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Can Kids Learn Mindfulness? 6 tips on how to do just that!

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | May 4, 2020
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In simple terms, mindfulness is being focused on the present moment and yes, kids can learn how to implement mindfulness into their daily lives.  Mindfulness is a learned skill that can be taught.  Parents can educate children on what mindfulness is and what it looks like by speaking about it as well as modeling mindfulness for their children.  Practicing mindfulness reduces stress, improves emotional awareness, and facilitates the ability to be present and enjoy the moment.   If you would like to help your child achieve mindfulness, take a look at the suggestions below to get started. Morning Mindfulness Mornings can […]

How Internal Dialogue Influences Your Daily Life

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | May 4, 2020
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Studies show that we have an average of around 50,000 thoughts per day. Wow, we really are in constant dialogue with ourselves. Those thoughts can be positive, negative, or neutral. Many, if not most of those thoughts go unnoticed. As we drift along in our busy lives, we certainly are not consciously aware of every single thought. Think about this… during times when life seems to slow down a bit, have you noticed that you are more aware of your thought process? We can create that awareness. We do have that ability. Becoming more aware of our thoughts increase our […]

How To: Use DBT Skill: DEAR MAN to Communicate Effectively

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | April 13, 2020
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Uncomfortable emotions and/or a general lack of skill to put thoughts and feelings into perspective- let alone words- often get in the way of communicating effectively. DBT Skill: DEAR MAN teaches how to communicate effectively. These skills may be used to communicate wants/needs, as well as set boundaries to safeguard relationships.  As you practice implementing these skills, you will feel better prepared to navigate difficult situations and create positive outcomes through communication that is effective and goal-directed.  DEAR MAN:  DEAR (reminds us of what to say) MAN (reminds of how to say)   Describe- Describe the situation/request in the simplest […]

How to: Effectively handle crisis situations using Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Skills

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | April 13, 2020
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So you just discovered your spouse is having an affair. The doctor just disclosed a diagnosis of a serious medical condition you thought was just a cold. Your life has been turned upside down within seconds and you don’t know what to say, think, or do. A crisis situation is considered any major life event which occurs and overwhelms your mind and body’s ability to cope in a healthy manner. A crisis situation can often trigger shock, denial, anger, or any other intense emotional experiences which you may not be equipped to cope with.    Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) is […]

How to Love Yourself (when struggling with mental illness)

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | April 13, 2020
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 As children we are taught how to be kind to others, respect others, love others. However, very rarely are we taught how to be kind to ourselves, respect ourselves, love ourselves. When life gets tough, it is easy to be harsh with ourselves. However, it takes an act of courage to love yourself. Struggling with mental illness can be a destructive process. We pick ourselves apart, judge ourselves, over-analyze every move we make and word we speak. But if you look beneath the surface, you will find there is beauty in your struggle. Destruction breeds creation. The purpose of your […]

Ways for Parents to Decrease Stress and Increase Positivity Amidst the Chaos of Covid-19

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | April 13, 2020
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Attention all parents!  Feeling stressed during this difficult time?  The struggle is real!  You are not alone.  Here are 5 things to consider that will keep you on the path to a healthier, happier experience as you journey through this time filled with the stressors of COVID-19.   Don’t Forget About You When we think of self-care, the most obvious thing to consider is if you are eating right, exercising, and getting enough sleep.  Although this is very important to overall self-care, there are several other areas of your life to consider as well.  Additional things to consider would be […]

A Deeper Look Into Grief and Loss

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | March 24, 2020
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The concept of grief is often associated closely with death/loss of a loved one. However, grief can occur as a result of any kind of loss. Other types of loss can be: loss of a close friendship, loss of a pet, loss of a pregnancy, loss of health, loss of financial security/job, retirement, moving to a new state, letting go of a long-held dream, a break up/divorce, etc. Loss is an inevitable part of life, and grief is a natural part of the healing process. The grieving process is not linear, and looks different for various cultures, communities, family systems, […]

How Radical Acceptance (and not Approval) Will Help You Get Through It

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | March 24, 2020
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I often hear clients tell me that they can’t accept it – that if they accept it, they feel like they’re approving of it; they feel like approval for a traumatic or bad situation is an injustice. This is particularly true for the clients I see that have dealt with sexual assault or traumatic loss. They become stuck in their pain with this notion that they have to remain underwater, unable to breathe – that holding their breath honors what they lost. Raising your head above water and letting out that exhale, though, doesn’t have to mean that you’re leaving […]

How To: Use DBT Skill DEARMAN to Communicate Effectively

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | March 5, 2020
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Uncomfortable emotions and/or a general lack of skill to put thoughts and feelings into perspective- let alone words- often get in the way of communicating effectively. Not having the skills to communicate your wants/needs and set boundaries can leave you at increased risk for depression and anxiety, negatively impact your self-esteem, and degrade the quality of your relationships. Additionally, many of us struggle with simply saying “no” because you have been a “yes” person for so long and feel guilty about letting others down. Or maybe, hearing “no” or the possibility of hearing “no” stirs feelings of anxiety, disappointment, or […]

How to Be a Supportive Spouse When Your Partner is Sick

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | March 3, 2020
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The sniffles start, then comes the sneezing, and then the fever. The head fog and body aches follow shortly behind. You wash your hands a little bit longer than usual, noticing the quick onset of your partner’s sickness. Whether it’s a cold, the flu, strep throat, or anything else that would knock you out of work for a couple of days, you want NO PART in getting what they have, right?! It’s easy to put some distance between yourself and your spouse in an effort to stay healthy, but you’re also supposed to be their rock – in sickness and […]

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