Letter to My Clients That Are Mothers

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | February 11, 2020
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“Many believe parenting is about controlling children’s behavior and training them to act like adults. I believe that parenting is about controlling my own behavior and acting like an adult myself. Children learn what they live and live what they learn.” – L.R. Knost Safe Sanctuary Your stories have filled the therapy room with tears, anxiety, and anger as you bravely enter into vulnerability sitting on the couch. It is such a privilege to sit on the other side of you while you navigate some of the most important relationship work you will ever do.  Women come in exhausted from […]

Unhealthy Friendships in Adulthood

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | February 10, 2020
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Something I work on with my clients ALL. THE. TIME. is how to identify healthy relationships. No, I don’t just mean romantic relationships. We’re SO hyper-focused on romantic relationships as a society. We get fixated on how those relationships affect us, failing to look at other types of relationships in our lives. We learned our lesson when we were younger that some friends, despite how fun they are, just aren’t good for us. Having things in common isn’t enough to sustain a close friendship anymore. With our crazy busy lives, we don’t need someone that contributes to the chaos. Here […]

A Lesson From the Honeybee: Working with What You’ve Got

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | January 14, 2020
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My LPC Supervisor (shoutout Megan Garzaglass woohoo you’re amazing!) encourages me to no end. She likes to remind me about that popular story about how the honey bee aerodynamically should not be able to fly. It does anyway because it doesn’t care about what humans deem impossible. Apparently, some researchers say that this is a myth. They claim honeybees simply fly differently than other insects, flapping their wings back and forth instead of up and down. I think this makes it even more powerful, though, also somewhat proving it true. The honeybee works with what it has, because that’s all […]

Redefining the Practice of Patience

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | December 6, 2019
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My sweet Izzy (my second oldest dog) doesn’t seem to have much longer on this earth. She’s the kind of dog that stares into your soul with the biggest smile and a constant tail wag, looking cute no matter what she does. She’s also the kind of dog to literally eat your homework, eat corners off of Christmas present boxes, eat remote controls, nudge the pantry open and rip open everything she can knock down with her nose…true stories. Understandably, it leads to a ton of frustration and the occasional wanting-to-scream kind of anger, which accomplished nothing. Patience: I’m not […]

Why “Thankful Season” Should Last All Year Long in Your Relationship: Part 2

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | November 26, 2019
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I recently posted “Part 1” exploring why you should practice gratitude every day, every moment – not just on Thanksgiving. Here are some signs you need to make gratitude a habit –  You can more easily recall the things your partner has done that upset you than the things your partner does that you appreciate. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again – our brains are wired for survival, NOT for happiness. Holding onto the things that your partner has done that have hurt you may be a protective measure. Recognizing negative or toxic patterns isn’t a bad […]

Kindness Always Wins

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | November 26, 2019
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Do Things For People Not Because of Who They Are or What They Do In Return, But Because of Who You Are – Harold S. Kushner   Being kind not only has a direct effect on others, but it has a positive impact on you as well. Everybody can use a little bit of kindness in their life, and with World Kindness Day just passing on November 13th, it is about time to start spreading the love. Kindness starts with you and with kindness quotes, it’s easy to spread a little love. Of course, being kind is pretty self-explanatory, but […]

Ways to Deepen Your Relationship Part 2

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | November 26, 2019
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It is amazing how a couple can go from a loving, respectful, deep connection with their partner to living like two strangers in the same house.  Is this what has happened in your relationship? Do you want to have a deeper connection with your partner? Read the tips below to begin your journey… Prioritize an End of Day Conversation After a long day away from each other, make an effort to reconnect.  Of course, life gets busy and people travel, making it impossible to always talk face to face.  Even if your conversation is over the phone or through a […]

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