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How to: Effectively handle crisis situations using Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Skills

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | April 13, 2020
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So you just discovered your spouse is having an affair. The doctor just disclosed a diagnosis of a serious medical condition you thought was just a cold. Your life has been turned upside down within seconds and you don’t know what to say, think, or do. A crisis situation is considered any major life event which occurs and overwhelms your mind and body’s ability to cope in a healthy manner. A crisis situation can often trigger shock, denial, anger, or any other intense emotional experiences which you may not be equipped to cope with.    Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) is […]

How to Love Yourself (when struggling with mental illness)

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | April 13, 2020
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 As children we are taught how to be kind to others, respect others, love others. However, very rarely are we taught how to be kind to ourselves, respect ourselves, love ourselves. When life gets tough, it is easy to be harsh with ourselves. However, it takes an act of courage to love yourself. Struggling with mental illness can be a destructive process. We pick ourselves apart, judge ourselves, over-analyze every move we make and word we speak. But if you look beneath the surface, you will find there is beauty in your struggle. Destruction breeds creation. The purpose of your […]

A Deeper Look Into Grief and Loss

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | March 24, 2020
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The concept of grief is often associated closely with death/loss of a loved one. However, grief can occur as a result of any kind of loss. Other types of loss can be: loss of a close friendship, loss of a pet, loss of a pregnancy, loss of health, loss of financial security/job, retirement, moving to a new state, letting go of a long-held dream, a break up/divorce, etc. Loss is an inevitable part of life, and grief is a natural part of the healing process. The grieving process is not linear, and looks different for various cultures, communities, family systems, […]

How Radical Acceptance (and not Approval) Will Help You Get Through It

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | March 24, 2020
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I often hear clients tell me that they can’t accept it – that if they accept it, they feel like they’re approving of it; they feel like approval for a traumatic or bad situation is an injustice. This is particularly true for the clients I see that have dealt with sexual assault or traumatic loss. They become stuck in their pain with this notion that they have to remain underwater, unable to breathe – that holding their breath honors what they lost. Raising your head above water and letting out that exhale, though, doesn’t have to mean that you’re leaving […]

How To: Use DBT Skill DEARMAN to Communicate Effectively

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | March 5, 2020
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Uncomfortable emotions and/or a general lack of skill to put thoughts and feelings into perspective- let alone words- often get in the way of communicating effectively. Not having the skills to communicate your wants/needs and set boundaries can leave you at increased risk for depression and anxiety, negatively impact your self-esteem, and degrade the quality of your relationships. Additionally, many of us struggle with simply saying “no” because you have been a “yes” person for so long and feel guilty about letting others down. Or maybe, hearing “no” or the possibility of hearing “no” stirs feelings of anxiety, disappointment, or […]

How to Be a Supportive Spouse When Your Partner is Sick

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | March 3, 2020
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The sniffles start, then comes the sneezing, and then the fever. The head fog and body aches follow shortly behind. You wash your hands a little bit longer than usual, noticing the quick onset of your partner’s sickness. Whether it’s a cold, the flu, strep throat, or anything else that would knock you out of work for a couple of days, you want NO PART in getting what they have, right?! It’s easy to put some distance between yourself and your spouse in an effort to stay healthy, but you’re also supposed to be their rock – in sickness and […]

Crisis Situations & Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Skills

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | February 28, 2020
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So you just discovered your spouse is having an affair. The doctor just disclosed a diagnosis of a serious medical condition you thought was just a cold. Your life has been turned upside down within seconds and you don’t know what to say, think, or do. A crisis situation is considered any major life event which occurs and overwhelms your mind and body’s ability to cope in a healthy manner. A crisis situation can often trigger shock, denial, anger, or any other intense emotional experiences which you may not be equipped to cope with.  Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) is an […]

How to Talk to Someone That is Grieving

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | February 11, 2020
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Death and loss are inevitable. They’re the most sure things about life. For some reason, though, we can get weird around the topic of death. Society has a few blanket statements to say, but are those actually helpful? Some of those well intended but ignorant things can be pretty damaging. Grief is a confusing emotion. People walk around someone grieving as if they’re on egg shells. Being real and genuine is much more effective. Here’s a list of what not to say and what to say to someone that’s grieving.  What Not to Say They’re in a better place. This […]

How to Love Yourself (When Struggling with Mental Illness)

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | February 11, 2020
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 As children we are taught how to be kind to others, respect others, love others. However, very rarely are we taught how to be kind to ourselves, respect ourselves, love ourselves. When life gets tough, it is easy to be harsh with ourselves. However, it takes an act of courage to love yourself. Struggling with mental illness can be a destructive process. We pick ourselves apart, judge ourselves, over-analyze every move we make and word we speak. But if you look beneath the surface, you will find there is beauty in your struggle. Destruction breeds creation. The purpose of your […]

A Letter to My Clients That Are Mothers

By Amy Wine Counseling Center | February 11, 2020
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“Many believe parenting is about controlling children’s behavior and training them to act like adults. I believe that parenting is about controlling my own behavior and acting like an adult myself. Children learn what they live and live what they learn.” – L.R. Knost Safe Sanctuary Your stories have filled the therapy room with tears, anxiety, and anger as you bravely enter into vulnerability sitting on the couch. It is such a privilege to sit on the other side of you while you navigate some of the most important relationship work you will ever do.  Women come in exhausted from […]

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