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“It’s Not If, It’s When” – Managing Anxiety for Parents of Kids with Chronic Illnesses

By Alyssa Webb-McCune | November 26, 2019
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You’re not worried if the bridge is going to collapse while driving.  You’re not losing sleep about if all the pillows are lined up straight downstairs on the couch.  You’re not worried about catching a life threatening illness from using a public washroom. You’re worried when your next hospital trip is going to be.  You’re wondering how many more Christmases you will have with your child. You’re losing sleep waiting to see if insurance will approve all the needed medication and services your child needs to survive.    Most books and speakers on anxiety will tell you the majority of […]

“How’s Your Day Going?” – How to Connect with your Partner

By Alyssa Webb-McCune | November 12, 2019
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Typical Email Exchange: “How’s your day going love?”  “It’s going, you?”  “Same, I miss you.”  “Miss you too, what are dinner plans?”  The above is pretty much a copy/paste from regular interactions with my spouse. Nothing negative, and it helps me feel connected, but I know that I sometimes miss things that happen because of how busy our lives are. It seems that the more things happen, the less we talk about.  Career Driven Partners: If you break down the hours of the day, most of us spend the majority of our time either at work or, if you are […]

Turning Our “Yes” Into a “Hell, Yes” by Saying it Less Often

By Alyssa Webb-McCune | November 12, 2019
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We are getting into holiday season! Enter in the excited butterflies and overall groans as we wince under the weight of additional responsibilities. Kids activities, spouse holiday parties, crunching more work into less hours, combine all of that and our plates get full to overflowing and not just at Thanksgiving. We stretch ourselves thin trying to do it all, and sometimes ending up not doing any of it to the fullest extent where we feel satisfied. We feel disappointed and let down in ourselves, so we try even harder, and the vicious cycle continues. How do we get off this […]

Self Care in 5 Minutes or Less for the Busy Mom

By Alyssa Webb-McCune | November 12, 2019
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When it came time to write this article, my partner asked me what felt alive for me in life at the moment. My response? “Sleep!” Sleep and other forms of self care can be extremely difficult and feel impossible to achieve sometimes, especially as a parent. We don’t have the luxury of sleeping in, or changing plans last minute because we just need an easy day to ourselves. We hear the phrases of “Take care of yourself! “Remember your self care” “Take a you day!” all the time, but in reality, it’s not always that easy to accomplish. There is […]

Scared Silent – Breaking the Stigma Around Suicidal Ideation

By Alyssa Webb-McCune | September 9, 2019
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Scared Silent - Breaking the Stigma Around Suicidal Ideation

Phrases I Have Heard “Please don’t call the hospital.”  “Don’t be scared, it’s not that bad.”  “Don’t freak out.”  “I don’t know, I don’t want you to panic or worry.” “I don’t know what you’re going to do so I don’t know how much I want to tell you.”  *sigh of relief* “…. Yes.”  All of these above statements are things clients have said to me in response to my question “Have you recently had thoughts about killing yourself?” That sigh of relief though in that last statement happens almost every single time eventually in the conversation. For someone to […]

Suicide Preparations, A Calm Before the Storm

By Alyssa Webb-McCune | August 22, 2019
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The Time Between Preparations to end your life. It’s a stage that isn’t often talked about. We discuss the thoughts leading up to it, and then we discuss the actions of the suicide itself, but what about the in between when the person has made the decision but the date hasn’t yet come? The deceiving thing for the person experiencing it, is that is can be extremely calming. Comforting. Soothing. A wave of peace like they are making the right decision. It might be only thing that calms their panicked, angry mind. Suddenly, everything feels like it clicks in place […]

So We Got the Diagnosis of Autism…. Now What?

By Alyssa Webb-McCune | August 6, 2019
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Diagnosis of Autism

You’ve known something was different about your child for a while. Not necessarily bad or wrong, just… different. Maybe they weren’t making eye contact? Possibly they missed several developmental milestones?  Or, maybe they insist on only independent play; whatever the case was something led you to go to a specialist, a doctor, and now you have a piece of paper that says your child has a diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder. They may or may not have told or given you anything else beyond that. So… now what?  Every Child is Different Recognize that every child is different. The thing […]

How to Support Someone Going Through An Emotionally Difficult Time: Tea and Honey – Part Two

By Alyssa Webb-McCune | July 23, 2019
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“I don’t feel very much like Pooh today,” said Pooh. “There, there,” said Piglet. “I’ll bring you tea and honey until you do.”   Loving someone comes with high and low days. Loving someone with a chronic condition or someone going through an extended difficult time can come with its own set of highs and lows. As the support person, it can feel overwhelming, and feel like constantly providing “tea and honey” just isn’t cutting it anymore. What do you do when the days stretch into weeks which stretch into months and possibly years? How you keep your own head […]

How to Support Someone Going through An Emotionally Difficult Time – Part One

By Alyssa Webb-McCune | July 9, 2019
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Tea and Honey “I don’t feel very much like Pooh today,” said Pooh. “There, there,” said Piglet. “I’ll bring you tea and honey until you do. Which one do you relate the most to? For me, it fluctuates. Sometimes I’m piglet, being the person offering the support. Sometimes I’m Pooh, when I’m just feeling down and not like myself at all. In both roles, it’s important to remember that difficult times happen. It’s ok to be down and ok to be sad. If you’re piglet though, it can feel difficult to watch someone you love go through a difficult time. […]

When You Just Can’t Figure Out The Right Words: Sand Tray Therapy

By Alyssa Webb-McCune | June 24, 2019
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Ever have those moments where you know something is bothering you, but you can’t quite place your finger on what it is exactly? Do you know general words to describe your situation, but then just draw a blank? Believe it or not, your therapist is not a mind reader. No one can tell you the exact way you are feeling. Luckily, there are some tools to help figure that out! One of those tools is sand tray therapy. Feedback from this therapy has been phenomenal! I personally have used it with individuals who have been through trauma, abuse, or difficult […]

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